Giving Quilts - No Reaction from Recipients
#11
I got this all the time from my mother no matter what I made for her she had to add to it or tell me where my mistakes were. Sure makes you feel not to good. Thanks for listening but I know how you feel
#12
I would finish it, give it to them and move on to something else. Like others have said, maybe they don't understand, but even if they don't like the quilt, that doesn't mean you did the wrong thing.
I try to make quilts that make me happy - if the recipient likes it, then so much the better.
Janet
I try to make quilts that make me happy - if the recipient likes it, then so much the better.
Janet
#13
I have only had one person send me negative vibes. It was my soon to be DIL. So I gave the quilt to someone else! I did make a huge rag quilt for her and my son after they were married, and she loved it (have also made quilts for each of their 4 children). This year I made a quilt for a very good friend's Father, because he is always cold, and he loved it. She sent me a picture of him and his quilt and he had huge smile on his face! He sent me roses to thank me. Love it when I am appreciated for my "talent".
#14
I did the same thing with my mother this Christmas. She was pretty quiet about it. She did say it was calm enough for her to look at it since it was only two colors (too my colors and crazy patterns gives her headaches) Any one else who saw it loved it and said what a lot of work it too to just get to this point.
On the other hand I gave my mil a quilt about 4 years ago and I have only seen it on her bed once.
On the other hand I gave my mil a quilt about 4 years ago and I have only seen it on her bed once.
#15
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It is disappointing when a gift that you work hard on is not appreciated. We make quilts and think of all the time, love, money and effort that goes into them. Some people see a quilt and think oh, nice blanket. There is not changing them, so just complete their quilt and move on. Move their name to the list of people who are not "quilt worthy".
#16
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quilts always look different when they are (completed) you will get a (bigger) response when it is all finished---when it is just a top Non-quilters seldom see what you see.
don't dispair---
and remember it is in the giving-that is the importance- if you are doing it for a response you will always be disappointed. if that should happen again prehaps just take a picture of the top- and put it in a card saying---not quite done yet- will be coming soon---they may be a little more (enthused) in their response=== non=quilters have no idea what really goes into making one- and seeing an unfinished top seldom impresses.
finish the quilt and give it as planned-
don't dispair---
and remember it is in the giving-that is the importance- if you are doing it for a response you will always be disappointed. if that should happen again prehaps just take a picture of the top- and put it in a card saying---not quite done yet- will be coming soon---they may be a little more (enthused) in their response=== non=quilters have no idea what really goes into making one- and seeing an unfinished top seldom impresses.
finish the quilt and give it as planned-
#17
I agree it is very disappointing when you give the gift of a quilt and the receipient doesn't seem to really appreciate what they have. I gave 11 quilts with coordinating pillowcase this Christmas and received 3 heartfelt thank you's. As I get older I have begun to realize that I can't place my expectations on others. I loved the process of making quilts and give a lot of time, energy, money and heart into each creation. My husband, it totally supportive and the above mentioned quilts were for his family and he loved what I could create for them. I told everyone that received a quilt that unless they had babies there would be no more quilts forth coming.
#18
I know how you feel. I have given to those that just say thank you, fold them up, put them in the closet and never to be seen again. Maybe the choice of fabric or color wasn't right, I don't know. I just know I won't make them another.
#19
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Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Brady TX
Posts: 6,613
Some people aren't very expressive. Any gifts given to my DH or DSonIL are always smiled on & a nice polite "that's nice" will be heard. Finish their quilt & enjoy the process. Their reaction isn't important.
#20
Since you said that you have given them a lap quilt and they liked it and display it, I would expect they will like the new one too. You may have caught them off-guard because it wasn't finished but I would trust their previous behavior and give it to them when finished.
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