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    Dog or any animal ownership comes with responsibility and that is teaching and controlling any and all of them.

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    " I don't want to be rude but I want to ask them to control their dogs and put them in their pins when we are there."

    You wrote your own answer above. Politely ask them to be penned. I don't have a problem with dogs, but my son and husband are allergic to their saliva. I really dislike how many dog owners assume that we love their dogs as much as they do...and that we don't mind being licked, pounced, and slobbered on. I wouldn't allow my toddlers (when they were younger) to jump on people's lap and drool all over them. And they don't even shed!

    If they get insulted when you ask, then they are not polite and not a real friend. No real friend would put your polite request behind their dog's "feelings." Good luck.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yooper32
    Unruly dogs and unruly kids, same difference. I have a hard time with both. My dogs had to behave as did my children but like a lot of things, that seems to have passed into the past. Do I sound like a grouchy ol' lady? Well, I am when I have to put up with any of the above.
    I love "grouchy old ladies"...they produce well-behaved children. We need more "parents" who actually parent rather then trying to be their kids' "friend." You go girl!
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    I have 3 chihuahuas and a boxer ages 1,2,3 and 9 (boxer is the baby). Normally, it's only my family that comes over and they know what to expect (I'm a bit of a loner). They all are excited to see them and they are allowed to be rowdy for about 2 minutes. Then I start calming them down. If that doesn't work I show them the fly swatter-never fails- no, they aren't ever beaten with the swatter.

    Bottom line, I allow them to act like the animals they are for a few minutes and then it's over. And, yes, they are allowed on the furniture-don't like the hair? Don't come over.

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    We have friends like this too. I'm a cat lover, and don't care much for dogs. I don't have an answer except that we invite our friends to our place and avoid going to theirs.

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    The standard for "good behavior" will be different from one household to the next, with no right or wrong answers. The OP would hate it at my house because my dogs have access to the furniture, may chew their toys wherever they like, and in some cases are still learning our expectations. If we had young children or something it might be different, but that's not the reality. If someone asked me to pen my dogs while they were in my home I'd politely rescind the invitation for them to visit.

    We don't take our pets anywhere without an express invitation for them. For the most part this means we don't travel much -- and we are perfectly fine with that. We also meet some of our friends out for dinner and drinks, etc., so that unless they specifically ask they are not subjected to behavior WE like but THEY may find objectionable.

    FYI, penning is not always a good solution. Do you want dog(s) screaming in the background for your entire visit? Because if they are out of control outside of their crates this is exactly what you're going to get. (Trust me, I have some experience with this LOL)

    Don't say a thing, just don't go there anymore. The dogs live there, you don't like the dogs and the owners have already chosen to live the way they live whether you're there or not. Seems logical to me that you'd just stop visiting them in their home. Your husband can go there anytime without you, right? They aren't YOUR best friends, so let the boys do their thing, and when a group get together is called for just do it somewhere else.

    And peace will descend on the people. :)

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    I hear ya! Our 2 house-dogs are completely different personalities. Our Cairn is respectful and guests love him. Our rescued, deaf boxer is the complete opposite. We have to keep her on a short lead and beg people to NOT look at, or pat her until she calms down. She howls when we crate her during a visit, so the short lead seems the best for now. (She is the biggest challenge, training wise, I have had ever had!) My MIL has severe osteoporosis, and my nieces are very young so I am on high alert when Roxy is loose in the house and company walks in! Absolutely.... I am very aware of how our dogs are interacting with guests and just like my kids, I expect respectful behavior!

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    This is going to sound crazy... when the owners are in the room, and the dogs are out of control, TALK TO THE DOGS! Just grab one by the jowls (gently, of course), look them in the face (but not threateningly), and tell the dog that you love him but don't like getting slobbered so he has to go lie down somewhere.

    If the "dog" doesn't get the message (i.e., the owners), grab the next dog and repeat the message, just little louder. If all esle fails, shepard one of the dogs into another room and close the door with a "Love you! Now go lie down."

    Cheeky yes, but you're on the hairy edge (pun intended) of losing or altering the friendship, any ways. :-)

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    I always put our two airedales in the bedroom. Visitors know they are there. If they ask for us to let them out then we do and they pay the consequences, LOL. They are not slobbery and don't shed. They just want to be petted. The don't jump or know you over. They just wag their butts off to say how happy they are to see you.

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    It is all in how they are trained. My Dobe knows that when I say her name, snap my fingers and point down to the ground she better lay down NOW.. If you value the friendship be honest. Take a deep breath and say, "I value the time we spend together, BUT ______" If things don't change use gas prices as an excuse to see them less frequently.

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    start sneezing and wiping your eyes. pretend you have allergies. don't tell your husband. let him think of it himself. if he wants you to take over the counter meds, like benedryl, say they make you fall asleep. they'll all get the idea. hah! :mrgreen:


    they'll either visit you or they're not friends. (i don't think they are, anyway, but that's me.)

    btw, you can be allergic to those dogs and no others, because they slobber all over you and over-sensitize you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JulieR
    The standard for "good behavior" will be different from one household to the next, with no right or wrong answers. The OP would hate it at my house because my dogs have access to the furniture, may chew their toys wherever they like, and in some cases are still learning our expectations. If we had young children or something it might be different, but that's not the reality. If someone asked me to pen my dogs while they were in my home I'd politely rescind the invitation for them to visit.

