nlgh

Coping and going through the process of grief makes us stronger when we finally get through it. I know, I lost my Mom and 4 months later lost my DH. My two nieces, daughters of my older sister, put me through h_____ after my DH died. I had to take them to court for a protective order. There were many times I wandered if I would be sane in the end. It's been 5 years and I am almost my old self and more independent than I thought I would be. All this is because my Lord Jesus loved me so much He saved me 60 years ago and has kept me in His loving care ever since, even when I didn't know it. Six months after DH's death, my daughter and I were in a car wreck that by all statistics we shouldn't have walked away from according to the Hwy. patrol officer. I could feel His presence in the car with me, as it took them a half hour to get me out. I had bad bruises and my daughter had a broken ankle and pinkie.

minnow895

i find the only problem with running is i always take myself along it just seems i can't get away from me so i sew another quilt of do some other project
god bless and i hope you find your self.
i went through that some years ago [change of life situation when my daughter died]

god bless you and keep you safe with in your self

earthwalker

I don't like the idea of a medication to blunt your senses, seems like it would be similar to the self-medication route of alchohol and illicit drugs. You can't live life numb.

Giving yourself some time alone, your faith, seeking counselling or professional help, sabbaticals and road trips, quilting, gardening or any number of other things that help you get through are all healthier, and better for a long-term outcome.

Part of being alive is the rawness of the whole thing...love, loss, laughter and tears...we have to accept it all as part of the deal.

MadQuilter

I think some people fall into deep depression when they experience a traumatic event and I believe that therapy may be the answer to get someone through the ordeal. If the therapist believes that anti-depressants are in order, then I support that manner of care.

That said, I believe that we learn and grow as a result of all our experiences - the good and the bad. I believe that the feelings will not be denied and they would surface even if there was a "don't give a sh**" pill. So no, I don't want it.

azdesertrat

hi Billy
do you have friends in Pratt?I know a few people there,My girls' great grandmother lives there

Barbm

I lost my brother to suicide 5 years ago and researched the meds he was on. I was undecided whether or not meds worked. What I learned was certain diseases need meds - like my brother. For myself- I don't like to take meds, but I can see where someone needs to "take the edge off life" to help get through bad times. I commend them for recognizing this.

Now- enter PTSD. My son was in a terrible accident. He started having panic attacks (we had to get him from college one night as he couldn't drive home) and when we went to the Dr. he prescribed a mild antidepressant. After the problems with my brother's suicide I was totally against giving them to him. But the dr. explained it was temporary and just to relax his brain to let it heal for about 3 months. (He had minor injuries but there were issues in treatment time and he was life flighted to the trauma unit) The transformation was amazing- he turned into this nice person. We could talk about the accident and he understood what he was feeling and relaxed for the first time in months. He ended up flunking the semester so we have a do-over this fall but I have my son, the alternative was not nice. But the panic attacks are gone and he is now ready to go back to college in the fall.

But- grieving- we all grieve differently and to different depths. I know I felt the deepest sense of loss after I lost my brother and went through some life changing times. I quit a high paying (stressful) job because I couldn't take being away from my children and became fanatical about their whereabouts at all times. I look back and realize I could have benefited from some meds, but I was so angry at my brother for not using his meds correctly and completing suicide. So if you need them- take them. If you don't want them, don't take them.

Lostn51

Only the sweetest quilter in Kansas Darcene.

Billy

reach for the stars 2

I have a chemical imbalance in the brain and take meds for it. I will always have to. I suffer many years without meds and was almost housebound. Now I can live and enjoy life but there are still days it is a struggle. Meds for this, yes get help and take them.

JanetM

Sorry, I misunderstood that it would ease, not eliminate grief. For me, I would still try to cope with grief without medication, but only if I felt my grief was nornal and not paralyzing.

awdrat

No, I would not, and I did not. Our 29 year old son was murdered 2 years ago. For a while I had a tough time sleeping. While I was at the doctors getting a check up, the doctor asked what had gone on the past few months. I told her that our oldest son was murdered and she instantly tried to put me on all kinds of meds. I decided I needed to use my faith and trust in God to get me through. So every night I would lay in bed and literally count all the blessings every given to me. I would lay there and say "Dear Heavenly Father, Thank you for .........." and I would repeat that over and over until I fell asleep.