Rude quilters
08-31-2010, 05:40 PM
#191
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I once went to a sit and chat event at a local quilt shop, where I saw a woman who immediately reminded me of a homeless person. I thought she might have come in off the street for some food and coffee. Thankfully, I kept my thoughts to myself. While shopping in the store after the session, I learned that the woman had a PhD in engineering and was one of the store's best quilt designers. I would never have been rude, but I felt guilty about my poor snap judgment. Thanks for reminding me that all of us are sensitive--and rightly so--about people who judge us and treat us unfairly.
08-31-2010, 05:42 PM
#192
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Life is too short to waste time with that kind of an attitude -- don't take it personally and keep your chin up!
08-31-2010, 05:48 PM
#193
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I'd love to know what actually happened--as you can tell by the responses, we're all friends here and supportive of you. If you let the rest of us know how you were treated badly, we can be sure none of us are guilty of bad behavior in similar circumstances! Or quilty.
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08-31-2010, 05:49 PM
#194
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I'm not sure what a traditional quilter looks like. It's obviously not me. I'm in my fifties, have brown hair, but don't wear white shirts, only white underclothes. I dislike snobby, uppity, "I know everything about quilting" and "I'm perfect at everything" people. There is always something to learn and to share in a NICE manner. Sophie
08-31-2010, 05:58 PM
#195
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Originally Posted by Chasing Hawk
Originally Posted by momski
I went to the Milwaukee Art Museum to see the American Quilt exhibits and was confronted with some really rude quilters who treated me like a idiot. I won't go into specifics, I just wanted to remind everyone that quilters come in all shapes, sizes and ages. Don't assume someone doesn't know what they are talking about just because they don't look like your traditional quilter.
And if you are a lady in your 50's, brown hair, white shirt w/ print who was visiting the museum today with 2 other ladies of the same age who snickered at a young mom wearing a Mariners shirt.... I hope your sewing machine eats every last one of your quilts!
And if you are a lady in your 50's, brown hair, white shirt w/ print who was visiting the museum today with 2 other ladies of the same age who snickered at a young mom wearing a Mariners shirt.... I hope your sewing machine eats every last one of your quilts!
I dislike rude people. What exactly does a "traditional quilter" look like?
I am a quilter, but I don't exactly look "traditional.
As for the museum quilt show, I heard a quote today that also works for these situations.
" If I have to pull up my Big Girl panties and deal with it one more time, the elastic is going to break and I really will have to show my a**!"
I, too, try never to dignify twits with anything more than a snicker as I walk off.
08-31-2010, 06:18 PM
#196
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Originally Posted by puzzler
I once went to a sit and chat event at a local quilt shop, where I saw a woman who immediately reminded me of a homeless person. I thought she might have come in off the street for some food and coffee. Thankfully, I kept my thoughts to myself. While shopping in the store after the session, I learned that the woman had a PhD in engineering and was one of the store's best quilt designers. I would never have been rude, but I felt guilty about my poor snap judgment. Thanks for reminding me that all of us are sensitive--and rightly so--about people who judge us and treat us unfairly.
Personally, I would not have thought that rude, but a greater kindness.
08-31-2010, 06:29 PM
#197
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You are so funny; I too wish many times of seam ripper use in their narrow futures ! I would probably have given them a scathing look and then loudly wondered to myself if they even remember being a beginner! But then, I tend to say off the wall things all the time!!
08-31-2010, 06:38 PM
#198
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wow, sorry you were treated so badly, nobody deserves that. I've had to put up with that sort of thing at quilt camps so I know what you mean. Hang in there and don't take it personally! Their jerks.
08-31-2010, 07:05 PM
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This has been such a GOOD thread to read. There are so many more NICE quilters than the rude ones at that show. Unfortunately, it only takes 1 person with a big mouth to make you feel bad - IF WE LET THEM! So I'm going to try to take the good advice you've all give:
I'm going to try to be patient when I'm standing in a long line - sometimes I forget to be.
I'm going to ignore rude people - better yet - I think I'll just smile at them as if I didn't hear what they said. I like the advice about not lowering myself to their level.
I'll never remember the come-backs anyway!
I'm going to try to be patient when I'm standing in a long line - sometimes I forget to be.
I'm going to ignore rude people - better yet - I think I'll just smile at them as if I didn't hear what they said. I like the advice about not lowering myself to their level.
I'll never remember the come-backs anyway!
08-31-2010, 07:14 PM
#200
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Originally Posted by momski
I went to the Milwaukee Art Museum to see the American Quilt exhibits and was confronted with some really rude quilters who treated me like a idiot. I won't go into specifics, I just wanted to remind everyone that quilters come in all shapes, sizes and ages. Don't assume someone doesn't know what they are talking about just because they don't look like your traditional quilter.
And if you are a lady in your 50's, brown hair, white shirt w/ print who was visiting the museum today with 2 other ladies of the same age who snickered at a young mom wearing a Mariners shirt.... I hope your sewing machine eats every last one of your quilts!
And if you are a lady in your 50's, brown hair, white shirt w/ print who was visiting the museum today with 2 other ladies of the same age who snickered at a young mom wearing a Mariners shirt.... I hope your sewing machine eats every last one of your quilts!
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