Did you hear any screaming and crying from the NW
#101
When I was young we live with my grandmother for a while. She decided one day to pick up all the stuff we left lying out. That included hair brushes, socks, toys, etc but did not include school supplies or books. We never saw any of it again. Did we learn our lessons? Nope. One day a few years later my sister and I got real nosy about what was hidden in her spare dresser where we found everything she had collected. I didn't take this tact with my sons -- I simply moved their stuff to their rooms and closed the door.
#103
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Location: Central Willamette Valley, Oregon, USA
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Originally Posted by booklady
Good for you! Except, put that stuff even farther away then the laundry room and make them pay you to get it back! You're not their maid!!!
#104
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I understand just what you are saying. I finally bought a large trash can (one you use outside) and put in in the hallway. Told them if they wanted to keep their crap then it better not be left on the floor. They didn't believe me, so after they went off to school, I cleaned house! anything and every thing that was on the floor went into the trash can ready for the dump. When they got home they were so surprised to see how clean their rooms were. But when they opened their draws and closet (Knowing mom had put things away for them) the shock hit they like a ton of bricks. From that point on, house rules were, if you like it you better put it up or it goes to the dump, no exceptions!
Oh yea I forget this happened one year 2 days after Christmas so all the stuff they had gotten for Christmas, well it went to the dump as far as they knew but since this was brand new stuff I gave it to good will. I know there was some child out there that would take better care of it.
Oh yea I forget this happened one year 2 days after Christmas so all the stuff they had gotten for Christmas, well it went to the dump as far as they knew but since this was brand new stuff I gave it to good will. I know there was some child out there that would take better care of it.
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I tried to raise my kids well, but one daughter wasn't quite a slob, while the other one was Miss Neatnic herself, even rolled her ankle socks and put them in the drawer divided by color!!
Now she has 3 rescue dogs and even they know that certain things aren't allowed!! Other daughter is a pack rat, but organized and can find anything at a moment's notice.
I'm also a pack rat, believe strongly that everything has its place and everything in its own place. Unfortunately, that rarely translates to the same place all the time. But I love my kids and they all love me, call and visit often and thank me for being kinda strict in raising them.
Now she has 3 rescue dogs and even they know that certain things aren't allowed!! Other daughter is a pack rat, but organized and can find anything at a moment's notice.
I'm also a pack rat, believe strongly that everything has its place and everything in its own place. Unfortunately, that rarely translates to the same place all the time. But I love my kids and they all love me, call and visit often and thank me for being kinda strict in raising them.
#106
Originally Posted by Quiltforme
Today after threatening my kids I did it I packed up the clothes left on the floor the makeup on the counter the earings left on the floor and gave them to good will. (ok they are in my laundry room) but man I cannot believe how much crap they had thrown around. I mean really when they go into their bathroom they just sit on the pot take off clothes and leave them there. This has just recently started I warned them and well today I did it. Hopefully they will get it into their heads that their clothes are not my responsibility!!! Ok enough said how do you deal with Teens who do not clean up?? Was I wrong empty threats were not working what motherly words of advice can I get from you??
#109
when my first 3 were teens, I had a toddler to deal with all day. sometimes when they pushed too far, I would run away. Since we lived out in the country, I would fix their dinner(because i didn't want to neglect my DH), go to my room and slam the door to show my displeasure, and stay there and read or something while the kids had to explain to their dad what caused mom to leave. As for their rooms, I mostly left them be until I deemed them unhealthy or a danger of spontaneous combustion. Then I would clean out the clutter and put them out of their use for a while. Once I cleaned out a mess and found a baggie under a bunch of clothes with a tuna sandwich that had started foaming and I think very close to exploding. Oh the joys of raising teens.
#110
Originally Posted by grandma Janice
when my first 3 were teens, I had a toddler to deal with all day. sometimes when they pushed too far, I would run away. Since we lived out in the country, I would fix their dinner(because i didn't want to neglect my DH), go to my room and slam the door to show my displeasure, and stay there and read or something while the kids had to explain to their dad what caused mom to leave. As for their rooms, I mostly left them be until I deemed them unhealthy or a danger of spontaneous combustion. Then I would clean out the clutter and put them out of their use for a while. Once I cleaned out a mess and found a baggie under a bunch of clothes with a tuna sandwich that had started foaming and I think very close to exploding. Oh the joys of raising teens.
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