What would you think...?
#1
At first I thought I might just be a little sensitive..but I really don't think so. A friend of mine I went to highschool with just lost a beloved member of her family. I understand she is grieving but did she really find it necessary to post pictures of them in their casket on Facebook? I find it incredibly tacky and just downright creepy! She left the woman absolutely no dignity...the bad thing is that she is rooming with my daughter at the present and I am really starting to think thats not such a good idea...not to mention that she is recently divorced and also posting her.....lack of "entertainment".....I'm crushed in so many ways......I don't ever remember her being like that...what would you do?
#2
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I don't think the photo's were in any kind of good taste whatsoever!
I would be mortified to think that pictures of a good friend or family member were posted by another family member. Very poor!!!!!
If I were in your shoes, I would somehow let you daughter know that you are not quite so thrilled to have her rooming with this friend.
I would be mortified to think that pictures of a good friend or family member were posted by another family member. Very poor!!!!!
If I were in your shoes, I would somehow let you daughter know that you are not quite so thrilled to have her rooming with this friend.
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That sounds really weird to me. Her behavior as you describe it sounds a little suspect.
Only thing I can think of is ask your daughter if she's noticed any changes.
Not sure why you feel crushed though...... can you explain that one??
Only thing I can think of is ask your daughter if she's noticed any changes.
Not sure why you feel crushed though...... can you explain that one??
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It is a southern thing..back in the day, i rememebr my neighbor had her child in the casket at her home. She was from the south, but don't recall where. she had pictures of deceased relatives in a album.
i would not do it myself, but i think taking a picture is a personal thing. maybe she posted is on FB for relatives and friends..who knows.
it would take a whole lot more than that, for me to worry about my daughter living with one of thier family members..
JMHO
i would not do it myself, but i think taking a picture is a personal thing. maybe she posted is on FB for relatives and friends..who knows.
it would take a whole lot more than that, for me to worry about my daughter living with one of thier family members..
JMHO
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Not just the South. Years ago my Italian relatives used to take pics of deceased people in their caskets, really creepy!!
But I doubt they would have posted them if there was the Internet! My Mom said it was just what people did back then for their private albums.
But I doubt they would have posted them if there was the Internet! My Mom said it was just what people did back then for their private albums.
#7
Originally Posted by sueisallaboutquilts
Not just the South. Years ago my Italian relatives used to take pics of deceased people in their caskets, really creepy!!
But I doubt they would have posted them if there was the Internet! My Mom said it was just what people did back then for their private albums.
But I doubt they would have posted them if there was the Internet! My Mom said it was just what people did back then for their private albums.
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While I hate this tradition, people used to photograph loved ones (or anyone) in a casket at funerals. Some were published in papers, others keep photo albums of the whole funeral (some even video the whole thing, YUK), and others hang those pictures on their living room walls in 8 x 10.
I've already told people I'll come back and haunt them for these things if they even try.
I've already told people I'll come back and haunt them for these things if they even try.
#9
I do a lot of post-mortem pictures for Hispanic families. They truly revere their dead. It is hard for me, as a graphic artist, when asked to place a dead baby in the arms of the grandmother who just passed. They were thrilled and had it posted at the wake. It seems strange to is because its not our custom. I have it in my will, no one is to see me after I pass, I want them to remember me as I am not in a casket. I wouldn't worry about your daughter. This woman is keeping up with the times and thats what they do today.
#10
Originally Posted by watterstide
It is a southern thing..back in the day, i rememebr my neighbor had her child in the casket at her home. She was from the south, but don't recall where. she had pictures of deceased relatives in a album.
i would not do it myself, but i think taking a picture is a personal thing. maybe she posted is on FB for relatives and friends..who knows.
it would take a whole lot more than that, for me to worry about my daughter living with one of thier family members..
JMHO
i would not do it myself, but i think taking a picture is a personal thing. maybe she posted is on FB for relatives and friends..who knows.
it would take a whole lot more than that, for me to worry about my daughter living with one of thier family members..
JMHO
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