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Thread: OK, so my long arm has to pay for itself-why doesn't his boat?

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    Senior Member Selena's Avatar
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    Don't get me wrong, I love my husband for insisting I get my LA because I wanted it. I have been working hard at learning how to use it. He thought I should be able to just go for it and make money. He doesn't have a clue what's involved. I love it and want to do this for money but not only that. I really enjoy doing the quilting. I feel like I have to fight for my time to quilt which doesn't help. When he wanted a boat, we bought a boat. It sits there 99% of the time. It certainly hasn't helped catch enough fish to justify the price. Also the $600 cross bow that he had to have for Christmas last year that is still decorating the corner of my living room-not even fired. He really doesn't deny me what I want if we can do it, not that I ask very often but why do I have to justify it? I got the camera I have wanted for over 30 years because I am the photographer for my EHC club. Why can't wives just have expensive toys?

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    A M E N !! :thumbup:

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    They can! and DON'T feel guilty about it! Life is short, enjoy your LA, earn money with it when you can - but don't stress over it! :thumbup:

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    Good questions!!!

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    My hubby supports my habits. I do limit myself though because we are like the majority of ppl, wanna get out of debt!

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    I remind my husband of this very fact...he spends money on his hobbies, but sometimes gets a little annoyed when I spend money on mine. I tell him "fair is fair and I'm spending my overtime money only". But why should I have to justify? He needs to get over it!!! LOL

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    I got my long arm by looking at the corvette in the garage. We can't drive it often because: it's raining. It's going to rain. it might rain. it rained last week etc.
    I told him that even if I quilted 5 quilts a year it would get used more that that car, and I wouldn't be paying for collision insurance to boot!

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    Tell him he needs to give people paid boat rides while you're quilting for hire LOL

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    :thumbup: :thumbup:

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    My hubby said something once about burning all the books I have and don't need etc. I told him we'd start the fire with those baseball cards he has. He's never said another word.

    Fair is fair.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Scissor Queen
    My hubby said something once about burning all the books I have and don't need etc. I told him we'd start the fire with those baseball cards he has. He's never said another word.

    Fair is fair.
    Hahaha love this one!! :thumbup: :thumbup:

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    Quote Originally Posted by PaperPrincess
    I got my long arm by looking at the corvette in the garage. We can't drive it often because: it's raining. It's going to rain. it might rain. it rained last week etc.
    I told him that even if I quilted 5 quilts a year it would get used more that that car, and I wouldn't be paying for collision insurance to boot!
    I like your line of thinking !!

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    Boys & toys...

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    I know I always think I have to make money to pay for my quilting and embroidery, seems I just can't have fun and use it for my own enjoyment. You are right about men buying expensive toys and then just letting it sit, no way do think I need to make money to pay for my hobby.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sueisallaboutquilts
    Tell him he needs to give people paid boat rides while you're quilting for hire LOL
    :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup:

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    My husband said almost the same thing, he has a motorcycle not a boat.
    Quote Originally Posted by Selena
    Don't get me wrong, I love my husband for insisting I get my LA because I wanted it. I have been working hard at learning how to use it. He thought I should be able to just go for it and make money. He doesn't have a clue what's involved. I love it and want to do this for money but not only that. I really enjoy doing the quilting. I feel like I have to fight for my time to quilt which doesn't help. When he wanted a boat, we bought a boat. It sits there 99% of the time. It certainly hasn't helped catch enough fish to justify the price. Also the $600 cross bow that he had to have for Christmas last year that is still decorating the corner of my living room-not even fired. He really doesn't deny me what I want if we can do it, not that I ask very often but why do I have to justify it? I got the camera I have wanted for over 30 years because I am the photographer for my EHC club. Why can't wives just have expensive toys?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Selena
    Don't get me wrong, I love my husband for insisting I get my LA because I wanted it. I have been working hard at learning how to use it. He thought I should be able to just go for it and make money. He doesn't have a clue what's involved. I love it and want to do this for money but not only that. I really enjoy doing the quilting. I feel like I have to fight for my time to quilt which doesn't help. When he wanted a boat, we bought a boat. It sits there 99% of the time. It certainly hasn't helped catch enough fish to justify the price. Also the $600 cross bow that he had to have for Christmas last year that is still decorating the corner of my living room-not even fired. He really doesn't deny me what I want if we can do it, not that I ask very often but why do I have to justify it? I got the camera I have wanted for over 30 years because I am the photographer for my EHC club. Why can't wives just have expensive toys?

    We can and I do, and my husband knows better than to argue the point. Not with all his expensive camping gear and computer equipment around the house. Sounds like you need to say exactly what you wrote to your husband.

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    Love all these replys. Here is a few more. What about husbands that golf? Do they all make money from golfing? Do they really NEED all those clubs? Another one is motorcycles. Don't get me wrong, I love to ride on our bikes but how can one person ride more than one bike at a time? My DH loves to buy cheap with intentions of fixing up and resaleing. Yea, right. Ask how many have actually been resold. Well, a hobby is just that, a hobby. Not an income. My DH always wants to know how much I'll have to sell to pay for whatever I want. The next time I'm going to say zero, it's my hobby and I just want to enjoy life! Love you all. CarmenGsTreasures.etsy.com

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    ya got some "really good" chuckles there...especially starting the fire with the baseball cards--
    now THAT's being Assertive!

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    speak to him, he sounds like a very reasonable and kind man from your description.

    i don't see why you should hold these feelings in and express them to people on a board when you could be talking to your DH.

    i'm sure if you explained it to him just like you did here he would agree with you and your relationship will be better for it.

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    My problem is my dh doesn't spend money on himself. He has no expensive hobbies, he's super frugal. When he bought his new bike he bought me one to. When he bought a new computer, he bought me one the following year. So it's hard for me to justify buying expensive toys for myself.

    He's a gamer, and only plays the free ones on line. So I don't even have WoW to compare it to.

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    For me its the opposite. My wife questions why I buy fabric. So I've been trying to let her pick things out with me online.

    But once in a while something catches my eye, and I have to sneak a purchase in. In fact, today I'm "working from home" so I can get the mail with the new fabric before she sees it.

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    Looking at it from another angle....when the two of you were deciding on purchasing the LA, did you ever mention that you hope to make money from doing others quilts on it? Especially trying to justify why it was needed or could be used? If you did, it might have been that you put the bug in his ear.

    DH and I each have "fun money" -- it generally works for our hobbies but something like a LA would have to come out of general savings/budget/credit.

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    amen,us girls need toys also

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    THANK YOU!!!!!!!! I like the line I'll help you start your business but I want my money back!!!! If I could count and have the money my husband has spent on his business (which went belly up by the way) I'd be rich!

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