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Thread: My sister...feeling out of sorts???

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    Do you want to be able to say "I made her a quilt and I have done all I can to keep the family together", or do you want to be able to say "I made her a quilt I thought she would love"? Obviously she doesn't love/like flowers on fabric. Why would you use it? To spite her? It would be better to replace it with a solid than use a fabric you know she has already said she doesn't like. Where is the love in that? If the cost of the fabric is really the issue then sell the floral fabric and save up for the replacement fabric. People love quilts because of how the finished product looks, not because of the hours that was put into them - otherwise we would all cherish the child made products in the stores. What could be made more dearly than the labor of a child? It's a hard world.

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    just make it a rail fence and if she asks why, say "they have fences in the Country"....

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    Quote Originally Posted by TanyaLynn
    Do you want to be able to say "I made her a quilt and I have done all I can to keep the family together", or do you want to be able to say "I made her a quilt I thought she would love"? Obviously she doesn't love/like flowers on fabric. Why would you use it? To spite her? It would be better to replace it with a solid than use a fabric you know she has already said she doesn't like. Where is the love in that? If the cost of the fabric is really the issue then sell the floral fabric and save up for the replacement fabric. People love quilts because of how the finished product looks, not because of the hours that was put into them - otherwise we would all cherish the child made products in the stores. What could be made more dearly than the labor of a child? It's a hard world.
    I did not choose the flowers to spit her, I had asked on 3 seperate occasions, her ideas, what would she be interested in, colors, items, I wanted to have it personal to her likes. She first asked me at the time, if I could make skulls. I said I would look around for fabric. She told me, wait a minute, make it half country and half skulls. I said, I don't think that would look too well together. She said her boyfriend liked skulls. I told her well the quilt I was planning is one for you. I looked and looked and could not find anything I thought would suit my sister. I called and asked her again. She told me, well I like red, black and white. I said ok, that gives me something better to go on. I did not know what her view of country was, and when I asked her she was vague. I told her when we went across country to visit with our grandchildren, and I was near a quilt shop. I would look into something with red, black, and white, after a few hours in the quilt shop, DH put together this fabric. When I got home, I told her about it and everything was ok. When I sent her pictures, that is when she started tossing around about cowboys, horses, cowboy boots and things like that. I am making this quilt, because I love both my sisters and don't like to treat one better then the other. I know, no matter what fabric I chose, she would not be happy with it, she would always ask me to get something different. I've decided to make her the quilt. It's being made with both love from my heart and my love for making her a beautiful quilt. I don't think that making a quilt is anything to keep our family together. I don't think it ever will be, the 3 of us are separated by many miles.

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    Aren't flowers country?

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    if you need her to be happy with the quilt that is something that may not happen. If it is sufficient for you to be happy with the quilt and the act of giving, then go for it.

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    if you need her to be happy with the quilt that is something that may not happen. If it is sufficient for you to be happy with the quilt and the act of giving, then go for it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by j
    Tell her to buy the material and then perhaps she will get a feel for what it costs, let alone working on it time. Then you will have only spent time on it and if she doesn't like it. Its her fault. == J
    I agree that you could ask her to go to her LQS and check out what they have. Maybe she would find something she really likes and get a clue about today's prices.

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    Flowers grow in the country. That is country enough.

    Make it, but make it last. Take your sweet 'country' time.

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    Good luck on the quilt. I sincerely hope you enjoy making the quilt and I sincerely hope she likes it also. I understand you are making it with very good intentions. Perhaps she will receive it in the spirit that it is given. Please let us know how things turn out.

    I have a relative that would not use a hand made quilt if it was the wrong style or color to match her decorating unless the weather turned very cold and the furnace malfunctioned. So of course I would not put my time into the wrong style and color because it would be useless.

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    Quote Originally Posted by EagarBeez
    You think I should still make it??
    NO!!! Since she hasn't liked any of your picks, tell her if she wants a quilt she should go buy the material she likes, and then you will make something from it. Give her a yardage amount to buy for the size she wants.

    Why work on something that is going to be received in such a manner it will hurt your feelings and ruin your pleasure in the giving. If she is, as DH says, critical of everything you do, you need to pull up your big girl panties and just say NO. No one can take advantage of you without your permission.

