Critical of own work?
#11
My husband is constantly telling me that I am way to critical and am trying to be a perfectionist (note - I said "trying"). So, I am trying hard to relax. I especially like the "I planned it that way" response.:)
#12
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My sister told me she is going to smack me if I don't stop criticizing everything I make. I just can't seem to help it. It pops out of my mouth before I can stop myself. Oh well, I will keep trying and trying and trying.
#13
Originally Posted by quiltinghere
I agree and will take the oath
I will accept compliments from everyone on my project.
I will graciously listen to opinions during the quilting process and make my own decisions on changes, if any :).
I will not point out any flaws to anyone once the project is completed.
I will tell people "I planned it that way" if they find any flaws. :) :) :)
I will accept compliments from everyone on my project.
I will graciously listen to opinions during the quilting process and make my own decisions on changes, if any :).
I will not point out any flaws to anyone once the project is completed.
I will tell people "I planned it that way" if they find any flaws. :) :) :)
I have one friend that always finds a flaw in my work, I know she is trying to help, but I wish she would look as close at her own work.
#14
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: California
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I was pressing some blocks I finished today and with every single one I was looking at all the 1 1/4" HSTs and seeing if there were any cut off points. I just had to STOP DOING THAT!! I did my best and try to tell myself that when it's all put together it will be fine!
#15
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Originally Posted by kwiltkrazy
I'll try to keep the oath, but my problem is I always think people are giving me compliments so my feelings won't get hurt. I know I am getting better all the time, and sometimes I even surprise myself.
I have one friend that always finds a flaw in my work, I know she is trying to help, but I wish she would look as close at her own work.
I have one friend that always finds a flaw in my work, I know she is trying to help, but I wish she would look as close at her own work.
That's not very nice for your friend to do that. I would never, ever, point out the flaws in someone's work, would only give advice or help if it is asked for. Let her know that you would like her to not do that and hopefully she will respect that.
#16
Originally Posted by quiltinghere
I agree and will take the oath
I will accept compliments from everyone on my project.
I will graciously listen to opinions during the quilting process and make my own decisions on changes, if any :).
I will not point out any flaws to anyone once the project is completed.
I will tell people "I planned it that way" if they find any flaws. :) :) :)
I will accept compliments from everyone on my project.
I will graciously listen to opinions during the quilting process and make my own decisions on changes, if any :).
I will not point out any flaws to anyone once the project is completed.
I will tell people "I planned it that way" if they find any flaws. :) :) :)
#18
The quilts we make have flaws and we know it - I think we feel like we have to vocalize our mistakes. Instead I suggest writing it down in your quilt journal (if you keep one) or just stand in front of the quilt and say out loud all of the flaws that are there and then let it go! My last conversation with a quilt went something like this ---- "I sure wish I had used a stop border on you before adding the large border....if I had used the same fabric as the binding, you would have been perfect....you look a little busy and confused....but you are going to a new home where you will be loved for all your flaws and I won't forget the important lesson I learned from you." No kidding - I talk to my quilts - lol -
I took a similar pledge a long time ago....if I don't praise my work, no one else will either.
I took a similar pledge a long time ago....if I don't praise my work, no one else will either.
#19
What a great idea ... why are we so critical of our work? I am a quilter because my great grandmother, my grandmother, and my mother-in-law were quilters and their quilts are great family treasures. As I look at their quilts today, I see that some of the colors are not what I would have chosen and a couple of points don't match, but they are still family treasures! I promise to give myself a break and do the very best I can on every quilt I make AND enjoy each one! Thanks, Ken ... visited Nova Scotia a few years ago ... absolutely beautiful area.
#20
I am critical of my work but I think it's more to the good than to the bad. I look for flaws in my work because I want to improve and I can't do that if I don't know what it is I'm doing wrong. Quilting, for me, is an adventure but it is also always growing and changing. If I'm not growing, I'm not having fun. That's just my personality though and I know many people who are comfortable with the skill level they are at, and I'm good with that too. I enjoy the challenge of mastering a new technique or improving on an old one. It's part of what makes quilting such an amazing experience for me.
Now I have learned not to point out the flaws in my work to others. Usually they don't notice them, but if they do then I know it is something I need to work on. And if the person looking at the quilt is not a quilter, I know they won't see any mistakes. You gotta love that! :-D
Now I have learned not to point out the flaws in my work to others. Usually they don't notice them, but if they do then I know it is something I need to work on. And if the person looking at the quilt is not a quilter, I know they won't see any mistakes. You gotta love that! :-D
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