Does Your Husband Help With Chores?
#42
Originally Posted by mary quite contrary
Mine can be helpful if he wants to. The problem is getting him to want to.
#43
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Location: Arizona
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Originally Posted by Kooklabell
What? Excuse me? Sorry, I just came in from snow blowing the driveway for the second time and my ears and eyes are snow crusted from the wind blowing the snow in my face - hubby will be home soon. (I'm on winter break) MMM, I'll answer after I defrost myself in front of the stove while I cook dinner. Darn, just remembered my sheets are in the dryer! :)
My husband has a new response when I ask him for help/assistance/whatever..... I'll do it... eventually
My husband has a new response when I ask him for help/assistance/whatever..... I'll do it... eventually
#44
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Originally Posted by Jim
Being the husband and in my own defense...my wife and I have always had chores that are done to keep everything flowing and we pick up each others slack if need be. Its not a competition or to see who does more or less, its give and take. We both clean in the house and both are gardeners so we also love doing things outdoors. I make tops..she does the quilting. She asked for a dishwasher yrs. ago and I said "no way...we had two and you never used them(kids)". Again in my defense...in our new home we have a nice dishwasher,wasn't room in the kitchen before for one. Guess it works for us...we've been married almost 37 yrs.
PS He was a great cook and so is our son and son's father-in-law! The women in our family just aren't very good at that! Weren't we lucky to find the guys we did!
PPS and now who wants to cook for one!
#45
My husband hates clutter and I'm sort of immune to it so he picks up more than I do, but I do the actual cleaning of stuff and since I'm a stay at home, I do most of the cooking, and he's not allowed to do laundry. I wish he'd do the kids' bedtime routine more because we only get so many chances to read to them before it's no longer so special to them. He works mostly from home so sometimes I wish for a little alone time but it's also nice to have him here to help, especially since he said he'd cook dinner tonight because I'm not feeling well.
#48
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I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia about 20 years ago. I was in a lot of pain, worked all week, came home on evenings and weekends and cleaned and did all the 'stuff' that needed to be done. And then there were the kids...
Mind you, DH had his own set of 'stuff' that needed to be done - lawn, house maintenance, car maintenance. He was already doing his share.
Finally, after months of this routine, I said to my husband, "Darling, I can either work (for money) or I can clean and take care of the house. I can't do both. You choose which one I do."
He chose me working; that was a good choice because of how much I was making. I told him to hire someone to clean the house once a week, but he didn't like the idea of a stranger in the house. So he took on housekeeping. I still had to cook and do dishes, but that was ok. He added laundry to his list of chores because his workshop shares space with the washer and dryer. He took over dusting because my allergies got really bad, dusting sets them off. And that's even with the allergy meds!
Now that we're retired, I have talked him into being my "Salad Man". He makes a good salad.
I am so lucky to have him!
Mind you, DH had his own set of 'stuff' that needed to be done - lawn, house maintenance, car maintenance. He was already doing his share.
Finally, after months of this routine, I said to my husband, "Darling, I can either work (for money) or I can clean and take care of the house. I can't do both. You choose which one I do."
He chose me working; that was a good choice because of how much I was making. I told him to hire someone to clean the house once a week, but he didn't like the idea of a stranger in the house. So he took on housekeeping. I still had to cook and do dishes, but that was ok. He added laundry to his list of chores because his workshop shares space with the washer and dryer. He took over dusting because my allergies got really bad, dusting sets them off. And that's even with the allergy meds!
Now that we're retired, I have talked him into being my "Salad Man". He makes a good salad.
I am so lucky to have him!
#49
My DH is a much better housekeeper than I. He is neater; I have a 'high tolerance of clutter.' He does the floors 90% of the time, more than half of the marketing, and he does some cooking, too. He makes a curry that is divine! He also looks after the vehicles, mends the fences, takes hay out to the sheep, picks up the livestock feed......And finds time to make me a cup of tea and bring me flowers for days that end in 'Y.'
I do the laundry, 90% of the cooking, 95% of the dish washing, and have no complaints at all!
I do the laundry, 90% of the cooking, 95% of the dish washing, and have no complaints at all!
#50
Originally Posted by maybe
He'll do anything if I ask him, but only if I ask. He takes care of the outside things. Once in a while I'll mow because I don't work full time in the summer, so that helps him out.
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