need advise regarding my MIL
04-01-2011, 05:52 PM
#41
Super Member
Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: Georgetown TX
Posts: 4,375
Use what you have. I care for a lady in about the same state.....she will not appreciate or understand the quilt. You will be making it more to comfort your MIL. Something small and sweet is perfect :-D
04-01-2011, 05:54 PM
#42
Junior Member
Join Date: Jan 2011
Posts: 203
Originally Posted by mimom
my MIL's mother has been put in a nursing home, so doesn't remember who I am or where she is most of the time. MIL as asked me to make a quilt for Grandma. I am quite certain she does not plan on paying me anything above the cost for this. I have a pattern picked out and the fabric requirements call for more fabric than what you need. Would it be awful of me to buy (her with me) the fabric that the pattern calls for or should I use the ones I have come up with. We are talking more than an extra yard of fabric. I have many projects planned that will be put aside so I can make Grandmas quilt right away.
04-01-2011, 05:54 PM
#43
Junior Member
Join Date: Jan 2011
Posts: 203
Originally Posted by mimom
my MIL's mother has been put in a nursing home, so doesn't remember who I am or where she is most of the time. MIL as asked me to make a quilt for Grandma. I am quite certain she does not plan on paying me anything above the cost for this. I have a pattern picked out and the fabric requirements call for more fabric than what you need. Would it be awful of me to buy (her with me) the fabric that the pattern calls for or should I use the ones I have come up with. We are talking more than an extra yard of fabric. I have many projects planned that will be put aside so I can make Grandmas quilt right away.
04-01-2011, 05:57 PM
#44
Super Member
Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: DC metro area
Posts: 1,286
Plus make it extremely washable. Even if you don't want it washed at the home it may get tossed in the wash anyway accidently. And it's usually washed in hot water and dried in an industrial dryer that is way hotter then your home dryer. I worked at a nh for several years and know for a fact that things get washed that shouldn't.
Items get lost, the nicer it is the faster it finds a new home. Especially since grandmother has dementia, she won't remember that she had it or where it went. Label it really well. I like the photo idea-people will be less likely to take it if it's really personalized.
Hey, 1 yd extra isn't that much extra. Go ahead and let your mil pay for the fabric, thread and batting. Maybe once she sees how much it will costs she'll change her mind.
Items get lost, the nicer it is the faster it finds a new home. Especially since grandmother has dementia, she won't remember that she had it or where it went. Label it really well. I like the photo idea-people will be less likely to take it if it's really personalized.
Hey, 1 yd extra isn't that much extra. Go ahead and let your mil pay for the fabric, thread and batting. Maybe once she sees how much it will costs she'll change her mind.
04-01-2011, 05:57 PM
#45
Super Member
Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: La Grande, OR
Posts: 2,457
What does your heart tell you? If G-ma probably won't remember receiving it, then I would make a twin or lap sized quilt out of blocks. No special fabrics and no special patterns. Still, put her name on the back to no mistake can be made as who it belongs to. Take a picture of her and the quilt together for documentation purposes.
04-01-2011, 05:58 PM
#46
Junior Member
Join Date: Jan 2011
Posts: 203
Originally Posted by Rebecca VLQ
I disagree. Because...
Folks that go into a nursing home generally have a shortened life expectancy. Yes, they are having a hard time taking care of themselves outside of the nursing home, but folks deteriorate even in the NICEST nursing homes because they are taken care of, rather than having something to be responsible for.
Sad to say it, whether it's a year or 10 years...your MIL's mother is dying. We're all dying in a sense, but MIL's mother is moving toward that.
MIL asked you to make a quilt for her mother. It's a way of taking care of her elders before they pass on. From a spiritual/respect kinda place...ask your Mother in Law if she would like to choose the fabrics for her mother's quilt. Tell her you can help since you have an eye for color. I bet she will at the very least appreciate the offer.
Folks that go into a nursing home generally have a shortened life expectancy. Yes, they are having a hard time taking care of themselves outside of the nursing home, but folks deteriorate even in the NICEST nursing homes because they are taken care of, rather than having something to be responsible for.
Sad to say it, whether it's a year or 10 years...your MIL's mother is dying. We're all dying in a sense, but MIL's mother is moving toward that.
MIL asked you to make a quilt for her mother. It's a way of taking care of her elders before they pass on. From a spiritual/respect kinda place...ask your Mother in Law if she would like to choose the fabrics for her mother's quilt. Tell her you can help since you have an eye for color. I bet she will at the very least appreciate the offer.
I so agree with you about people who go into a nursing home...Most of them just start going down hill...If they can live with family and be part of what is going on, or in a small assisted living where the feeling is like a home setting, they are so much better off....
04-01-2011, 06:18 PM
#48
Super Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: chesterfield, mi
Posts: 1,419
this is the fabric I am considering for Grandmas quilt, any ideas on patterns, keep in mind I dont want to spend alot of time on this as it will likely be stolen. I am thinking of doing the pattern of the second quilt but with a solid border
04-01-2011, 06:38 PM
#49
Super Member
Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: La Grande, OR
Posts: 2,457
Don't cut that gorgeous fabric! Add some borders to make it the size you want. 8-) It is beautiful as is. I would even tie it as opposed to quilting it. You could add an Attic Windows to it, leaving off the window sashing from of the top and left hand side. Use several strips of very dark and different colored fabrics on the right. Use the very lightest of those previous colors for the bottom. Make use of the back side of the darker fabrics for the bottom strips.
Frame the whole thing in one solid color (black is screaming to me right now). 8-)
Frame the whole thing in one solid color (black is screaming to me right now). 8-)
Thread
Thread Starter
Forum
Replies
Last Post
blzzrdqueen
General Chit-Chat (non-quilting talk)
17
05-06-2009 09:50 AM
