Follow up on my quilt police visit.

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10-23-2011, 07:28 AM

#71

Kathy Osterby

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My Mom was fond of saying "You can think anything you like but don't just say it" and it sure saved my neck more than once. Too bad her cousin didn't know the saying.

10-23-2011, 07:31 AM

#72

valleyquiltermo

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All I can say for the young friends cuz, is that she can buy her quilts at wal-mart and wash them and see them fall apart. I have one in my shop for the proof is in the pudding so to speak. What a smart and lucky fellow to be well rid of her. Had she been my cuz I would have jerked her out by her hair and then open a can of whoop A$$ on her right in the yard, after her first commit. :evil: :twisted:

10-23-2011, 07:31 AM

#73

nancy59

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She was only trying to help me get better, because I was too old to know what I was doing

How can someone do this when they don't have the experience themselves. Unfortunately I have a niece who has this mind set and she is now 50. I don't think she will ever change.

10-23-2011, 07:48 AM

#74

pkelly1947

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If she had said those things to me, I would have bitten through my tongue trying to hold my tongue & then let her have it verbally (I hope) & then asked her to leave. You have much more restraint than I do.

10-23-2011, 07:56 AM

#75

dottientx

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Can you imagine this person at a bridal shower. Everyone would probably be wanting to pick up their gifts to her and leaving. What a wise fellow to break off his engagement to her. Can you imagine how unhappy he would have been! My name for someone like her is she's a DB and that doesn't mean 'Dumb Bunny'! Only thing I can say is that someone like her certainly makes the rest of us look really, really good.

10-23-2011, 07:58 AM

#76

moonwolf23

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Quote:

Originally Posted by YolandaW

You know I thought of the aspergers or bipolar thing myself while reading the original post. Having said that I still wouldn't have put up with her "opinions" without saying something.

I know plenty of Aspie, Autistic people. They don't act like donkeys hinds ends. There is a difference between bluntness and lack of social filters(and they will tell you btw) and a sanctimonious know it all, who feels the need to dress others down.

There is a time and a place, to dress others down. It is a fine art, that should be used but used when you don't have other resorts. It should not be used when you go to another crafters home to see their wares. If you don't like it, don't buy it. Art, Crafts are very subjective.

10-23-2011, 08:02 AM

#77

JCL in FL

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Quote:

Originally Posted by collady

First, I want to thank everyone on their comments.
Second, I posted the event as a rant, not seeking anything except a vent to allow my steam to escape.
Third, I received a call from my young friend this morning. She wanted to apologize for her cousin again. (Totally not necessary.) Then she told me the cousin had gone home to Florida early (Sorry all you who live in Florida.) She told my friend that she hoped that the friend would not have anything to do with me. I was rude to her! She was only trying to help me get better, because I was too old to know what I was doing. And besides, she could buy nice quilts at Wal-Mart and home-made stuff was just junk in her mind!

I am still laughing!

Oh, yes, my friend told me that the cousin was supposed to have been getting married the first of November, but the young man broke it off! (Smart fellow.)

I ache for the cousin. She is going to be so unhappy all of her life.

Sadly those gals somehow find men who tolerate their behavior and then they are on "BRIDEZILLA". It really makes you wonder doesn't it. How in the world they have survived this long.

10-23-2011, 08:05 AM

#78

Mad Mimm

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I can imagine your friend must have been mortified. I can't blame her. If I had a cousin like that, I'd be wishing for a hole in the earth to swallow me!! You are a wonderful example of gracious tolerance - I would love to have a friend like you!!! :thumbup:

10-23-2011, 08:14 AM

#79

eimay

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OH, my.

10-23-2011, 09:03 AM

#80

Margie

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Interesting you said that because I was thinking the same thing. Definitely no filter between her mind and her mouth.

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Originally Posted by Monroe

I wonder if the hypercritical young lady actually has Asberger's syndrome, a personality diagnosis on the autistic spectrum. Those I am very familiar with can only see things from their point of view, with absolutely no social filter on their speech. Generally very intelligent as in book smart, scoring well on Mensa superintelligent tests, but socially inept. Much of their "expertise" comes from books and computer searches, but unable to critically evaluate junk from truth. They cannot understand why their criticisms aren't well received because they are never wrong and are merely pointing out how smart they are.

I am glad your friend has someone who understands how difficult her cousin is, and you are able to help her thorough her embarrassment. Your tact was amazing! I'm afraid my fuse is quite a bit shorter.