Your stash is part of your estate!
03-27-2011, 08:20 AM
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My attorney suggested that we draw up a separate sheet of paper with bequests that are not included in the wills. That way you can change that info without redrawing wills. It is to be left with the wills, but you can specify individual bequests or I suppose, even blanket beguests...all my quilting supplies go to whoever. We are in the process of signing new wills...got to figure out where the quilting stuff belongs. No kids and niece and nephews not really interested.
03-27-2011, 09:20 AM
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Sometimes as I make an item, one of my daughters will see it and say "Dibs" meaning that when I am gone it will be hers. Both daughters will want to have my stash as well as the sewing machine and embroidery machine. So I am going to let them sort it out. But, I know that they won't go to the curb or to strangers.
03-27-2011, 09:22 AM
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Originally Posted by jillaine
I have been so astounded by the wonderful collections so many of you have-- huge "stashes" of amazing fabrics, as well as quilts-- finished or not-- either made by you or others, as well as any number of quilting-related items.
We've also read posts on this board about amazing findings at estate sales and yard sales and in Goodwill and thrift stores. And many of us have commented on the apparent ignorance some people have towards the value of the stashes left behind by family and friends.
What do YOU want to happen to your stash/collection after you're gone? Is it part of your estate? Have you accounted for it in your will? If you don't have a will, or haven't accounted for it in your will, have you otherwise communicated to your family what you want done with it?
This is important to me because I am also a family historian. I have a cousin (I can't believe I'm related to him...) who when his parents died, basically put everything out on the curb in hefty bags for the trash people to pick up. Everything that wasn't large furniture. Everything. We lived across the country from each other then, and I didn't learn about his actions until long after they occurred. But I was appalled.
We can't control much once we've died, but we can make our wishes known.
Have you?
We've also read posts on this board about amazing findings at estate sales and yard sales and in Goodwill and thrift stores. And many of us have commented on the apparent ignorance some people have towards the value of the stashes left behind by family and friends.
What do YOU want to happen to your stash/collection after you're gone? Is it part of your estate? Have you accounted for it in your will? If you don't have a will, or haven't accounted for it in your will, have you otherwise communicated to your family what you want done with it?
This is important to me because I am also a family historian. I have a cousin (I can't believe I'm related to him...) who when his parents died, basically put everything out on the curb in hefty bags for the trash people to pick up. Everything that wasn't large furniture. Everything. We lived across the country from each other then, and I didn't learn about his actions until long after they occurred. But I was appalled.
We can't control much once we've died, but we can make our wishes known.
Have you?
I know he had to have destroyed a few thousand dollars worth of goodies that someone would have loved. I managed to grab one lunch box, some marbles, a couple toys and a game or two. Almost got hurt doing it though. And was FORCED to throw a lifetime collection of silk ties in a burn barrel. THREATENED WITHIN AN INCH OF MY LIFE IN FACT
SO---my will says my older DD gets first dibs, my sis in law gets second dibs, then the stuff goes to church for anyone there and then to whereever!
My hubby will drop everything I own into a burn barrel if one of the gals in the family doesn't stop him. DESPITE THE WILL!
03-27-2011, 09:24 AM
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Originally Posted by greenini
My attorney suggested that we draw up a separate sheet of paper with bequests that are not included in the wills. That way you can change that info without redrawing wills. It is to be left with the wills, but you can specify individual bequests or I suppose, even blanket beguests...all my quilting supplies go to whoever. We are in the process of signing new wills...got to figure out where the quilting stuff belongs. No kids and niece and nephews not really interested.
03-27-2011, 09:28 AM
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Originally Posted by MTS
There is a Quilter's Will form out there (too early to search) where you can appoint your "Executor" and designate your wishes for the dispersal of your stash. While it's legal standing is questionable :wink: , I'm sure the family will respect your wishes.
I think the most important part is for them to realize it has some value and they just don't toss it out as a bunch of rags.
My friend actually included it when she recently redid her real legal papers, and I thought it was such a hoot I did it as well when I did mine a bit later. Her husband then pointed out the very possible likelihood that we'd both meet our ends on one of our quilting expeditions, and then he'd STILL be stuck with the fabric as I wouldn't be around to GET IT OUT OF HIS HOUSE (his emphasis). :wink:
Found it:
http://quiltville.com/quilterswill.shtml
I think the most important part is for them to realize it has some value and they just don't toss it out as a bunch of rags.
My friend actually included it when she recently redid her real legal papers, and I thought it was such a hoot I did it as well when I did mine a bit later. Her husband then pointed out the very possible likelihood that we'd both meet our ends on one of our quilting expeditions, and then he'd STILL be stuck with the fabric as I wouldn't be around to GET IT OUT OF HIS HOUSE (his emphasis). :wink:
Found it:
http://quiltville.com/quilterswill.shtml
03-27-2011, 09:30 AM
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I would like to be all rolled up in my fabrics and take them with me! Seriously, I have a friend that quilts, she gets first choice, the rest can go to someone who makes Charity quilts. And so it is written in my will.
03-27-2011, 09:34 AM
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Originally Posted by MTS
There is a Quilter's Will form out there (too early to search) where you can appoint your "Executor" and designate your wishes for the dispersal of your stash. While it's legal standing is questionable :wink: , I'm sure the family will respect your wishes.
I think the most important part is for them to realize it has some value and they just don't toss it out as a bunch of rags.
My friend actually included it when she recently redid her real legal papers, and I thought it was such a hoot I did it as well when I did mine a bit later. Her husband then pointed out the very possible likelihood that we'd both meet our ends on one of our quilting expeditions, and then he'd STILL be stuck with the fabric as I wouldn't be around to GET IT OUT OF HIS HOUSE (his emphasis). :wink:
Found it:
http://quiltville.com/quilterswill.shtml
I think the most important part is for them to realize it has some value and they just don't toss it out as a bunch of rags.
My friend actually included it when she recently redid her real legal papers, and I thought it was such a hoot I did it as well when I did mine a bit later. Her husband then pointed out the very possible likelihood that we'd both meet our ends on one of our quilting expeditions, and then he'd STILL be stuck with the fabric as I wouldn't be around to GET IT OUT OF HIS HOUSE (his emphasis). :wink:
Found it:
http://quiltville.com/quilterswill.shtml
FAIR WARNING THOUGH My hubby will be manning the burn barrel instead of attending my funeral.
One thing he has overlooked though, my burial spot is just up the road. There is a clear path of vision between where my headstone is and my house.
AND I WILL HAUNT HIM!
03-27-2011, 09:37 AM
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Originally Posted by GrannieAnnie
My hubby will drop everything I own into a burn barrel if one of the gals in the family doesn't stop him. DESPITE THE WILL!
You might want to start giving your stuff away BEFORE you go.
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