Now they decide not to exchange Christmas gifts....
12-08-2010, 07:56 AM
#191
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Have a lot of fun with the crazy game. Christmas shouldn't make anyone unhappy. Give your gifts another day and they will be appreciated because you made them and because they were made with love just for that one special person.
12-09-2010, 06:14 AM
#192
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Originally Posted by mmonohon
Thanks to all for letting me vent and for your points of view, it is always nice to see things from all sides. You are all wonderful.
This is what I think will happen:
1. I enjoyed making the gifts because I love each one of them (even if their behavior doesn't always deserve it --but that is life and family)
2. I will give them their presents (for dh, my sons and my benefit and pleasure)
3. We will participate in the white elephant to be good sports.
4. I will have a great Christmas.
I wish I could blame their behavior on money issues but can't. Dh has talked to his family many times on their behaviors to our family (and to others relatives, community and neighbors) to no avail. I keep telling myself that I knew better (but I guess I always hope for the best in people --I am still a little naive.)
Next year, I will do something small the wee little ones and concentrate on charities and my beautiful boys and the greatest dh ever.
This is what I think will happen:
1. I enjoyed making the gifts because I love each one of them (even if their behavior doesn't always deserve it --but that is life and family)
2. I will give them their presents (for dh, my sons and my benefit and pleasure)
3. We will participate in the white elephant to be good sports.
4. I will have a great Christmas.
I wish I could blame their behavior on money issues but can't. Dh has talked to his family many times on their behaviors to our family (and to others relatives, community and neighbors) to no avail. I keep telling myself that I knew better (but I guess I always hope for the best in people --I am still a little naive.)
Next year, I will do something small the wee little ones and concentrate on charities and my beautiful boys and the greatest dh ever.
I hear you though on continuing to hope for an improvement when you just know there is not going to be one- very painful- been there, done that!
I want to know what your SIL says when she gets her gift- just call me BAD!
12-09-2010, 06:42 AM
#193
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I think you should still give the gifts to the kids, it is not their fault your family members decided to change the set up. Maybe you can make it a point to tell them you already made gifts for everyone.
12-09-2010, 07:22 AM
#194
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I would give them anyways especially since they are personalized. Wouldn't make a big deal about it. The people who are truly adults about all this will appreciate them. Don't worry about the ones who are inconsiderate. Enjoy your Christmas and what you have made.
12-10-2010, 12:17 PM
#195
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Originally Posted by amma
I would go ahead and give the gifts as planned.
Find a white elephant gift and join in on the fun.
Maybe hand them the gifts as you are all leaving, and wish them a heartfelt Merry Christmas. Don't let their inconsideration bother you, or your Christmas spirit :wink: :D:D:D
Find a white elephant gift and join in on the fun.
Maybe hand them the gifts as you are all leaving, and wish them a heartfelt Merry Christmas. Don't let their inconsideration bother you, or your Christmas spirit :wink: :D:D:D
12-14-2010, 10:42 AM
#196
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Originally Posted by mmonohon
Originally Posted by mary quite contrary
It sounds to me like you are ready for your own craft sale. You have a whole booth ready to sell. Buy yourself something nice!!!
12-14-2010, 12:51 PM
#197
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Originally Posted by Sadiemae
I may be strange, but I would give the gifts anyway.
12-18-2010, 06:25 PM
#198
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Update: A few days ago my mil called and cancelled Christmas due to my fil health and the two sils decided that their families are too busy to get together anywhere else. My dh and I will spend this week dropping off the Christmas gifts to all (unannounced arrivals). I am sorry that my fil health is so bad to get together but it is sad that the rest of the family doesn't have time to get together. (i feel that my fil will not be around much longer :( due to his health) I thought holidays were meant to spend with family and to celebrate Jesus' birth. Somewhere this has been lost on too many of my dh's side. I still love my in-laws (quirks and attitudes and all) and my inner "Santa" wants them to enjoy their gifts and the holidays.
12-18-2010, 06:39 PM
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Originally Posted by amma
I would go ahead and give the gifts as planned.
Find a white elephant gift and join in on the fun.
Maybe hand them the gifts as you are all leaving, and wish them a heartfelt Merry Christmas. Don't let their inconsideration bother you, or your Christmas spirit :wink: :D:D:D
Find a white elephant gift and join in on the fun.
Maybe hand them the gifts as you are all leaving, and wish them a heartfelt Merry Christmas. Don't let their inconsideration bother you, or your Christmas spirit :wink: :D:D:D
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