Can't finish my quilts
#61
I can relate -- For many years I couldn't seem to finish any project -- It didn't matter what it was. I wasn't that way when I was a kid. Then I figured out that it went back to my not-so-DH -- my first DH. He was super critical and nothing I did was right. So I guess that I decided that if it wasn't finished, I had a come back -- "I'm not finished with it yet"
Even tho everyone else thought what I did was great, I still had this hang-up. Now that I know why, I can finish things -- sometimes not too swiftly -- but they get done -- and I understand my "weakness"
Mim
Even tho everyone else thought what I did was great, I still had this hang-up. Now that I know why, I can finish things -- sometimes not too swiftly -- but they get done -- and I understand my "weakness"
Mim
#62
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Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Central Virginia
Posts: 202
Hi annesthreads, I just looked at the 2 whole cloth quilts. They are beautiful. Now I need to investigate what "whole cloth" quilts mean. Just hang in there and keep trying. I know I have Adult ADD b/c I get bored with one project and have to stop it for a while and go on to another. Then bored with that one and go back. It drives my SIL crazy but I have finished lots of projects here (while at dads in Indy). Still have a few more to work on but today was a rough day. My nephew was hurt about 5 am and is in the hospital waiting to see if there is a need for the neurosurgeon. So some days are just not sewing days. I really enjoy the piecing of the quilt top; love hand embroidery, paper piecing. Have tied quilts for years. Took a hand quilting class last year but, she taught without any kind of hoop. You just put it .. I am getting good at the rocking the needle but not sure if that is how I want to quiltl. so hang in there and do what you like. Enjoy. Teresa
#64
I can't believe people would say such a thing. Every quilt is beautiful and if others do not think so, that is their loss. They are the ones that are missing something, not you. Please believe that!!!!
#65
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Join Date: Oct 2011
Posts: 20
I feel your pain. I have only finished piecing two quilt tops but have many UFOs. I feel some kind of fear of finishing a project. I must admit, I am a perfectionist, and this effects me. I try to let go of this and tell myself that it is okay if it isn't perfect and that whoever recieives that quilt would love it no matter what. My sister also quilts and she can whip up a quilt and have it quilted in no time. I, too, suffer from depression. I find myself coming up with all kinds of excuses why I cannot sew. I can spend endless hours going through fabrics and patterns I have already matched up to them. I also find that I want to start a new quilt even before finishing my UFO's. I am trying very hard to choose one project and finish it. It is hard, but I feel I must prove to myself that I must try to put my fears to rest and make progress. Hopefully after I've finished one UFO, I'll get excited about finishing others.
#66
I am guilty of starting too many quilts before I finish one. I hope this is not a sickness. My intentions are to get them finished, and I do, ever so slowly. I think with me, is the wanting to make all that interest me, and cannot wait until I finish one, before I start another. This year I did finish several tops, but now I have a stack to quilt. I have a long arm, but do not enjoy that part as much. I guess there are just some things one has to push to get done. With owning a long arm it can be part of the problem. Folks are always asking me to help them. I have rescued a couple, done several for charity and so on. It is just really hard to get to mine.
#67
Sometimes an inability to complete things is because of a deep seated fear of failure, being worried about not "coming up to scratch". Doing your best, learning and getting better each time is what we should be aiming for. Not perfection, as this is unattainable. I agree with you about everything being so "scattered" these days, if we allow it, those cell phones and computers will throw a spanner in the schedule every time.
#68
I'm wondering if the pain of seeing now that your work is quite good is a kind of grief about creative "children" that went unborn because of the old stories. As I get older, I find I need to acknowledge grief about unrealized potential and lost opportunities in order to free myself up for today. Thank you for sharing your struggle with this issue.
#69
I was just thinking about this the other day!
I have several projects that are ALMOST done, and for some reason I am reluctant to finish them. I finally decided it was because though I get that "Finished Object Rush" when I do complete a project, there is also a sense of "Okay.... now what?" Weird, isn't it? I think it is because we get so involved in the whole process of "making", that when we are done, there is kind of a momentary vacuum. Granted, there are always more projects, but for a moment there is an emptiness where your concentration has been. Your thoughts are used to going to that project, and now it is gone, and it could be a little mentally disconcerting.
Or, that all may be a bunch of psychological bunk. Maybe I just procrastinate! LOL
I have several projects that are ALMOST done, and for some reason I am reluctant to finish them. I finally decided it was because though I get that "Finished Object Rush" when I do complete a project, there is also a sense of "Okay.... now what?" Weird, isn't it? I think it is because we get so involved in the whole process of "making", that when we are done, there is kind of a momentary vacuum. Granted, there are always more projects, but for a moment there is an emptiness where your concentration has been. Your thoughts are used to going to that project, and now it is gone, and it could be a little mentally disconcerting.
Or, that all may be a bunch of psychological bunk. Maybe I just procrastinate! LOL
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