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Thread: What would you do Giftwise?

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    What would you do Giftwise?

    Well, despite my best efforts, I did not finish both of my twin grandbabies' quilts. Dumb rookie mistakes that created too many unsewing sessions.

    I have the little girl's 99% finished (still needs to applique her name on when we know for sure what it'll be), and a label. I am also still debating whether I'll put a fuzzy faux wool lamb applique on. Baby boy's quilt top is finished; that's it.

    The baby shower is tomorrow. ( I would have made considerable more progress on the quilt tonight except that I had committed to helping decorate for the shower and make food at my DIL's mom's house-- which took 5 hours,f including travel).

    I have two big-ticket gifts off her registry so I won't be empty-handed, but I won't have both quilts ready to give, either. What would you do?

    1) give neither quilt till both are finished
    2) give one and say the other one will be done soon
    3) something else

    I'm disappointed in myself and feeling grouchy. But there's no way I could baste, quilt, and bind the second one before tomorrow.
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    I'd go with the gifts you have and tell the parents that "of course there will be quilts, but they aren't quite ready yet".

    One of the newish trends in child care that I was surprised about is not using blankets until the children are a year old, just sleeper suits up until then.

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    We have presented a quilt top more than once for baby or wedding gifts and said we had to take it back to complete it. You sort of have an out for this approach if you don't know baby girl's name.

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    Quote Originally Posted by wesing View Post
    We have presented a quilt top more than once for baby or wedding gifts and said we had to take it back to complete it. You sort of have an out for this approach if you don't know baby girl's name.
    We know her name, but they are still working on a middle name for his.

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    If both tops are done enough to take a picture, I would have them printed and enclose in the card. You could say they will be finished when the babies arrive.

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    I was going suggest a picture, too. I would not purchase anything else.

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    What I do for each of the nieces/nephews in the family is make them a personalized needlepoint Christmas stocking for their first Christmas. For SIL's baby shower, one of the 'gifts' I gave her was snippets of needlepoint canvas; embroidery floss; velvet - all the components of the stocking - and a generic photo in a small jewelry box. She was quite confused until it was explained and then thought it a cute gift. Perhaps some snippets of the quilt makings along with photos of the quilts in their current state with the explanation of being completed for babies' arrival?

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    I sympathize. I have been known to put the last stitch into a binding while waiting for the shower venue doors to open. (Still can't master machine binding). I work more productively under deadlines, but sometimes cut it close. Don't be too hard on yourself-quilts are truly special gifts and are worth waiting for.

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    I think your wonderful quilt and quilt top may be overlooked to some extent in the hubbub of the shower. It may be more special to present them after the babies arrive. You already have gifts for the shower and you've already heavily contributed in labor, love and supplies to it as well.
    Now, if folks will be there who may not see the quilts later, that would be another consideration.
    Now, try to be kind to yourself. You've gone above and beyond!

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    Why not take both quilts so that they will be appreciated at the shower? And then explain that they are not finished and you'll take them home with you. IMHO that's the best solution. Just enjoy the occasion! It shouldn't be stressful.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SillySusan View Post
    Why not take both quilts so that they will be appreciated at the shower? And then explain that they are not finished and you'll take them home with you. IMHO that's the best solution. Just enjoy the occasion! It shouldn't be stressful.
    i like this suggestion

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    take the gifts you have and don't worry about it, give the quilts when you are done. give the quilts later at a more private moment and enjoy your grandbabies

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    I might would take the gifts I had to the shower. Then take the finished quilts to the hospital to welcome them to the family.
    If I'm too busy to quilt, something else has to go.

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    If I were you, I would take the gifts you have, and feel good about that. I would put pictures of the quilt tops in the card as well, and bring the completed quilt for the other shower guests to see - people at showers like to admire handmade gifts!

    If I was your daughter-in-law, I would be over the moon to see the quilt pictures (especially if they were a surprise). I would give you a huge hug, and say, "thank you so much for everything. I'm so grateful that my babies are going to have a wonderful grandma like you!"

    Don't worry about one quilt not being finished; you're giving lovely gifts and the promise of more in the future, as well as the gift of love and time in preparing for the shower. Your son and DIL will certainly appreciate that, and not be bothered by the fact they will have to wait a bit for the quilts.

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    I've followed wesing's suggestion. I call it a boomerang quilt.......I give it to you, but it has to come back to me so I can finish it!

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    I didn't have a baby quilt ready in time for the shower so I enclosed a picture of a finished quilt just like it in a card. I was making blue and white Ohio Star so it was easy to find a picture of one. The quilt was ready when the baby was born. I wouldn't fret over it since you have two very nice gifts for the shower. You'll have lots of quilts to make for these babies!
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    Give the gifts from the registry. The quilts can be "meet the baby" gifts after they are born

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    Quote Originally Posted by bakermom View Post
    Give the gifts from the registry. The quilts can be "meet the baby" gifts after they are born
    I couldn't agree more.
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    No matter what you decide to do ... and there are some good suggestions above, please stop beating yourself up. You don't deserve it. The quilts will get done and will be loved and cherished by the parents and babies.

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    I somewhat suggest not putting the baby's name on a quilt other than on a label. People are cautioned about putting children's names in plain view on backpacks or clothing because of people who prey on kids. This is up to you however. Also, as soon as moms/newborns are dismissed from the hospital, taking the quilts there only adds to the stuff they will be packing up in the dismissal process and they could be misplaced/lost. Taking the quilts later gives you "reason" to visit and get to hold these special little ones. I believe I would either take the unfinished quilts to the shower with explanation of their return for completion or the pictures. Isn't it fun to quilt for new grandbabies? I see more quilts in their future!

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    Taking the unfinished quilts and showing them would be the way I would go. Everyone can see that these things just don't get done by themselves. Takes a lot of effort and love. They can't use them right away anyhow.

    Now for a picture for us to see.

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    A lot of good suggestions, do what feels right for you. A great Grandma you are!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tartan View Post
    If both tops are done enough to take a picture, I would have them printed and enclose in the card. You could say they will be finished when the babies arrive.
    This is a great idea!
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    Being a young mom myself in the baby-bearing years, I wouldn't want anyone to stress over my baby showers. They are to be fun. A photo of the finished tops would be nice, but honestly the quilts won't be needed until the babies are born so don't rush. The babies aren't
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    Lots of advice to consider. Can't add much except to caution that if you're adding a name to a baby gift be sure to get the spelling from both parents and not a grandparent. One set of GPs I know well was sure their grandbaby's name was spelled in the conventional way, but it was not, as I found out after I put it on the quilt! I say both parents because they may still be arguing about the final version, or one of them may not exactly remember what was put on the birth certificate.

    Also, Iceblossom is correct about current advice to parents not to use blankets of any kind in the baby's bed, but they are used for tummy time on the floor early on, and I try to make them bright and interesting for the baby for that reason.
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