went to first guild meeting, felt like an intruder - what would you do?
#81
Originally Posted by PatriceJ
talk to your friend about it. because people are different, the groups they form are different. there may be an explanation for their apparent cold shoulders that turns out to make sense.
consider going one more time and then trust your instincts. if they don't lure you into the fold it will be their loss. you still have us. ;-)
consider going one more time and then trust your instincts. if they don't lure you into the fold it will be their loss. you still have us. ;-)
With all due respect, I fail to understand HOW and WHY a cold shoulder could turn out to make sense. Unless the visitor is appearing cold. Sometimes groups that have been together for a long time tend to become a bit cliqueish. That always makes a newcomer feel unwanted. I think that's probably the reason that I haven't joined the guild in the next town from here and the group at the public library. I have a hard time joining a new situation.
Good luck. As Patrice suggested, give them another try.
#82
I belong to a quilt "group", not a guild. We get together once a week, help each other and just enjoy our time. There is no real structure to it. We do have a lady that oversees it and teaches us a lot of stuff but no dues and no ridged rules. I have gone to a couple of guild meetings and found them to be to "stuffy" for my taste. I guess they are just used to each other.
#85
Originally Posted by Late Bloomer
I have never joined a guild bt have attended events that showcased their work. What exactly does one do at the meetings? One cannot quilt without a hoop or rack, so does one do hand piecing? Do you bring your sewing machine to work on tops? That is a mystery that I have no knowledge of. Would apprreciate some inside info. Thanks.
I started going as a way to get out and do something different and be around other quilters.(I am a stay at home mom of 3 boys)
I hope that you find one that is good for you, and as friendly and enjoyable as the one I go to.
#86
Member
Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: South Florida
Posts: 74
This can happen with any group; church, quilt guilds, Weight Watchers, etc. I feel that it is up to a great extent to whoever is running the meeting to make sure that the new person is introduced and paired off with an old member, sort of like a hospitality chair. The group I belong to meets for 4 hours once a week; we break for lunch. Even if we don't have a project to work on, we are welcome to come and see what others are doing, stay for lunch and just chat if that's our thing for the week. Good luck on finding a group you like and feel comfortable with.
#87
This is exactly why I quit the guild I belonged to. These women were cliquey and rude to newcomers. This wasn't the way I was taught so I moved on. The Show & Tell is great, but not if you aren't comfortable. Just my $.02 worth.
I now belong to a group of ladies that meet at the library once a month. There are about 15 of us. We are not a guild and there are no dues. Just a short lesson and Show & Tell. Everyone is friendly and we have a nice evening. Maybe you could start something like this.
I now belong to a group of ladies that meet at the library once a month. There are about 15 of us. We are not a guild and there are no dues. Just a short lesson and Show & Tell. Everyone is friendly and we have a nice evening. Maybe you could start something like this.
#88
Senior Member
Join Date: May 2010
Location: Iowa
Posts: 589
Hey, you must be talking about the guild that meets here!!! All they talked about was how to do a quilt show. For next year!! I went by my self and talked to myself...had the best time ever.LOL
Have not went back.
Have not went back.
#89
Super Member
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: Appleton, WI
Posts: 1,008
The same thing happened to me about 3 years ago. I recently took a class at one of the more popular quilt stores this past February. The instructor called everyone by their first name; and even though I had introduced myself to her, she never once acknowledged I exsisted. Never once did she come over and see how I was doing. I am finding the internet is the only way to become a part of a "group". FYI, by no means am I shy so that is not the reason. I think "clicks" form and that is that. :cry:
#90
Super Member
Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Oregon
Posts: 3,369
I find it hard to accept that anyone could give the cold shoulder to someone like the folks we have on this forum. I look forward every day to reading posts here; they are so helpful, there is a broad range of abilities and experience, and everyone has always, without fail, been positive and encouraging. I figure none of us knows everything, and we're all "ignorant" of something - we just haven't learned it yet! If you choose not to go back, you may want to put the word out in your neighborhood or church that you are starting a group yourself. It may start very small, but you can set the tone of friendliness and helpfulness.
We sure like you!
We sure like you!
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