Need help on having a lasting and happy marriage! How do you do it?
07-17-2011, 05:56 PM
#161
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Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: Wellsboro, PA
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My husband and I will be married 25 years in just a few weeks,August. We have had two kids, two dogs, 10 fish, moved 4 times to different states and still love each other.
Our rule has been talk about everything and discuss a problem when it occurs. Do Not go to sleep angry, talk all night if you have to.
We have been working at our marriage all the time, 100% each, as others have said no 50-50 (that's only for raffles!)
We each do things that we like seperately and some things we do together.
I don't drive so my husband has taken me to quilt shops and quilt shows and he gets to go to motorcycle swap meets and I will tag along. Doing what your spouse loves can bring you closer.
I am no expert I just know that we love each other and still laugh together and enjoy time together even when we are not talking.
Our rule has been talk about everything and discuss a problem when it occurs. Do Not go to sleep angry, talk all night if you have to.
We have been working at our marriage all the time, 100% each, as others have said no 50-50 (that's only for raffles!)
We each do things that we like seperately and some things we do together.
I don't drive so my husband has taken me to quilt shops and quilt shows and he gets to go to motorcycle swap meets and I will tag along. Doing what your spouse loves can bring you closer.
I am no expert I just know that we love each other and still laugh together and enjoy time together even when we are not talking.
07-17-2011, 08:18 PM
#165
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Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: Central Willamette Valley, Oregon, USA
Posts: 7,695
Originally Posted by butterflywing
never get mad at the same time. take turns.
laugh at yourself.
50 years coming this february. i was married at 12.
laugh at yourself.
50 years coming this february. i was married at 12.
07-18-2011, 05:04 PM
#166
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Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: currently central new jersey
Posts: 8,623
Originally Posted by madamekelly
Originally Posted by butterflywing
never get mad at the same time. take turns.
laugh at yourself.
50 years coming this february. i was married at 12.
laugh at yourself.
50 years coming this february. i was married at 12.
07-18-2011, 06:09 PM
#167
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Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: here! :)
Posts: 1,485
Always remember why you fell in love with him to begin with - he will carry those qualities to his death most likely :). Never, ever let the word divorce (short of infidelity or (real) abuse) enter into your vocabulary. Never lie to one another - not even little white ones... be one another's best friend, spend time together, listen, compromise, don't argue about the kids in front of the kids, family time is important, know the kids will one day be gone - the two of you will always be there... :)
07-18-2011, 06:55 PM
#168
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Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: ocala, florida
Posts: 172
My husband passed suddenly 4 days after our 41st anniversary. We had many days of being annoyed with each other, but the good days far out numbered the bad ones. My advice would be to keep the doors of honest communication open, believe in your love for each other and never be jealous. Jealousy is destructive. There shouldn't be any within a happy marriage. Everyday, say I love you. Be proud of each other and encourage each other. God Bless.
07-18-2011, 08:38 PM
#169
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Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Hawaii
Posts: 833
Thank you so much to everyone that shared a piece of advice. I loved reading all of the comments and stories! And yes I did read EVERY single post thus far :) I realized that there are a lot of things that I do, some that I did and should pick back up again and even a few that I want to incorporate! This is truly invaluable advice. Thank you my friends!
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