    We don't take our pets anywhere without an express invitation for them. For the most part this means we don't travel much -- and we are perfectly fine with that. We also meet some of our friends out for dinner and drinks, etc., so that unless they specifically ask they are not subjected to behavior WE like but THEY may find objectionable.

    FYI, penning is not always a good solution. Do you want dog(s) screaming in the background for your entire visit? Because if they are out of control outside of their crates this is exactly what you're going to get. (Trust me, I have some experience with this LOL)

    Don't say a thing, just don't go there anymore. The dogs live there, you don't like the dogs and the owners have already chosen to live the way they live whether you're there or not. Seems logical to me that you'd just stop visiting them in their home. Your husband can go there anytime without you, right? They aren't YOUR best friends, so let the boys do their thing, and when a group get together is called for just do it somewhere else.

    And peace will descend on the people. :)
    I have to totally agree with Julie. All my friends know that my house is maintained for the comfort of my fur babies. They live there. It is their house. I am their Mom and if I allow them on the furniture it is my business. I wouldnt think of taking them where they arent welcome... but in my house they are my "children". If you want the best seat in the house... you will have to move the dog. :) If someone cant handle dog hair or doesnt like dogs; we can meet somewhere but I lock my dogs up for no one.
    My life revolves arround those boys!! They love company and are excited when someone comes to visit. Everyone that visits makes a fuss over them. They are good boys but spoiled rotten and that's ok. Because they are always happy to see me.
    I like my dogs better than most men I know!!! :):):)

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    I have 4 dogs and all of them are well behaved. I trained all of them and have taught my family that we are the pack leaders, not the dogs.
    My inlaws have a dog that is very excitable and not trained well at all. Imagine a 65# dog that jumps up in your lap! I don't go with my DH very often to his brother's house because of the dog.

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    Someone already mentioned my suggestion - you have allergies, right. That's your story and STICK TO IT !!!

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    I put my dogs up when company is here but when i go to other peoples houses I understand that it is their house and their dogs. If you dont like someones dogs or kids, dont go over there.
    When people come to my house with their dogs or kids, Im the boss. I discipline both dogs and kids at my house if the owners/parents dont. If they dont like it then they wont come over with dogs or kids. LOL

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    I agree if people don't like my dogs too bad, just see the damage uncontrolled children do compared to dogs, its my dogs house not theirs, anyway people that do not like animals I don't like either they usually have the worst behaved kids anyway, nothing comes through my front door under four feet unless it has four legs.

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    I stopped going to my brothers because of his dog. I asked him to put the dog away while we visited but he would for a short time and eventually allow the dog out when we had been there for awhile. You couldn't move without the dog barking at you. It was no fun sitting on the sofa and just not hardly being able to breath without getting the dog started. I am a dog person and just couldn't go there anymore. Eventually the dog bit my sister in law in the face and they had the dog put down. She (my sil) had tons of stitches in her nose face area. My parents also visited there and the dog bit my father in the leg. (the dog has teeth.) May be the best dog ever, but you just never know. If my dog does't settle down, as much as I love him he goes out on the porch or in the laundry room while company is there. Its not like its forever. remember Big bites come in small packages. Yes, its house and he does get to do almost anything he wants. Just that when you have guests you worry about their safety too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Carol Wilson
    ...nothing comes through my front door under four feet unless it has four legs.
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    tell your husband you are not going with him the next time they invite you over because of the dogs he can go by himself and have him explain why you are not coming to the host maybe then they will get the message. If they don't just stop going.

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    I am sure you are not the only "friends" these people have over so other friends are experiencing the same behavior. Send them a dog obedience book with a bookmark in the appropriate chapter. Hopefully, they will get the hint. Also use their address for the return address. They will never know who sent it!

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    I would try politely to let her know that the dogs are disrupting, if they had children they would teach them some manners, or at least I would hope. Our little dog loves to have company, but she greets, and then lays down near one of us.

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    Quote Originally Posted by borntoquilt
    I am sure you are not the only "friends" these people have over so other friends are experiencing the same behavior. Send them a dog obedience book with a bookmark in the appropriate chapter. Hopefully, they will get the hint. Also use their address for the return address. They will never know who sent it!
    Make sure you send it from an out-of-town post office, too, so it isn't postmarked anywhere near your house!

    If they figure out it was you that'll be end of the friendship, so I'd be extra careful with this one. ;)

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    What would happen if you wrote her a letter explaining about your increasing allergies as you age...?

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    I have 7 rescues who can be v noisy too, when visitors come I tell them not to wear black or good clothes, I take them to another room to that we use the most, put the two worst on leads until they settle.

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    Their house, their rules.

    You can suggest - but if nothing happens, stay away.

    Same as for people that smoke. In their house, I keep my mouth shut - and try to stay away.

    At my house - they have to go outside to smoke - but they still smell smokey when they come back in.

    I think the two best suggestions - meet somewhere in the middle - or have them come over.

    You can have them come over after dinner/supper if you want to keep the costs down.

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