went to first guild meeting, felt like an intruder - what would you do?
#12
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Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: New to Manchester New Hampshire
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Keep going back. I felt the same way 10 yrs ago. I was and still am shy among people I dont know. I forced myself to go back and basically I table hopped if only to say a few words to other people. I'm glad I did this and now when a new member joins I make a point of bringing her to our table and encourage her to "walk" around and feel out the other members. Dennise
#15
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Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: Northern Michigan
Posts: 12,861
sometimes guild members get so 'caught up' in their own little world they do not like to look past it. change is hard for everyone...i am one who was very unhappy at our local guild...after 3 years of paying dues and participating, volunteering for all kinds of stuff...there were a few people who were friendly, but for the most part...not so much...i finally decided to not give up dues money any longer to be treated like a second class citizen. i can make donation quilts and participate in local activities on my own with out them. then i really got lucky and found a little sewing group who gets together a couple times a month during the winter that is WONDERFUL! they love new people, new ideas and friendships...welcomed me with open arms and i have made some wonderful friendships through them. the group is somewhere between 12-20 people each meeting, we help each other, teach each other, have show and tell, it is all very good...and i do not miss the local guild AT ALL.
ask at your local quilt shops if there are any small groups getting together you may find the perfect for you group.
ask at your local quilt shops if there are any small groups getting together you may find the perfect for you group.
#16
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Join Date: Jul 2008
Posts: 81
I personally would check out the other group first.
If it is important for you to try the first group again, I would only go one more time. In my opinion, these people may be displaying poor manners and I would not be that concerned about fitting into their clique. In a group setting that you have to pay dues, no one should be made to feel that way. I am not saying everyone needs to shower you with appreciation for showing up. I am saying a few people and the leaders should have insured that you were brought into the group a bit more.
One more time should let ya know.
If it is important for you to try the first group again, I would only go one more time. In my opinion, these people may be displaying poor manners and I would not be that concerned about fitting into their clique. In a group setting that you have to pay dues, no one should be made to feel that way. I am not saying everyone needs to shower you with appreciation for showing up. I am saying a few people and the leaders should have insured that you were brought into the group a bit more.
One more time should let ya know.
#18
I'd try one more time, and I'd check the other group....you might want to check with the county extention agent and see if there are any other doll clubs that specialize in making dolls...if there aren't, start one! :)
Oh...and I want to see your dolls Miz Nancy! ;)
Oh...and I want to see your dolls Miz Nancy! ;)
#20
I'd probably go back and give them another chance. The guild I attend has about 50 folks each time, but not all the same ones. About 25 regulars are there each time. I joined not knowing anyone in the group and it honestly took about 6 visits to build some friendships there. They are all very nice, but they get caught up in the topic of the night, the business on the agenda, and catching up on mutual friends. I haven't been able to attend much since I've been doing the Austin/Lubbock split. It's one of the things I'm looking forward to most about being home full time again in a few months. I attend an evening guild when I'm there, but I think I'm going to check out the one that meets during the day also.
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