BellaBoo

Am I the only mom who did not get depressed/sad when the kids moved out on their own? Both finished college before moving out for good. It never bothered me. They were close by, started their careers, having the time of their lives. My lifestyle changed too with no kids in the house. DH said it seems like being young again without the responsibilities or worries.

Lyn4ty

i think you are a wise mother, listening and letting her vent is so important. I'm sure she will appreciate knowing she can come to you and talk without being judged. I know it isn't the easiest thing with our children, but as mother's we learn to have great patience and love. All the things you are feeling are so natural and good, means you love her and want nothing but the best for her. Hang in there and keep smiling.

Matilda

There are mixed feelings when my kids left, both in the same year. But I don't want them back---just to visit.

gmaybee

I was emotional when both of my sons got married. My oldest was away at college for 4 years and got married the summer they graduated. They only live a two hour drive away. My youngest got married after college and they moved to China. It's a 20 hour flight, so I doubt I'll be going there. They just arrived home for a 10 day visit (Chinese Holiday, schools closed) and we all got together for dinner Friday. It will be sad at Christmas as they decided not to come home this year. First one I will miss with him in 26 years. One of their old rooms is now my sewing room.

PKWard

I know how you are feeling!!! My two oldest daughters got married this year. Heather got married in March and lives about 2 miles from us, so I can see her anytime. Meghan graduated from grad school in May, the next day we moved her belongings to the Dallas/Ft. Worth area (5 hours from us), then brought her home. Three weeks later she married her college sweetheart and moved permanently. I never thought I would have a tough time with my nest emptying...I still have 2 at home, but this has been a really tough year. Although I have very nice son-in-laws, each one cause me concern, but I have to bite my tongue and keep opinions to myself...God is still helping me with that one!!! :) I was pretty depressed this summer...so, I started cleaning, bought myself a new sewing machine and I am trying to keep myself busy with little quilting project and I have started some big ones. My husband said I have seemed much happier recently, so I guess it's helping. Hang in there!

slk350

I still feel a little sad since my "baby" left for college in Aug. For some reason when we moved 1500 miles and our 2 older kids refused to move (already out of school-daughter went to college up north). I wasn't bothered quite as much. Maybe because I still had my youngest (9 at the time) moving with us. He's only 20 minutes from me, but I just miss him being around and I see him at least once a week. AND my 2 older kids moved down near us... LOL

quiltnchik

It is very hard when they move out; your heart aches and you just want them home. However, after they've been gone a while, it will drive you nuts if they return (ask me how I know)! It will get easier as time goes on and, if at some point she does return, you'll look forward to having the peace and quiet, not to mention your house being the way YOU want it to be. I love my kids more than anything in the world, but it's time for them to "fledge," and I keep thinking to myself, "fly little birdy, FLY!" Hang in there!

bevannthomas

You have to remember... you moved out too once, you have to let her fly and live "her" live now... We all have to go through this one day or another, it's just life.....