This hurt my feelings
03-12-2010, 07:28 AM
#141
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Sorry she didn't realize the time, expense and love that goes into quilting. My family cherishes anything I make.
Hopefully it will make some feel better to know that a lady at our church made all of her quilts completely by hand. She passed away a few years ago, and each year had donated a quilt to auction. Someone re-donated a quilt last year that they had bought years ago. That quilt brought $4500! Now that is appreciation of our art and love for that dear lady.
Hopefully it will make some feel better to know that a lady at our church made all of her quilts completely by hand. She passed away a few years ago, and each year had donated a quilt to auction. Someone re-donated a quilt last year that they had bought years ago. That quilt brought $4500! Now that is appreciation of our art and love for that dear lady.
03-12-2010, 07:30 AM
#142
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Originally Posted by pam1966
Yes, I got my feelings hurt. :roll: It was a remark that my SIL made. Bless her heart, she's pretty clueless, and I should consider the source, but it still upset me.
I was starting on a quilt for my mother. My SIL had come over to visit, and asked me what I was working on. So I told her. She then said to my dh, "At least she saves you money by making gifts!"
I didn't say a word. But what I wanted to say was....do you have any idea how much fabric costs nowadays? Not to mention all the time and effort that goes into this? I know you can trot on down to Bed Bath & Beyond and buy a comforter set on sale, yes I understand that. But for the money that a lot of quilts have in them (not counting our "labor")...we could go out and buy something in five minutes.
I guess it hurt me more because she didn't even consider the fact that I'm making this as a gift....something that I've made myself. My dh told me not to worry about it, that she takes after his mother and blurts out things without even thinking.
I know all this, but it still bugs me. :lol:
I was starting on a quilt for my mother. My SIL had come over to visit, and asked me what I was working on. So I told her. She then said to my dh, "At least she saves you money by making gifts!"
I didn't say a word. But what I wanted to say was....do you have any idea how much fabric costs nowadays? Not to mention all the time and effort that goes into this? I know you can trot on down to Bed Bath & Beyond and buy a comforter set on sale, yes I understand that. But for the money that a lot of quilts have in them (not counting our "labor")...we could go out and buy something in five minutes.
I guess it hurt me more because she didn't even consider the fact that I'm making this as a gift....something that I've made myself. My dh told me not to worry about it, that she takes after his mother and blurts out things without even thinking.
I know all this, but it still bugs me. :lol:
03-12-2010, 07:37 AM
#143
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Originally Posted by knlsmith
Originally Posted by cindy182
This happened to me by my dear MIL and SIL. Now that they have seen more quilts, my dear SIL keeps asking for one. I explained to her that I would not do a quilt for her because I would not want her offended by a "Cheap Homemade gift". Apparently, she was not pleased that I had used her own words for my reason not to do one. She finally went out a bought all her fabric for one, spent $150.00, and asked me to do it. I gave her a "How to Book". That was 10 years ago, still no quilt.
I personally love how you handled that...I did the same thing w/ my best friend....who still doesn't understand why I have never made her anything.
You rock!!!!!
03-12-2010, 08:03 AM
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i've been there too. i use to cross-stitch and spent one month 6-8hrs a day working on 2 detailed kitchen cross stitch pictures for my mom. they were christmas gifts.[ i was really into it then] she opened them up that christmas evening and said why did you get me these??? i said i didn't get you these, i made them for YOU. oh and through them to the side. i didn't expect a cartwheel over them but not what she did. i went to the bathroom and my dad said a few words to her. my sister can buy her a cheezy ornament for the flower bed and it is gold.
i've learned to watch out for who knows what i make and who gets the gift in the future.
i DO feel your pain. that is why to get on line and come to your quilting family. we are here for you.
i've just joined but what i read everyone seams to be a wonderfull new family to come to. :thumbup:
i've learned to watch out for who knows what i make and who gets the gift in the future.
i DO feel your pain. that is why to get on line and come to your quilting family. we are here for you.
i've just joined but what i read everyone seams to be a wonderfull new family to come to. :thumbup:
03-12-2010, 08:41 AM
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Originally Posted by Darlene
I have a friend who knows I make quilts and she has told me about her sister's MIL who made quilts all hand pieced and quilted. I don't know why this bothers me but it seems like a putdown.
03-12-2010, 10:05 AM
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Originally Posted by Corky
She sounds like a nonquilter and a person who doesn't value handmade items from the heart. Don't let her bother you. At least you don't have to worry about ever making her one!! I actually thought at one time that my family didn't value my quilts (I have all boys) but then my son and his wife told me that they thought they would be getting a quilt for their wedding and that they were a bit disappointed that they didn't. Whoa! I am making them one now!! They like grey and brown, but that just doesn't pop for me... they really liked the black and white and gold one I made for my other son, but I can't repeat those colors.. hmm. I need something to put with the grey and brown that will zing.
Maybe you might like it, too.
03-12-2010, 11:23 AM
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Originally Posted by cindy182
This happened to me by my dear MIL and SIL. Now that they have seen more quilts, my dear SIL keeps asking for one. I explained to her that I would not do a quilt for her because I would not want her offended by a "Cheap Homemade gift". Apparently, she was not pleased that I had used her own words for my reason not to do one. She finally went out a bought all her fabric for one, spent $150.00, and asked me to do it. I gave her a "How to Book". That was 10 years ago, still no quilt.
03-12-2010, 11:31 AM
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Originally Posted by ByThePiece
Originally Posted by pam1966
Yes, I got my feelings hurt. :roll: It was a remark that my SIL made. Bless her heart, she's pretty clueless, and I should consider the source, but it still upset me.
I was starting on a quilt for my mother. My SIL had come over to visit, and asked me what I was working on. So I told her. She then said to my dh, "At least she saves you money by making gifts!"
I didn't say a word. But what I wanted to say was....do you have any idea how much fabric costs nowadays? Not to mention all the time and effort that goes into this? I know you can trot on down to Bed Bath & Beyond and buy a comforter set on sale, yes I understand that. But for the money that a lot of quilts have in them (not counting our "labor")...we could go out and buy something in five minutes.
I guess it hurt me more because she didn't even consider the fact that I'm making this as a gift....something that I've made myself. My dh told me not to worry about it, that she takes after his mother and blurts out things without even thinking.
I know all this, but it still bugs me. :lol:
I was starting on a quilt for my mother. My SIL had come over to visit, and asked me what I was working on. So I told her. She then said to my dh, "At least she saves you money by making gifts!"
I didn't say a word. But what I wanted to say was....do you have any idea how much fabric costs nowadays? Not to mention all the time and effort that goes into this? I know you can trot on down to Bed Bath & Beyond and buy a comforter set on sale, yes I understand that. But for the money that a lot of quilts have in them (not counting our "labor")...we could go out and buy something in five minutes.
I guess it hurt me more because she didn't even consider the fact that I'm making this as a gift....something that I've made myself. My dh told me not to worry about it, that she takes after his mother and blurts out things without even thinking.
I know all this, but it still bugs me. :lol:
03-12-2010, 11:40 AM
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Gosh, I do enjoy reading all these from all of you. I do handpiecing and machine piecing, send some out to be quilted, and mosstly do hand quilting.Isnt it interesting that some people dont know the difference between piecing and quilting? jolo
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