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Old 01-24-2018, 10:00 AM
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I really like to see what others have made or are working on - especially if there are pets or recipients or the maker with the quilt - they become like family! I get to see new color combinations, fabrics I've never seen, patterns I want to make and quilting I'd like to learn how to do. Each quilt is new and unique to me and I love seeing them all.
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Old 01-24-2018, 10:10 AM
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Originally Posted by Macybaby View Post
I try to be realistic about my quilts, and only if I pay attention to what I do and don't like about it, can I make improvments and changes for the next one.

I do the same thing with my baking - I want honest answers to "what do you think?" because I'm not asking to get a "feel good" answer, I want a real answer so I can make adjustments.

I feel that if someone asks for opinions, we should give honest ones. If someone just shows a picture to share and does not ask for opinions, then I'll keep them to myself.
I totally agree with Cathy. I try to improve my work by noting the errors and areas that could be better. Otherwise, I would never get any better and I really do like to learn and improve my work. I also appreciate and honest opinion when I ask for it.
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Old 01-24-2018, 10:49 AM
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I guess I am different. I don't care if I have mistakes in my quilting but I do try to improve the next time. I would never call out a mistake on anyone's quilt, the maker knows so why point it out? Same as someone asking does this outfit make me look fat? The answer is if you are fat you are fat regardless what you wear. But I would never say that to anyone even if asked.
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Old 01-24-2018, 11:04 AM
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Onebyone, I like your style! I think for some (me too!), it's a matter of pride. I'm pointing out the mistake as if to say, "I know it's there already." Like beating someone to it... It takes a lot of guts for most people to accept a critique. I personally want to know how I can improve. Some people can point out a mistake and it grates on you, whereas another is so gracious and helps you figure out how to fix it that it doesn't feel like criticism at all. Wish we could all learn to be gracious and helpful and willing to accept help.
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Old 01-24-2018, 11:12 AM
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Wow, I haven’t been on here for such a long time. Other day made a small
quilt. If I post a pic and critique its because I want to share my feelings about
my work whether it be design, color or sewing.
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Old 01-24-2018, 11:16 AM
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if i ask "how can i fix/ change this?"

i really do want suggestions,

if it bothering me enough to ask.

i do not "get" the " no one will notice" response. i consider myself a "somebody" - and i noticed.

now, on the other hand, if it is "finished" and it would be difficult to fix/ change - then i don't want/need any negative comments.
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Old 01-24-2018, 12:21 PM
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Onebyone's comments made me laugh out loud!!!!!!!!!!!!!

As to the original post, yes, sometimes I do it too. But not always. I'm not the least bit perfectionistic about anything other than my quilting. I should be used to it since I always have at least, at least one thing wrong with a finished project. I find that many times things that bug me are forgotten when it's done and being used or displayed.
A funny- I stitched a beautiful cross-stitch sampler way back in 1992. I love it. Well, I was dusting it one day recently and saw a stitch that was wrong. It took 25 years but I found it lol
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Old 01-24-2018, 12:55 PM
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Originally Posted by Jane Quilter View Post
It is sometimes encouraging to know that you can do many steps imperfectly and the quilt still turns out wonderful.
I agree - I am often surprised at how great my quilts turn out when there are honestly quite some problems with them that I didn't solve well. I think it's in the name of honesty and humility when we discuss both the "good" and the "bad" of our completed work. It helps us figure out what we've mastered (at least in that quilt) and what we need to pay more attention to.
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Old 01-24-2018, 01:52 PM
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For me, if I show a photo asking for specific suggestions on what to fix/add/take away, I want them. I want them before I continue to invest time and money. I may be asking when I'm tired of looking at the thing and need fresh eyes to offer input, and certainly want obvious mistakes pointed out if I show an unquilted top. Tell me before it's too late,please! If I don't ask, I'm probably aware of it, but you can still ask me nicely, "Did you intend to have such-an-such a block turned that way?" or something akin to it. It's like asking "Do I have broccoli in my teeth?" You sure hope you get an honest answer before you go to the DMV for your new license photo.

In this arena, where we are all quilters, we have "eyes" that generally know what to look for. So we spot our mistakes. I think it's okay to point them out to others. The quilt I most recently made (log cabin quilt for my sister) I had plenty of minor flaws in it (I fixed the major ones that made me mad as a hornet). But that was in NOvember and she loved it on first sight, unbound, on second sight, bound, and every time since. SHe texted me again just this week and said, "You really nailed it in the details of this quilt. I keep discovering all the ways you know me and what I what I love and you put them on the quilt." She does not notice mistakes (she's not a quilter so doesn't have critical eyes for stitching) and I won't point them out. I think when you point out mistakes to people who are clueless about your craft, it comes across as fishing for a compliment. I think on this board, we can give lavish compliments, knowing the work and love that goes into our craft, and we can offer (when asked ) constructive feedback.
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Old 01-24-2018, 03:27 PM
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Originally Posted by Onebyone View Post
I never apologize for any of my quilts, good or bad. I never point out the oops in my quilts to others. One old biddy guild member pointed out to everyone I had a few points cut off in a star block and said it's not right. By the next meeting I had made another smaller quilt with every point cut off and showed it Show and Tell. I told them the name of the quilt was It's Not Right. I thought a few members were going to bust a gut laughing. Now when someone shows a quilt with mistakes they will say I have a It's Not Right quilt.
Love this !! Lol! OMGoodness....

There are always mistakes in each quilt I make. I'm beyond seeking perfection but I always do the best I can. I wasn't this way, initially, because I am a perfectionist at heart and I gave no quarter for learning curve. Now, I don't sweat it. Each mistake is an oportunity to grow and improve in my craft. If I find fault in my finished product, I'mmusualy the only who does.
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