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01-07-2011, 02:58 PM

#51

tweetee

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Originally Posted by mommamac

I think you were lenient - I would have taken him & his piggy bank to the store, have him find the cost of the item & buy it for his brother. If his bank didn't have enough, then I'd have him then 'work' to earn the difference.

Kids need consequences that fit their actions - like the sign in some stores: 'if you break it, you buy it!'

I totally agree with this comment. He is old enough to know better, and he is also old enough to know about consequenses for his actions. My son is 9, and iis autistic and he knows the difference, and he also understands the concept of money. I think you have tought him a valuable lesson to think before he acts.

01-07-2011, 03:05 PM

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hperttula123

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i don't think it was to harsh! It's just teaching them to be responsible.

01-07-2011, 03:10 PM

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CarrieAnne

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I think you did the right thing too. He needs to know that stuff isnt free, if he wrecks things later in life, he will have to pay!

01-07-2011, 03:32 PM

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BMP

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I have to agree with the rest, children need to learn..thats whats wrong with so many of them, parents dont know how to be parents anymore....good ole fashion punishment is what kids today need. I wonder what the worls is going to be like in a few years when they kids become adults !!!

01-07-2011, 03:34 PM

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maryb119

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Good for you!!! You taught him a life lesson...be responsible for your actions. Too many kids are not learning that.

01-07-2011, 03:55 PM

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trueimage

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Great job! You did the right thing in teaching this valuable lesson.

01-07-2011, 04:28 PM

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luvTooQuilt

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OK the fact that hes 8 and had a tantrum is completely unacceptable.. Sounds like the parents need "parenting School' to help guide him..

As for your lesson. wasn't harsh enough..

Time out - alone in a room-without an audience
a 'job' to pay for the cost of the replaced item
and grounding would of been just a few actions I would of done, but better believe there would of been more consequences when we got home!!!

01-07-2011, 05:21 PM

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liminanc

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I think you made a correct decision. We are all responsible for our actions, and they have consequences.

01-07-2011, 05:36 PM

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laurac

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it really isn't the rest of the family's business. doesnt sound to strong to me. he'll think about it before he acts that way again and that's what you want. (of course, its none of my business either!)

01-07-2011, 05:40 PM

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aggiebears

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I have an 8 year old. He is autistic but aware enough that, that behavior will not be tolerated. The only way he will learn is if you teach him. Children need to know there are consequences for their actions. There is a lot of not taking responsiblity for their actions going around now days. Parents, and Grandparents are there to teach their children.