Welcome to the Quilting Board!

Already a member? Login above
loginabove
OR
To post questions, help other quilters and reduce advertising (like the one on your left), join our quilting community. It's free!

Page 1 of 7 1 2 ... LastLast
Results 1 to 25 of 152

Thread: Quilts arent appreciated?

  1. #1
    Senior Member momto4's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2009
    Location
    Wausau WI GO PACK!!!
    Posts
    768
    Blog Entries
    1
    Does it make you feel sad when you give someone a quilt that you spent a lot of time (and money) on and they do not appreciate it or realize how much time you put into it. I only give quilts to people who are really important to me since they do take so much time and money. I obviously dont want to say ... do you realize i put x amount of hours and spent X on this for fabric and quilting, but sometimes feel like I should LOL. I know it isnt intentional and I didnt realize how much they cost or how many millions of hours us ladies spend on them before I started either!! Do your friends and family realize what goes in to making a quilt?

  2. #2
    Super Member Maggiesmom's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2009
    Location
    Middle Tennessee
    Posts
    2,014
    Blog Entries
    1
    My husband does. He often shakes his head.

  3. #3
    Super Member MaryStoaks's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2008
    Location
    La Quinta, CA
    Posts
    3,925
    My family loves their quilts but they think I whip them up at the drop of a hat (and free!).

  4. #4
    Senior Member harrishs's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2010
    Location
    Council Bluffs, Iowa
    Posts
    824
    And some think that if you machine quilt, that is is quick and easy with no talent needed. I like to gently educate them!

  5. #5
    Banned
    Join Date
    Jan 2011
    Posts
    531
    Well, in this area, I think I'm blessed. My husband and my daughter see how much I put into each quilt and both are not only my strongest supporters, but my most appreciative recipients! :D The rest of my family and friends treasure their quilts too. But I have to admit, most have asked me at one time or another in general conversation how much time and effort goes into a quilt so it was easy to educate them. Some were surprised at the time and money involved, but all appreciate their quilts and seem to know their value, both sentimental and monetary. :-)

  6. #6
    Super Member happymrs's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2010
    Location
    NC
    Posts
    1,231
    Yes, sad to say, many don't appreciate them. I am very careful who I gift any quilt to, but it's still hard. I want to share with alot more, but I don't, cause I know how alot of people are. I would love for friends & family to visit, & say " I absolutely love this quilt!". Then, knowing how they feel, I would probably say, take it home with you then. But, we seldom have company, so that's not an option either, unfortunately. Most I just keep, unless I find a good home for them elsewhere...

  7. #7
    Super Member pumpkinpatchquilter's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2011
    Location
    NE Ohio
    Posts
    1,374
    Quote Originally Posted by MaryStoaks
    My family loves their quilts but they think I whip them up at the drop of a hat (and free!).
    Ditto that here. I have made my Mother in Law two large lap quilts and a half dozen or more runners/hangings/decor and it's still not enough. While I know she doesn't mean to be rude, she is now pressing me for a photo quilt but doesn't realize how much time and expense goes into a quilt like that - I haven't even made a photo quilt for myself yet!

    I would just love to make everyone what they want me to make them but I have two kiddos and one on the way...I barely have time to wipe my behind let alone make the long list of quilts everyone wants from me. I should get a tax break or something! LOL* We also live on one income!!!

    Then there's my Mom who I have given elaborate paper pieced and hand quilted wallhangings and runners at her request and love her to death but just won't make a bed quilt for because she hasn't done a darn thing with the things I've already made her.

  8. #8
    Power Poster PaperPrincess's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2010
    Location
    Michigan
    Posts
    10,464
    Blog Entries
    2
    I usually don't gift quilts (or handmade anything) unless specifically requested. I have things I've made around the house and if somone admires them, I'll gift it then and there. I do give quilts to children and expect that they would much rather have a new game for their nintendo. Sometimes I'm pleasantly surprized. My mom always said that the gift is for the recipient, not the giver. So if I get an inkling they would rather have a gift card to Target, that's what they get. In my circle of sewing friends I hear so many stories of people being disappointed in the recipients reactions, from the same people over and over! One woman said that the entire time she was working on the quilt she thought about how happy the person was going to be when she gave it to her, and was disappointed. Don't know. I guess it's just me I think that some folks just set themselves up for disappointment. A quilt is a big investment in time and money for it to be given unrequested. OK you probably all hate me now!

