What to do now?
#21
Originally Posted by ForestHobbit
Originally Posted by stpatmom
I know you're right. I also know that if it were me, my parents would never have given me another one. Hopefully, she left it at the tutor's house. I still need to call her tomorrow along with the other two places. Hopefully, she just left it at the house, if not, I'm praying for good samaritans to have turned it in.
I just feel badly for her.....I'm also not looking forward to her telling her dad. I think I just feel guilty for getting that upset. Now I feel as though I was saying the $ spent was more important than anything. I guess I just need help sticking to my guns!
I just feel badly for her.....I'm also not looking forward to her telling her dad. I think I just feel guilty for getting that upset. Now I feel as though I was saying the $ spent was more important than anything. I guess I just need help sticking to my guns!
BTW my children learned, as they grew, how to cook, launder their own clothes, make their own appointments, etc. I was amazed when, as adults, they were grateful for the lessons. They said that their friends all had to go home to Mom because they hadn't learned how to take care of themselves before they left home.
I do think that our kids are too spoiled. If she gets it back, the new rule would be to not take it away from home!
#23
When my daughter was a teen, I was considered the 2nd toughest parent in town... I would not replace the Ipod. I would have her earn the money to replace it herself. Of course the money would still be come'n from me, but she'd learn a valuable lesson. I'd pay her at least minimum wage and have her mow the lawn, list of daily chores, baby sitting, what ever it takes. If she wants the Ipod bad enough, she'll be willing to do what ever it takes. Oh and don't give her the Ipod then expect her to do the work... that soooo doesn't work & all you'll be is aggrevated. Pay as she does the work, let her see how long it takes to save the $$$ If she accomplishes the chores without giving you major grief, throw in a few exta bonus bucks :)
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Talk to your husband about the event, he if needs to blowup he will have that finished. Your daughter needs to talk her Dad face to face. Keep up the open conversation skills with your daughter. Hopefully she will grow into a responsible adult.
Hang in there don't give up, we all have similar problems
Hang in there don't give up, we all have similar problems
#26
I got my first job at the age of 10, that is right 10! I stacked hay bakes on the dairy farm for 30 cents and hour. It is summer, she could get a job mowing lawns. I also picked strawberries for $$ to go to the roller rink, I mucked stall at the horse barn in exchange for riding lessons.
If she cannot afford to get a new toy, may I suggest a book, I still read the everyday, great entertainment and if it gots lost, I can afford a new one.
If she cannot afford to get a new toy, may I suggest a book, I still read the everyday, great entertainment and if it gots lost, I can afford a new one.
#27
My 12 yo son's iPod just quit working..He came to me the other day and said "on payday can we replace it?" I just looked at him and calmly told him NO!
I have sent it back to Apple to have it either repaired or replaced (it's less than a year old). If it's due to his misusage of it, he's been told that he will be without an iPod. We will not replace it. His 11yo sister has had her's for over 2 years now and she takes care of hers like a dream.
I have sent it back to Apple to have it either repaired or replaced (it's less than a year old). If it's due to his misusage of it, he's been told that he will be without an iPod. We will not replace it. His 11yo sister has had her's for over 2 years now and she takes care of hers like a dream.
#28
I don't know on this one. I have lost my purse a few times and one time couldn't find it. Had to stop and replace everything. Now I practically hang it from my neck. So I probably be a softie, because I'm sure my daughter would bring that up.
#29
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I'd also suggest that she earn the money to replace it. This is a HARD lesson but it's an essential one. She'll learn much more than just not to misplace it again; she will learn the value of saving and waiting.
Background: I have a 15-yr-old son who has an Ipod Touch that he takes very good care of. It was his only big Christmas present. He lost a more basic Ipod about two years ago, and decided that it was not worth it to him to spend the money on another. (And BTW he did have enough money to buy another if he wanted to.) I have a 13-yr-old daughter who takes pretty good care of her MP3 player, though she does "forget" it in the car from time to time. I also have a 17-yr-old son who does not own any of these devices because we know he would not take proper care of them. He's just trashed his last pocket radio, because he didn't take it OUT of his pocket before putting his shorts in the wash. This sort of thing happens to him all the time, as he still has not learned the lesson. So we never give him any electronics costing more than about $25-$30. Replacements he has to buy on his own.
As a parent, you will get to watch and see, when the replacement Ipod eventually comes, whether your daughter will be one who can learn to care for her things... or not. And you'll be able to figure out what gifts to buy, or not to buy, for her, based upon what you learn about her.
(Been there, done that...)
Background: I have a 15-yr-old son who has an Ipod Touch that he takes very good care of. It was his only big Christmas present. He lost a more basic Ipod about two years ago, and decided that it was not worth it to him to spend the money on another. (And BTW he did have enough money to buy another if he wanted to.) I have a 13-yr-old daughter who takes pretty good care of her MP3 player, though she does "forget" it in the car from time to time. I also have a 17-yr-old son who does not own any of these devices because we know he would not take proper care of them. He's just trashed his last pocket radio, because he didn't take it OUT of his pocket before putting his shorts in the wash. This sort of thing happens to him all the time, as he still has not learned the lesson. So we never give him any electronics costing more than about $25-$30. Replacements he has to buy on his own.
As a parent, you will get to watch and see, when the replacement Ipod eventually comes, whether your daughter will be one who can learn to care for her things... or not. And you'll be able to figure out what gifts to buy, or not to buy, for her, based upon what you learn about her.
(Been there, done that...)
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