mygirl66

You said it sister, Im with you! :thumbup:

lots2do

I fit in that age range mentioned above. And I really don't remember my own mother doing her own pleasurable hobbies while I was growing up. It's a shame. She put off things that would have made her happier (and emotionally healthier) in the long run. I sometimes feel the guilt but I know it's best not to just live through our family members...if that makes sense.

clem55

That sounds like the "old" me. I made myself a nervous wreck trying to do it all. Not anymore!! Now I do just what I want to do, when I want too. And it is soooooo much better!

tjradj

Guilt is a totally useless emotion.
I try not to entertain it.

pattypurple

If your family isn't starving and the health department hasn't condemned your house then you are doing OK. Enjoy your quilting without guilt.

Pat

sewwhat85

can i join that club lol

grann of 6

Yes, it is a woman thing :roll: We were taught by our mothers that we are supposed to be "housekeepers" and everything should be clean and tidy all the time. My mother didn't quilt but did sew everything we wore, curtains, everything. Quilting now is looked at as a "pasttime" or hobby so we feel guilty that we aren't doing the household things. To me it is important to feed the soul, and for me that is sewing and quilting. Our families wouldn't be very happy to live with us if we were just a drudge.

EskapetheNorm

I agree with this ... and when my college-aged daughter comes home and complains about the state of the house (this is the daughter that I don't think I saw the floor of her room but once a year while a teenager!) and how none of her brothers help out ... I think that life will even it all out. And we are working on the brothers helping out, just if I spend too much of my time nagging/reminding ... I get very cranky and don't like myself very much. Would rather have a little clutter.

nanna-up-north

I'm in that "June Cleaver as a role model" age group (64) as well. But I've decided on a different approach. If I don't get some of my fabric used up making quilts,..... what will my daughter do with all that stash???? I need to keep quilting ...... daughter and sister-in-law are already quibbling over who will get the quilt in my avitar once I'm gone.... I'd better keep quilting. It might keep the kids happier.

bevster

I have ALWAYS been unable to quilt with a house that needs cleaning. When I have the house spic and span I enjoy quilting so much more. I guess both have a therapy affect on a person - clean house, great quilting. Wow, that sound like something my Mother would have said like she always told me "clean in the corners" and the rest will take care of itself.