  9. #9
    bev195000's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2010
    Location
    STAFFORDSHIRE
    Posts
    223
    I think all quilters think the same way as you.
    Some not all just see a quilt and ignore the amount of detail and work that has been put into it it can be quiet upsetting for the quilt maker but hey i always think well i know i made this i know the amount of work i put into it and it has been a pure joy and as long as i know that that is all that matters,

  10. #10
    Banned
    Join Date
    Mar 2010
    Location
    Sturbridge, Ma
    Posts
    4,014
    yes, each year for the pst 5 or 6 I have made a special wallhanging for a local charity thinking it was being raffled off to raise money. I suspect and will find out that they have been used as door prizes at the event.
    If this is try, they won't get any more from me.

  11. #11
    Power Poster sueisallaboutquilts's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2010
    Location
    Ohio
    Posts
    17,462
    I really don't expect non-quilters to understand what goes into a quilt.
    My family love and appreciate them. They get the quilts!! :D

  12. #12
    The Creative Seamstress's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2010
    Posts
    388
    LOL, I say we all make it a prerequisite to anyone who wants to ask any of us for a quilt - that they come to this board and research what it takes to make a quilt. People simply have NO idea or conception of how involved a process it is overall and the fact that it truly is an art form. While this may sound brash (and I don't mean too) at the end of the day, only people deserving of my hard work will recieve them and if they aren't already in that catagory - then they can pay me for my consultation, time, materials and services! My money doesn't grow on trees, and I'm not going to waste the same on putting forth time and effort for others who will not appreciate those efforts and all the love I put into a project no matter how big or small. That's just the ABC's of me and I don't pull any punches!

    Explosive blessings, abundance and inspiration to you all!
    - The Creative Seamstress

  13. #13
    Super Member hobbykat1955's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2010
    Location
    NY
    Posts
    2,733
    Only give to people I know appreciate my work...

  14. #14
    Banned
    Join Date
    Nov 2010
    Location
    Michigan
    Posts
    2,084
    yep, I feel your frustration. The good news is you have all of us who know exactly how much money and time you put in to them :-)

  15. #15
    Senior Member cowpie2's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2010
    Location
    St. Paul, MN
    Posts
    517
    My two boys always have standing requests for the "next" quilt and they cherish them. Which totally blows my mind since they are currently 17 and 21. Since I hand quilt I don't produce a lot and I only gift to those who I know would truly enjoy the gift. As someone else said, the gift is for the recipient not the giver so give something the recipient would enjoy. That being said, my mom oohs and aaahs over some that I have made but doesn't want one because I put too much work into them and she wouldn't appreciate it as much as she thinks they should be appreciated.

    I also know some (my son's girlfriend), who hasn't a clue on the work or the cost and wouldn't really appreciate one. So I simply don't have her on the list.

  16. #16
    Super Member newbee3's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2010
    Location
    Central Iowa
    Posts
    1,859
    Blog Entries
    2
    It is like anything done by hand or machine by someone instead of a factory people just don't realize the time and money unless they do some sort of craft themselves

  17. #17
    Senior Member momto4's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2009
    Location
    Wausau WI GO PACK!!!
    Posts
    768
    Blog Entries
    1
    Quote Originally Posted by The Creative Seamstress
    LOL, I say we all make it a prerequisite to anyone who wants to ask any of us for a quilt - that they come to this board and research what it takes to make a quilt. People simply have NO idea or conception of how involved a process it is overall and the fact that it truly is an art form. While this may sound brash (and I don't mean too) at the end of the day, only people deserving of my hard work will recieve them and if they aren't already in that catagory - then they can pay me for my consultation, time, materials and services! My money doesn't grow on trees, and I'm not going to waste the same on putting forth time and effort for others who will not appreciate those efforts and all the love I put into a project no matter how big or small. That's just the ABC's of me and I don't pull any punches!

