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Thread: Not everybody appreciates quilts

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    Super Member M.I.Late's Avatar
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    So many of us tisk-tisk someone who doesn't value the time and energy that goes into a homemade quilt. I really hate to see that. Ya know, I don't like sardines either, but I don't think I deserve to be treated differently because of it.

    We really should be grateful because it allows us opportunity to pick up great finds and adopt quilts that have been unloved.

    I think it's just as bad for us to judge someone as it is for them to discard something we hold so dear.

    Just know your gift recipients and don't make one of your precious quilts for someone who is not really interested - because it will eventually be discarded. (And one of us will be out there thrilled to snatch it up).

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    Unfortunately there are lots of people out there that done appreciate quilts. My mother is chief among them. She told me at least 4 times that I don't need to make her one. Oh Well, her loss, not mine... Made one for my dad and he uses it when he's sitting his chair and he's cold.

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    This is Countrygirl1's hubby. Up until 2 years ago my Miss Penny and I slept under a hand tied quilt my grandfather and step-grandmother made for me in 1970. Had to retire it to display only due to wear and tear. We routinely look for quilt tops at "estate sales" wherein uncaring "family" throw in a beautiful top that a relative didn't get to finish. Often, hand-stitched tops sell for $30 or less. SHAME ON YOU folks. Miss Penny lovingly finishes them, quilts them on her frame and we frequently look at it and remember the lady (or man) we did not get to know!!! Don

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    It is ok to not like something as M.I.Late said. We all dislike something.
    My DH would never want to walk into a craftmall, where crafts are for sale. He thinks we have enough "junk". That would insult alot of crafters to hear him call their wares junk. but to him that is what it is--nothing for him to use.
    Some people do not see the need for more than one "thing" that covers the bed to make themselves warm, and they see no difference other than different fabrics or colors. It isn't their forte' so to speak.
    That is their right.
    We just need to find a way for others who do appreciate quilts to not be so rude. I don't have an answer.

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    My hubby calls baskets "kindling" but he is entitled to his opinion especially since he supports my need to make things. It is pretty funny since I just ignore it anyway.

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    My DH thinks fat quarter are pretty rags to use as dishcloths. I found out he believed that by leaving stack of them on the kitchen counter.

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    This is so true. Many people just don't understand why quilting is an enjoyable hobbie. My dh is one of them, why take perfectly good fabric, cut it into small pieces and sew it back to together? and it's way more expensive then buying one from the store.

    I only give quilts to people who understand and actually like them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BellaBoo
    My DH thinks fat quarter are pretty rags to use as dishcloths. I found out he believed that by leaving stack of them on the kitchen counter.
    OMG! that's too funny. Buy him his very own microfiber rags for christmas :D

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    thank you for posting this.

    its a good reminder that people should give gifts that the person would like to receive not what we would like to give them.

    just because we like to quilt doesn't mean everyone we know should get a quilt (or other home made crafts) just so we can buy more fabric and make more quilts.

    i have never given anyone a quilt as a gift except my DH and he only has one.

    if the people in my life want a quilt they can buy one just like my other customers.

    i don't go to there place of business and ask for a gift or free stuff and they don't expect me to do that for them.

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    My quilts go to my family and I am so thankful that God gave me the children and grandchildren who appreciates hand done things. Great-grands are too young so far to know what they are going to like and dislike. Two of my grands have already told me what kind of quilt they want this year. They already have one each and they are really loved so guess it's time for another.LOL Grandma has to get busy.

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    (I don't like sardines either, or brussel sprouts!) Wouldn't life be boring if we all liked the same thing?

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    Very true :)

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    Quote Originally Posted by M.I.Late
    Just know your gift recipients and don't make one of your precious quilts for someone who is not really interested - because it will eventually be discarded.
    Ain't that some good advice. Even at that, people's tastes change and a quilt that made someone happy when first given may not suit the purpose in a new desing.

    I try really hard to let go when I give a quilt. Of course I love to hear that it is still being loved years later, but I'm as OK with the situation when I don't hear that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BellaBoo
    My DH thinks fat quarter are pretty rags to use as dishcloths. I found out he believed that by leaving stack of them on the kitchen counter.
    That is funny. :lol: :lol: :lol:

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    Those are the kind of people I would not want to know.

