Thank you for my gift! Would you make me another ??
#81
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Most of us have had really bad experiences with this issue haven't we! I make quilts, aprons and purses for those I want to make them for - learned to say NO a long time ago. Like everyone, I don't have enough time to do what I want and really don't want to work with someone else's colors, pattern or time line. Now if someone offers to buy something I've already made, at a price I consider fair then I would consider it. I don't want my hobby to become work!!
#82
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Many years back I used to make ornamental hat stands for different occasions, holidays, showers, b-days and so forth. An acquaintance of mine called me after I made one for her granddaughters b-day. One of the guests thought she made it and she never said anything different. Acquaintance needed 5 by the end of that month, I said "Really" then she says she would only charge them $20.00 for each one. "Didn't I think that was cool? I'll give you $5.00 for ea." I said "No, I have more than that wrapped up in material alone. They were $45.00 each and up and they can call me. You can give them my number and that was the end of that. These were centerpieces and for the bridal showers I did replicas of the bridal veils and dresses and tuxedos. Some were 2-3 ft. tall.
#83
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Location: Dallas area, Texas, USA
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now that is funny! and a good answer. I wonder what they would say if, when they gave a storebought gift, they were asked for another one. But of course, "handmade" is DIFFERENT, because we have nothing else to do all day but sit around and make things, don't ya know....
The person could make a request like this in a way that is not rude. They can mention that they would love to be able to buy something of this quality and ask if you are interested in doing it as a business. That can be taken as a compliment, and you're free to accept and name your price or simply decline. But to ask it in a way that implies that it's just a little favor you should be delighted to do is rude and they should not be allowed to get away with it.
To some extent we bring this sort of problem on ourselves by trying to be modest and self effacing, a behavior pattern many of us were taught as youngsters. If your work is complimented, just say "Thanks, I'm glad you like it!" Never turn away an honest compliment with words like "It was nothing." Plenty of people will take that quite literally.
#84
I agree with everyone in regards to making things for others. I make things for people I really care about or for charity but I don't make things for others to make money. They can't afford to pay what I would want to make it. It takes all the fun out of it. I did this for many years with counted cross stitch and decided never again when I started quilting. I want to enjoy my hobby and have fun and do things to give away to someone who will appreciated it and never know who was kind enough to do it for someone else. Just my opinion. If I wanted a job I could go to work and make more money - not interested in making money.
#86
This has become a fabulous thread! I have enjoyed reading the responses, vents and suggestions! Since I quilt for others as "job", people have no trouble asking me to make a certain size, style, or color quilt for them...for a price. Since I have done this twice for friends, I have finally figured out that I need to price quilts "made to order" in such a way that I get at least $20/hour for my skills. King size quilts start at $2,000, queen at $1,500, full at $1,000, twin at $750, throw at $500 and baby at $400 - that's the "starting" price, paid in full up front, and it may go up from there, depending on the material used, complexity of the pattern, quilting I do on it and the PITA factor! Don't get too many takers which is just fine by me...these prices are quoted to friends, family, strangers. They need to know that they are getting a one-of-a-kind CUSTOM made quilt!!!
#87
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so many stories and I can relate.. Years ago, my dh co-worker sent some jeans home with him and asked if I would put zippers in them- mend whatever. As a courtesy to my dh I did this. I did state after the second round of this, it would have to stop. I am not in the mending/alternation business! Stopped that quickly, so my neighbor shows up with her dd prom dress, needing alternations. OMG, I did it, then she shows up at my door with a beautiful coat which had a broken zipper. Did that and word got out, that apparently I can do it and I am extremely cheap. Luckily, we moved. Never got it started again, nipped it in the bud before it got started. Til my ds got married, now his wife thinks I can repair her new boots. I always thought, if I ever needed extra money or a parttime job I could go into the alteration business. I remembered what my friend who was in the business told me " Everyone wants things done but don't want to pay much for it". I never forgot that and it applies to quilting too. So I just don't.
#88
I think it is our duty to inform the "non-crafty" as to what this all involves. I think if we take the approach of informing them that what we do is an art and there is a big difference between "home-made" and " custom-hand-made". To the poster who's sister is a painter, how would she feel if you asked her to paint your living room...I mean, painting is painting, correct?
I do not have to justify the cost of my sewing machine or fabrics. I do not have to make money with my art to pay for them. Actually had someone suggest that I should sew for her to pay for my high- end machine! She said she could also throw me a few bucks to mend her families clothes for them. I don't mend..period. Excuse me, but I spend more on "stuff" than she earned in a year, do not count my money for me. After quoting a price for a costume she wanted, she almost fainted and asked me who I thought I was, some fancy designer?. Told her apparently someone she thought she needed, but can't afford.
I think we allow ourselves to be treated this way because we think we may not be worthy of what we are truly worth. We also have to learn to say no, with feeling and with pity for the person who just does not get it.
Sorry for the rant, but this is a subject that try hits home for me.
I do not have to justify the cost of my sewing machine or fabrics. I do not have to make money with my art to pay for them. Actually had someone suggest that I should sew for her to pay for my high- end machine! She said she could also throw me a few bucks to mend her families clothes for them. I don't mend..period. Excuse me, but I spend more on "stuff" than she earned in a year, do not count my money for me. After quoting a price for a costume she wanted, she almost fainted and asked me who I thought I was, some fancy designer?. Told her apparently someone she thought she needed, but can't afford.
I think we allow ourselves to be treated this way because we think we may not be worthy of what we are truly worth. We also have to learn to say no, with feeling and with pity for the person who just does not get it.
Sorry for the rant, but this is a subject that try hits home for me.
#90
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Join Date: Feb 2013
Location: Texas
Posts: 983
Just wanted to say Hello to tessagin, I'm in Corpus Christi too, in the Calallen area! It's nice to see another Quilter post from my area..if I can call myself a quilter as I'm about 1/2 way with my 1st quilt (blocks completed) and trying out the advice I got here for the sash & bindings. Hello tessagin!
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