fidgety

They used to have lockins on prom night where I come from. The kids get a chance to be togather drug and alcohol free. They also got a chnce to win cool prizes. My daughter wona huge boom box and a tv.

If this is not available in your area. well ask yourself, do you trust your daughter? I would still talk to the parents and make sure they were going to be there and such. we cannot protect them from mistakes, we can only hope they have listened to our wisdom.
good luck. I know how hard it is to be parents of teenagers.

Chele

I would definitely talk to and get to know the parents hosting the party. It probably is a "lock-in" type party. They're all the rage. I'd rather them all be locked in and not on the road driving or sneaking out getting into some other situation.

Good luck. Raising teens is not for the squeamish! We're here for you.

CarrieAnne

I dont think your over reactingeither. I wouldfor sure, call the other Parents.

CarrieAnne

I had a friend who would let his Sons GF spend the night. The girls Mom was just fine with this, and they were only 16 and 17. All went perfectly, til the girl ended up pregnant, then the boy was 18 and she was 17, and they got into a fight. GUESS WHO ended up in PRISON.......and this is a true story. They came and got the boy from school, and took him to jail, andhe ended up spending two years in prison. It was really a sad thing to see!

cjomomma

My DD wouldn't dare ask a question like that because I would have the HECK NO reaction too. Until she moves out she will live by my rules. Your the mom you set the rules so stick to your guns. Let her have a hissy fit, I'm sure it's not the first time.

STAR

I agree with getting all the details, talking with parents, etc., but I would still say no. she is almost 18 she can do what she wants when she is out of your house like cjomomma says!

quiltinghere

Definately call the parents and ask if you can visit for a few minutes to talk. Then visit and get to know them - ask lots of questions.
See which parent is staying up all night to keep an eye on them.
(How about offering to go there for a few hours (say 1am-5am) so they can get some rest before breakfast?
Call the other parents involved...maybe all the kids are saying "all the other parents are letting their kids stay" when they may be feeling just like you.

How well do you know your daughter? Do you know the friends? What about their parents? What are they like? Have they been over? Are they respectful? What are they involved in at school? Good students? Bad students?

I'm sure there's lots of terrible, horrible stories out there but there are good stories too you may have never heard of either. I think it's great for girls to have friends who are boys and boys to have girls that are friends.

The *KEY HERE IS TO KNOW YOUR KID, THEIR FRIENDS AND THEIR FRIENDS' PARENTS*. It's starts in grammar school and should continue throughtout high school!

Then make your decision...good luck...

By the way - been there done that.

Murphy

I raised sons only and I would not let my son do an "overnight" at the ages you describe. You are not over reacting you are being a parent. Ask yourself, would you have boys and girls spend the night at your house under these circumstances? If the answer is yes, then contact the parents and find out what they are planning. If the answer is no, then the answer to her is no. It is not our job to be friends with our kids; it is our job to raise responsible, acceptable adults. I know we can't be everywhere with our children, but I am not in support of providing extra opportunities (smile).

cherylynne

I did let my daughters stay over their friend's house after prom, but I always told them that they could call me anytime for a ride home. Sometimes they wished they had just come home because the party was going on too long and it was just not all of the great fun they had expected. I had to go get her and her date once and I'm glad that she called me. My oldest is 30 and my youngest is 25 so that was quite some time ago. They still know that I will come and pick them up if they get stuck someplace. It depends on the circumstances everytime, but if you talk about what your expectations are, she will have already made her decision about what she wants to do before a situation happerns.

pocoellie

My answer would be NO, end of discussion. Regardless of wither you know the parents at all, are they going to stay up AND awake to make sure that the girls and boys stay where they're supposed to be. Highly unlikely.