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    Sometimes, as quilters, we must develop a thick skin. Also we must remember THAT ONLY A QUILTER knows how much time, work, planning and $$$ goes into making a quilt! I once made a beautiful quilt with applique Scottie dogs on it because the recipient had a Scottie dog....she thought the quilt was for the dog and gave it to the dog. I was crushed, but I loved her, love her still and let it go....
    Michelle

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    I agree that it's ok not to like something. There are lots of things that other people love and I can't figure out the attraction. But I am very careful who I gift with one of my quilts. I know who will appreciate them & who won't so I don't set myself up for disappointment.

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    For us, it's one of the most heartfelt gifts we can give - but the recipient may just not feel the same as us. It's like any other gift to them except they can't exchange it at the store for something they've been wanting.

    Sometimes we also feel insulted if they put it away and don't use it. Because it's in a chest doesn't mean it's not still a treasure to them.

    Just remember that as the Holidays are coming around - try not to set yourself up for disappointment.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BellaBoo
    My DH thinks fat quarter are pretty rags to use as dishcloths. I found out he believed that by leaving stack of them on the kitchen counter.
    Oh, that is funny! Sad, but funny! :)

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    It's true some people don't appreciate home made gifts even tho most are better and made with a lot of thought and love put into them but we all can't like everything. Give to those who enjoy. Sue

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    After my MIL died, I inherited a beautiful, handquilted, double wedding ring with scalloped edges that some local quilters had made for her. It sat in a chair for close to 20 years and was filthy. I had to wash it three times just to get the dirt out. It is now on my bed. I never bothered to make her a quilt because I could see that she didn't appreciate them. She was a wonderful person in so many ways and raised a wonderful son that I dearly love, but for her, a quilt was just another blanket...everybody is different!

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    Great thread and well said. It's a good thing to keep in mind at any time of the year but especially at Christmas when we get stressed trying to get everyone gifts. I think a lot put so much of their hearts into their work(and there are a lot of really big hearts on this board). This is why I put my quilts away. When I'm gone, if my family wants them, they'll have a piece of me to "hug" them, if not I'll never know and won't be hurt if they use them to change the oil from their cars. I know we need to vent but we also need to realize that to some, our quilts are blankets and if they already have 25 blankets why would they want 1 more. So, as has been said, if you give a quilt to someone, know before hand that they will appreciate it or be ready to have them not value it the same as you do.

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    Quilts are art IMHO. Taste in art is individual. I wouldn't give someone a painting, a sculpture, a music CD or ticket to a concert without being very sure it is wanted/liked. It's not a good idea to give a Picasso to someone who loves Thomas Kinkade or hip-hop music to a Bach buff.

    The quilts I have made for family members have never been surprises but only after consulting about pattern & color. We all have wildly different opinions of how a quilt should look. If I do happen to give one not suited to taste or decor, I hope the recipient has sense enough to use it as a quilt was originally meant--for warmth, under a bedspread. Charity quilters understand this--warmth and durability are the purpose, beauty is a bonus.

    I don't have a solution to the hurt caused by unappreciated quilt gifts. I do believe many of the finished quilts and unfinished tops come on the market because of death--and the deceased is the last of a family--just like the sad (to me) boxes and albums of photographs at flea markets and antique shops. I cannot imagine discarding family photos, can you?

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    Yes, my friend made a baby quilt for a friend and later, while visiting, saw it in the dogs bed. Really hurt her feelings.

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    Years ago before I knew anything about quilting my mother's aunt passed away. While cleaning out her home family members came across a hope chest full of quilts she had made and I can remember one of my aunts asking my mother which of Mary's quilts she would like to have. Mother replied "Can I throw them in the washing machine? If not I don't want anything to do with them." My aunt replied "I don't think so".
    Well, I would have loved to have had one of them but I was only about 13 at the time and no one asked me if I would like to have one. I have made mother small wall hangings but nothing she can't throw in the washing machine. Ann in TN

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