Is this Cheating...
02-06-2011, 10:54 AM
#151
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When I first learned to quilt, that was the method taught to me. Back then, I thought that was the only way to do it. Wise decision you made since you had plenty of leftover around each edge.
02-06-2011, 11:02 AM
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You are not cheating, it's a good way to do a binding. I am new at quilting but mother did it that way all the time. Mother can be critical at times but enjoy them while they're still around. You'll get through this.
02-06-2011, 11:13 AM
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I'm so sorry, you have to deal with that. You are not cheating, if you are happy, nothing else matters. If anyones cheating, it's your mother! Cheating herself out of having a wonderful relationship with her daughter. Definately her lose!!!
02-06-2011, 11:22 AM
#154
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Originally Posted by Airwick156
I am doing binding on my quilt. There is enough of the backing fabric that I can just fold it over on all sides and hand sew it for the binding. My mother just called me and asked what I was doing and I told her that I was doing the binding on my quilt. And she proceeded to say "How are you doing it? You cheating and just folding it over or did you make real binding for it?" in just her normal mean voice she uses with me whenever she talks to me. I told her I just folded it over, no need to waste the fabric when its already there. And I can't afford to buy the extra fabric. So I use what I am able to use. I see no problem with this but she sure does and definitely makes me will aware of that fact.
When I make a quilt, I complete the whole thing before I go onto the next one. I do have a few quilt tops, mostly lap quilts that I have not gotten the backing on. Now she has probably a hundred if not more Tops that will never get done as she only likes to make the tops. But yet she complains and tells me how to do my quilts. Most of the time I can remind myself to just "rise above it" and "this too shall pass" attitude, but this time it seems to have really upset me. Because not only did she say that she also told me that I was wasting all my time making quilts since I don't have the money to get them machine quilted. I tie all of them, but one day, I am going to be able to get one machine quilted. I don't think I am wasting my time not at all. I enjoy making them even though I am not very good at it, but I am learning maybe slowly but I am learning. Okay...that said..."this too shall pass" finally kicked in and now I'm waiting for "Rise above it". Maybe if I fix me a cup of hot tea that will help. LOL :) Thanks for letting me vent.
When I make a quilt, I complete the whole thing before I go onto the next one. I do have a few quilt tops, mostly lap quilts that I have not gotten the backing on. Now she has probably a hundred if not more Tops that will never get done as she only likes to make the tops. But yet she complains and tells me how to do my quilts. Most of the time I can remind myself to just "rise above it" and "this too shall pass" attitude, but this time it seems to have really upset me. Because not only did she say that she also told me that I was wasting all my time making quilts since I don't have the money to get them machine quilted. I tie all of them, but one day, I am going to be able to get one machine quilted. I don't think I am wasting my time not at all. I enjoy making them even though I am not very good at it, but I am learning maybe slowly but I am learning. Okay...that said..."this too shall pass" finally kicked in and now I'm waiting for "Rise above it". Maybe if I fix me a cup of hot tea that will help. LOL :) Thanks for letting me vent.
Let's just say "the quality control board" has spoken and if your critic has any more slamming comments just send her to us! This is how all the older quilts were made until someone came up with the idea of making an add on binding. You are doing your quilt in "the original fashion." Next time anyone starts wth their critical crap tell them there is this great quilting board and they can ask us if their way is right or not !!!
02-06-2011, 11:34 AM
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Originally Posted by Janice Thompson
After a time, depending how much use, you may have to replace the binding as one thickness has a tendency to wear. If you need to tie...so be it. You could hand quilt and the quilt would be more valuable.
I do my own quilting on my domestic Kenmore, if it is a large quilt takes some doing but I have always managed. :-D BillsBonBon
02-06-2011, 11:38 AM
#156
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Quilting rules are not etched in stone. You are not cheating, do it your way. Some folks just can't stand to see someone happy and making something different than "their" way. Had an aunt like that, no matter what I did there was something wrong with the method. I lost my mom very early, but I don't recall her ever criticizing my efforts.
02-06-2011, 11:40 AM
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It's a shame that you and your mother both quilt, but can't share the joy in that with each other. It sounds like she is jealous or threatened with your enjoyment of your quilting and is trying to squeeze fun out of it for you. Don't let her make you feel bad. Find some quilting friends who are NOT competitive or judgemental and talk 'quilting' with them, instead!
Also, you might want to try machine quilting one on your sewing machine. You do not have to have a longarm, nor send your quilts to a professional to be quilted. I certainly don't. I'd feel like the quilt was only half mine if I didn't do all of it myself.
Also, you might want to try machine quilting one on your sewing machine. You do not have to have a longarm, nor send your quilts to a professional to be quilted. I certainly don't. I'd feel like the quilt was only half mine if I didn't do all of it myself.
02-06-2011, 11:57 AM
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Ask her when she was hired on as a member of the Quilt Police!LOL I bind my quilts with the backing all the time. It was how I was taught to do it. The only reason I ever use anything else is if I am running low on fabric.
02-06-2011, 12:09 PM
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I have some quilts made by my great-grandmother and that it the kind of binding she did. I do the fold over kind sometimes too unless I want a contrasting color. The only advice I might have is that if you have enough extra of the backing fabric, fold it to double the thickness. Then it's just like if you were doing the add on binding! On another note...my grandmother was negative and critical like your mother...I just stayed away from her and her negative energy. And as several others have mentioned...she must be very insecure and unhappy herself to feel the need to treat others that way. Be happy, enjoy your hobby and be confident in whatever you make!
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