    Explosive blessings, abundance and inspiration to you all!
    - The Creative Seamstress
    ROTFLMAO I am totally in! :P

  18. #18
    Super Member gale's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2007
    Location
    North-Central Indiana
    Posts
    4,637
    Blog Entries
    1
    I haven't given many away but it makes me nervous to think about giving them to people who may not appreciate it. I gave one to my MIL and she thought it took me a year or so to make it (it took me about 2-3 weeks). Then I gave her a pillow and she thought it was store bought until she saw my name on the back. She's been fretting about getting it dirty-I told her not to worry-that it's washable. It's nice that she appreciates them so much. My mom does also but she sews so she knows what goes into them.

  19. #19
    Senior Member Rachel's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2009
    Location
    Iowa
    Posts
    918
    Labels should read:

    Fabric - $300.00
    Time to make quilt - $1200.00
    Showing us how much you apprecate what we made for you - priceless.

  20. #20
    Super Member Jennifer22206's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2010
    Location
    state of confusion
    Posts
    4,775
    Blog Entries
    4
    the best reaction that I ever had was from my husbands grandmother, who at the time was in her mid 90's. She couldn't see too well anymore, and I wanted to do something special, so I made her a black and white log cabin. She looked at me and started to cry because someone thought of her and that I had made it just for her AND that she could see it. (well the pattern anyway)

    I've had my fair share of people not appreciating things, and honestly, that's ok. They're not on my list anymore.

  21. #21
    Super Member quiltlonger's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2010
    Location
    Rushford, NY
    Posts
    1,690
    I have a quilter friend who loves QVC shopping channel, she started using it for quilt color ideas and patterns now she buys her quilts there! Complains can't compete with a King size with free shams and tote for $39.00 with free shipping! and tole free call,,and about 20 minutes watching tv for the perfect quilt who can?? It is not only money and time it is the emotions I think we put into the quilt that makes it so much more valuable

  22. #22
    Super Member
    Join Date
    Feb 2010
    Location
    Ft. Myers, Florida
    Posts
    1,021
    Quote Originally Posted by MaryStoaks
    My family loves their quilts but they think I whip them up at the drop of a hat (and free!).
    Sounds EXACTLY like my family and friends :lol: :roll: :lol:

  23. #23
    Super Member
    Join Date
    Jul 2010
    Location
    Ohio
    Posts
    2,045
    You should be giving a gift to make the receipent happy not to get compliments for yourself. Do you feel the same way about no appreciation when you give a store bought gift that you may have spent a lot of money on?. What do you expect person to do - jump up and down when they receive you quilt. The quilt should be made with love and given with love with no other expectations. Sounds like you are giving gifts for the wrong reason.

  24. #24
    Junior Member
    Join Date
    Jan 2011
    Location
    Iowa
    Posts
    294
    My family is well educated and every quilt I've given has been appreciated. Some are now well-worn with use, and that's okay, because I don't make them to be showpieces! That being said, though, I think we have to understand and accept that not everyone has the same love affair with quilts that we do. Yes, they take many hours and $$ and love, but that doesn't automatically make them a treasured item in everyone's eyes.

    It's like any art - we have our own tastes and preferences. And if the recipient isn't someone who cares for items made by hand (whether it be quilts, wood carving, knitted/ crocheted items, watercolor paintings, etc.), that's their choice. Yes, it means a lot to us to make something for them, but if they don't accept the gift with the same enthusiasm, we shouldn't be upset about it. We shouldn't expect them to suddenly fall in love with a quilt just because we made it for them.

    It hurts to give a gift and have it "rejected," so before I make a quilt for someone, I make sure it is someone who really does want one because they love the idea of having something I made and will appreciate the love and time put into it.

  25. #25
    Junior Member
    Join Date
    Jan 2011
    Location
    Iowa
    Posts
    294
    P.S. By "well educated" in my previous post, I mean my family is aware of the value of the work I put into my quilts!

Page 1 of 7 1 2 ... LastLast

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  

SEO by vBSEO ©2011, Crawlability, Inc.