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    I always pictured cowboys, boots, etc as being appropriate for a child's quilt. IMHO just can't imagine an adult wanting something like that. But whatever floats your boat. I would be tempted to get 'cowboy' fabric & just make a sandwich - & machine quilt it. If she's not a quilter she won't know the difference anyway and will probably never see the other sister's quilt to compare.

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    YES! And I personally think that your husband is a keeper!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lisa_wanna_b_quilter
    Only make her a quilt if making it will make you happy.
    Agreed. I would say forget it, but that's just me.

    I was going to make my husband a quilt about a year ago as a surprise, but I got too excited to contain it, so I went ahead and showed him the fabric I'd picked out, which would've worked perfectly for the pinwheel blocks I was planning. He didn't like the fabric! He said, "Oh...I wasn't expecting something like THAT....I mean, it's nice, I guess..." He's not typically an unappreciative person, but it just KILLED me.

    So I said forget it. It's not that I was punishing him by not making it, but any time I would sit down to work on it, I would remember his reaction, and my feelings would get hurt all over again. I just abandoned the project. I'll make him a quilt some day, but I just still don't feel like it yet.

    So if it makes you sad or frustrated to work on her quilt, then don't. But if you can still enjoy yourself, then go right ahead.

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    I love the fabrics and she will too. Just make the quilt the way you would if you were going to keep it.

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    Yes, make it for her. I think that you've forgotten that boy friends can come and go, but sisters stay for life.

    With my mass of sisters, I have no idea of how many boy friends (can remember all of their husbands) have come and gone, so remember, sisters stay..boyfriends can easily be replaced and often are. The next one might be someone who camps and wants pictures of the Spotted Owl on HIS quilt.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CoriAmD
    oh my goodness - I absolutely love those colors! Can you make a log cabin with them? Maybe you should ask her what exactly she means by "country". good luck! :)
    I agree - when I hear "country" I think of the early/earlier Thimbleberries designs in similar palettes. I asked my (Kentucky-born Marine) son-in-law what "country" meant to him and he said, "red, white and blue, since so many military members like country music." So, there you go!

    I also think that "country" may mean smaller-scale flowers to a lot of folks - let us know what your sister says when you ask her...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wunder-Mar

    I also think that "country" may mean smaller-scale flowers to a lot of folks - let us know what your sister says when you ask her...
    Yikes, that is so much lovelier than what I think of when I hear "country". I think of camouflage fabrics and lots of flannel. Haha

    But I have a sweet country scrap quilt my grandmother made. It has soft colors found in nature (browns, greens, creams) and small flower prints. Its something you'd find draped over a bed in a cabin in the woods. Very lovely, very simple. No camo.

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    Tell your sister to send you the fabric and pattern for the quilt she wants, you already paid for one, this time it is her turn.

    You will find a use for the red and black fabric at a later time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by gaigai
    Quote Originally Posted by EagarBeez
    You think I should still make it??
    NO!!! Since she hasn't liked any of your picks, tell her if she wants a quilt she should go buy the material she likes, and then you will make something from it. Give her a yardage amount to buy for the size she wants.

    Why work on something that is going to be received in such a manner it will hurt your feelings and ruin your pleasure in the giving. If she is, as DH says, critical of everything you do, you need to pull up your big girl panties and just say NO. No one can take advantage of you without your permission.
    I am inclined to agree with gaigai, let her pick out the material she likes. Give her the yardage of three choices and have her pick it out and mail to you. Then you will have some idea of what you are working with. It is hard to know what someone really likes unless you are around them in the present. I am sure she will love what you make from it. Good luck .

    Sharon

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    Maybe you should ask her what she means by "country". I get the feeling that she doesn't know what it takes to make a quilt, so she doesn't know what to ask for.

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    Have you tried homespun fabrics - these are really country-looking and come in all colors.

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    They are gorgeous but maybe if she doesn't like flowers I would leave the white background with the large flowers out of the mix.

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    The odds are her boyfriend could care less about a quilt...make it for her and if he expresses an interest then make him one....

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    Quote Originally Posted by labtechkty
    The odds are her boyfriend could care less about a quilt...make it for her and if he expresses an interest then make him one....
    Yes.

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    Yes, make it. It will be pretty. She probably just can't picture
    it in her mind what it would look like.

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