terriamn

Bizarre AM. First let me say normally I live a very quiet life. Doorbell rings at 6:10 this morning, dh answers and charges upstairs Terri wake up their is a policeman at door for you. Ha what, scared me instantly awake. Thought OMGG what happened to one of my kids. Not my kids thankfully. He informed me my ex dh From 36 years ago yes from 36 years ago had committed suicide and my kids were his next of kin and would I notify them and ask one to call the coroners office. Called my 4 kid's and ex SIL. Even though he had abandoned us I'm proud to say my kid's are stepping up to the plate and taking care of his arrangements. Don't know how police linked him to me, they said he did leave a note so who knows maybe he put my address on it.

sewbizgirl

Oh my, Terri... that is a pretty unsettling start to the day. I'm very sorry for your kids.

ibex94

Terriamn, I am so sorry! That is too scary all around. So much is falling on you lately... Good thing you are a tough woman! Hugs and prayers!

Janice McC

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joanelizbay

Did he live in the same town Terri?? My ex lives in California..havent seen him since 1988.. Doesnt know about his 2 grandsons....I got a call the other day from a LA County police wanting to know if I was David Baysingers sister.. I laughed and said no but I was married to him. He has been sick and wanting to come back to Missouri. I asked the police how they got my phone number and his remark was "we are the police we have access to things like that". (mines a cell phone). I gave the info to my son who hasnt seen him since 1988 when he was 6...leaving it up to him what to do. He chose not to have any contact with him..thats a lot of years of no contact but an occasional letter over the years...I figured at 33 hes old enough to make the decision himself..Im feeling he made the right one!

terriamn

Yes we lived in same city but only corresponded a few times in the last 30 years. Unfortunately he inherited some really bad genes

sewbizgirl

That's really sad too, Joan. I think your son made the right decision. My hubby and his next younger sister had nothing to do with their biological dad. He was abusive to their mother and she divorced him when they were very small. DH once went to meet him when he was a teenager, but I think he was very disappointed. His sister never wanted to know him or have anything to do with him. It's sad when men don't realize what they have in their children and families. Without them, they have nothing. My husband would never have left his children for anything... so glad he is nothing like his real dad.

joanelizbay

I agree but its not only men that do it. My sons "girlfriend" gave him custody of Conner when he was 2. She sees him every other weekend but thats it and its hard on him because of the difference in households...Im glad hes been with David for past 10 years full time... My daughter left her 3 kids and husband to move to Kansas. My great grandson had so many issues I would have to go get him at school almost every day. He was 6..girls were 10 and 12...She came and got Josh but the girls havent seen her but a couple of times since 1998...they are 29 and 31 now and dont have contact with her or Josh...its sad...I am SO thankful for my family when I was growing up..we were close it was a different time...so glad I grew up in the 60's....I feel like its a whole different world the grandkids are going to have to grow up in...sorry...not sure why im so "down' tonight but glad you all are here to understand!! Thanks friends!!

Janice McC

Aprilites, most of you should be receiving your tracking numbers this morning directly from USPS. Please look over the address to make sure it is correct. Jaba and Francie, yours are going to your summer home and TG, yours is going to Mom's. If there are any problems, let me know. Mollymunchkin and Marija, I will email you your tracking numbers later this morning.

Libster

Received my tracking number, now to stalk my mail lady!