My Darling? Husband
#271
my ex husband used to get upset if I was mending or cross stitching while watching TV with him - for some reason he felt that I need to focus all my attention on him and the TV - but then how many husbands can understand multi tasking? So I kept my cross stitch and sewing hobby and got rid of him. I knew my priorities!
#272
Originally Posted by Willa
How about 3 nights out?
One night you both ignore your other "loves" and go do something like going out to eat, visiting with friends either at home or their place, go play cards, bowling, etc.
One night you do what he wants to do. If he wants to watch tv then that's what you do that night.
One night you do what you want. If you want to quilt then guess what that's what he gets to do also. Start a quilt with him from planning to sewing. Get him involved. Maybe he'll start to enjoy it too.
The other 4 nights are each your own.
One night you both ignore your other "loves" and go do something like going out to eat, visiting with friends either at home or their place, go play cards, bowling, etc.
One night you do what he wants to do. If he wants to watch tv then that's what you do that night.
One night you do what you want. If you want to quilt then guess what that's what he gets to do also. Start a quilt with him from planning to sewing. Get him involved. Maybe he'll start to enjoy it too.
The other 4 nights are each your own.
Never been married have you, Willa. Just joking. I was howling by the time I got to the end of your post. It would never happen in this house.
#273
Originally Posted by Sing
Originally Posted by diannemc
His mother read all the time...
I don't sew everyday.. As long as I am in the kitchen cooking ..or cleaning it doesn't matter if I am sitting with him or not...He just doesn't like the sewing??? But like I said if a friend of his or someone at work is having a baby he wants me to make something... Can't figure it out???
I don't sew everyday.. As long as I am in the kitchen cooking ..or cleaning it doesn't matter if I am sitting with him or not...He just doesn't like the sewing??? But like I said if a friend of his or someone at work is having a baby he wants me to make something... Can't figure it out???
Okay, having said that... I know that quilting is a hobby, so it's not specifically a love language. But, maybe if your H's love language is Quality Time, then spending 30 minutes with him watching TV would make him feel loved, and then he would be happy for you to spend time in your quilting cave.
Of course, he should also use your love language for you. So, he should understand that Words of Affirmation about your completed quilt makes you feel loved.
When both parties use each other's love language, every feels loved.
The only words of love my hubby want to hear are "yes, Sir!" I'm good at it, too. Of course, as soon as he's out of sight, I og back to doing my stuff.
#274
Originally Posted by DogHouseMom
Sorry to hear that Dianne. I have a theory about marriages. I think that every couple needs 3 hobbies between them. One for him. One for her. And one for both of them to enjoy together.
Try to engage him in a hobby that you can enjoy together!!
Try to engage him in a hobby that you can enjoy together!!
oh, yeah, we do that. I just love looking at tools at Sears!
NOT!
#275
Originally Posted by BettyGee
Originally Posted by missgigglewings
I use to hand quilt while my husband watched his shoot 'em ups on TV. The quilt I was hand peicing and hand quilting when he passed away is little tiny rose buds, dark green, white and deep red. It is called The Gunfight at the OK Corral quilt. It was finished 19 years after he passed away! I love it for the memories of out tv evenings.
Maybe you could pick a hand project to quilt and join him in fron of the tv on some nights?
Maybe you could pick a hand project to quilt and join him in fron of the tv on some nights?
#276
Originally Posted by Aurora
You have to feel sorry for those who only sit and watch TV. Sometimes I think they are a little jealous that we have such productive hobbies. Somedays I watch TV, knit and cook at the same time. Being able to multi-task balances our lives and temperments, which is most fortunate for those who share our space.
#277
A queston just came to mind? Was he reared to believe men ruled the roost? My MIL never had a thought of her own until after my FIL died. If she had supper done, it sat until her DH decided to eat. Her son, my hubby, is the same way. NOW I tell him the chicken is on the stove and the taters are in the microwave (sort warming oven). She never one time watched a TV show she wanted to watch. Not that bad here. One of his sisters babies him when she's around. Doing everythign for him. NOT ME!~
#278
Originally Posted by TexasSunshine
I'm also blessed in that my husband supports my quilting. He will go to quilt shows with me and helps me with things when I need it. He made me a design wall, large ironing board, put shelves together for me and fixes my machines when something go wrong I can't figure out.
Guess I need to back down a bit. Hubby bought a bunch of shelves for me a couple years ago. And a couple weeks ago, he carried stuff to the living room so I could sort it.
#279
My husband shoves me into a fabric store and says have fun!![/quote]
My hubby would take away my cash, my credit cards and my check book before I went in-------------and then would pray that I didn't run into anyone I knew that might loan me money. Not to worry--------the shoving in the door would never happen.
My hubby would take away my cash, my credit cards and my check book before I went in-------------and then would pray that I didn't run into anyone I knew that might loan me money. Not to worry--------the shoving in the door would never happen.
#280
Originally Posted by diannemc
My Darling? Husband is a TV person..He has no hobbies...Watching TV is all he does when not working...I am not!!..I love my sewing..He has always hated my sewing...
I don't know why except maybe the money it takes and the time it takes away from him...(and maybe the pins he has had to pull out of his barefoot a time or two :oops:)
Well the other day I finished a quilt and showed it to him.. He said "Thank goodness you are through".. I am sick of all this quilting..It use to be sewing now quilting... I wish you would just stop it..." I just turned and looked him square in the eyes and said.."Quilting makes me happy....and trust me....You want me to be happy..." Am I the only one here who has a hard time with a husband who doesn't understand to joy of quilting??
I don't know why except maybe the money it takes and the time it takes away from him...(and maybe the pins he has had to pull out of his barefoot a time or two :oops:)
Well the other day I finished a quilt and showed it to him.. He said "Thank goodness you are through".. I am sick of all this quilting..It use to be sewing now quilting... I wish you would just stop it..." I just turned and looked him square in the eyes and said.."Quilting makes me happy....and trust me....You want me to be happy..." Am I the only one here who has a hard time with a husband who doesn't understand to joy of quilting??
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