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Old 09-06-2013, 05:20 AM
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My partner of 20+ yrs. is a "way-out there" IT guy. Do you think he can say "I love you" No!
I receive all sorts of reminders via my computer weekly. This morning it was a u tube recording of Willy Nelson singing "You're always on my mind". I acknowledge them in a very low key way, as is his preference also. Whereas Women can ALWAYS get emotional, I almost feel its getting harder for him to express himself emotionally, as he ages. How about your significant other? I used to get really frustrated over this but now I rather enjoy his way.
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Old 09-06-2013, 06:40 AM
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Everyone has a different way of expressing themselves - we just have to accept what we get. We can't expect someone to act or react the way WE want - My husband always keeps an eye on me - not in a controlling way but to make sure everything is ok and I'm not getting in over my head. The little things can mean a lot! At our house when you are going on the road the statement "Watch for deer" means I love you.
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I still blush a little when he winks at me! Lots of kisses waking up and a gentle wake up I might add (little rub on the bottom of the foot. We don't yell at our house. It's a small house and we don't have to. We always give each other a kiss walking out the door. Could be the last one returned! In the beginning he always bought me roses and they would wilt and meet their demise. I told him would rather have a rose bush that continued to grow like our relationship. Christmas "2004" we had 6" of snow on Christmas day. My roses were in full bloom and popped through the snow in all their glory. It rarely snows in south Texas and that was a fluke. So was the fact that all the buds on that bush were in full bloom. By evening there was very little snow, it had melted that fast. but it was a beautiful day and the results from my husbands tests came in on Christmas eve morning and the results were negative. It was a very special Christmas.
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One Valentines Day I sent DH an email, link to youtube video of the dog howling "I WUV U.....! " we sat and watched it and laughed til we cried....
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My partner of 20+ yrs. is a "way-out there" IT guy. Do you think he can say "I love you" No!
I receive all sorts of reminders via my computer weekly. This morning it was a u tube recording of Willy Nelson singing "You're always on my mind". I acknowledge them in a very low key way, as is his preference also. Whereas Women can ALWAYS get emotional, I almost feel its getting harder for him to express himself emotionally, as he ages. How about your significant other? I used to get really frustrated over this but now I rather enjoy his way.
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Now you have me curious .... is your low key acknowledgement via email as well?
Perhaps another song back to him in reply?

Hey ... he does express his love to you IRL ... every time he brings you that glass of wine!
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Old 09-06-2013, 07:24 AM
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Now you have me curious .... is your low key acknowledgement via email as well?
Perhaps another song back to him in reply?

Hey ... he does express his love to you IRL ... every time he brings you that glass of wine!
There are sooooooooo many little ways without words.
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There are sooooooooo many little ways without words.
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........... little ways ... BIG wine glass!
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I love the stories of different ways to express love! A co-worker of mine years ago would receive big florist bouquets at work quite frequently for no reason. Then one morning she turned up at work with a black eye, and a divorce was followed shortly. I'm thankful for my loving hubby who isn't much for sending flowers. He helps me in the garden to grow my own.
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After almost 52 years of marriage we don't get hung up on the little things. They really don't mean much in the whole scheme of things. We are there for each other for the big things, that are really important. We are in it for the long haul. Really means the most to us. We have spent half our marriage working together and that is a lot of togetherness.
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Enjoy the goodies while you have them, ladies. I used to get wonderful treatment from my hubby of 40 years, and I think it totally spoiled me for any other male on the face of the earth. Mine was kind, thoughtful, never forgot a special day, and most of all thought that I was a direct gift to him...and treated me as if i were. Do I miss him? Forever! He was another one who sent songs and cards and funny little gifts...but the most important thing he did was to let not only me, but our whole family, know that he loved us....each day. If you have one like that, treasure him and love him...they are a rare breed, it seems.
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