Originally Posted by KerryK

As maviskw said, you need to read more than my original post. Rereading my first post, I can understand how it could be misunderstood, as my words did not really explain the wonderful relationship I have with my daughter. I posted more of an explanation, and had you read through the thread, you would see that you actually do NOT have it straight. I am so tired of people bashing my daughter in this thread without knowing what they are talking about! Bashing her is bashing me, and it hurts. Your post is just harsh and uninformed. And where did you get that she "demanded" anything??? I love this board, but I surely am becoming very discouraged with it. I doubt I'll ever post a question again as a new thread.

Again for those of you who have read what I may not have made clear and still understood, and those that have posted kind comments and wonderful suggestions, I thank you so much.

Originally Posted by maviskw

I think this should be a lesson for all of us. If we want to post an answer to a thread, it's best to read all the replies first. (All 383 of them, if that's what's there.) And then sometimes we need to go back to the original post and try to figure out just what is needed. Yes, it takes time, but we would all feel better.

Originally Posted by charlottequilts

And to present things clearly in the initial post, so that few clarifications are needed.

hugs,
charlotte

Originally Posted by IrishNY

I think the way it was presented in the initial post was very clear. I've noticed on this thread, and on others, posters don't always answer the question posed but feel free to weigh in on another aspect of the situation. Kerry asked for help with a quilt pattern that would use two fabrics. She didn't ask for anyone to give their opinion on her daughter's expectations or whether she should make the quilt using the fabrics she received. Yet some posters felt free to criticize her daughter, or advised Kerry to refuse, when that was not the question asked.

Perhaps when we respond, we need to check to make sure we are answering the question asked. Kerry asked a quilting question, not a personal question. The responses should have been quilting answers, not personal comments. If we are all a little more careful, we will not cause anyone to feel unwelcome or discourage new posts.

JMHO...

Originally Posted by KerryK

Yes, you are right, you don't get it. I responded to someone a little while ago, but I will repeat it here and hope that everyone who misunderstands why she would give ME fabric to make HER a quilt will get a better understanding. My daughter and I are very, very close. She is my only daughter, and almost everything I make is hers - her choice, and my choice. It was sort of an unspoken understanding when I mentioned fabric to her that whatever she bought I would be making into a quilt for her. I do not quilt for others, I do not sell quilts, and I can only put so many quilts to good use in my own home. I love making things for my daughter. I am thinking that perhaps you do not have a daughter and therefore cannot understand a really close mother/daughter relationship. It WAS a gift, not disguised as a gift, not to mention this was one of many lovely gifts she gave me.

For those of you who have offered such wonderful, helpful suggestions - I thank you so very much. It has been a tremendous help, and I am just googling away looking at all options. This is a wonderful group of quilters!

Originally Posted by sewbizgirl

Yeah, maybe so... but she did say that she made a big MISTAKE in asking for fabric, she thought the fabric was crappy, and she was limited to just what she was given. In fact she didn't even outright ask for pattern suggestions, she only asked "What do I do now?" To top it off, she ended the post with "GRRRRR". So how would anyone construe that she was happy about the situation? I think it was a lot of mixed messages between the original post and what she said in later comments.