diannemc

Do you have trouble giving them away? I am making a quilt for a someone who is having a baby in Feb..She is a young girl and don't think she will understand how much time has been put in making it..probably will chunk it once the baby is older or if doesn't go with her decor in baby room...The closer I get to finishing it I am having second thoughts..Now don't get me wrong I wanted to make something for her but I wish I had done a simple quilt..and smaller..Do I have the wrong attitude about this....?? I am new to quilting and didn't realize how time goes into quilting...I will give it to her but was wondering for next time what do ya'll do for gifts? And what size?

beachlady

I totally agree with you. It is hard to give when you know the person does not realize all the work and cost that goes into making a quilt.

As has been said in previous posts, you just have to let go and hope they will use the quilt, but also respect your work. That is hard.

Made a quilt for my granddaughter for Christmas and I know that it will not be taken care of. I am trying to forget! My grandsons on DH's side asked for one too and I did not commit - that family does not take care of anything! My daughter has 4 boys too and I will not make them anything large either. Have made one for my oldest grandson and he has gone back to live with his father, so I have not sent it to him yet. I may just save it for when he graduates from High School!

patricej

why do you assume she won't appreciate it or take care of it?

if you have evidence to back up your assumption and you already know it will bother you then don't give her the quilt. save it for somebody else or donate it to charity.

don't set yourself up for a case of the grumpies. ;-)

kluedesigns

this seems to be a common concern with some people on the forum.

lucky for me i don't ever feel this way because i've seen some really heartbreaking posts here from people just torn up that their loved ones didn't respect the quilt the way they should have. some people are on the verge of tears over this issue.

maybe the key is to make and give a quilt gift that you feel you can truly give without any strings attached or bad feelings if its not cherished the way you expected.

if that translate to the construction and time spent working on it then make those changes or if its means buying less expensive fabrics make those changes.

once a quilt leaves my possession i never give it another thought or concern - its their quilt now to do what ever they want with it - it truly makes no difference to me.

i've seen my quilts hanging in places of honor in their new homes and i've seen them as pet blankets and i think both uses are wonderful.

diannemc

You have the right attitude Klue..As long as your heart is right when you give that is your blessing what they do with that gift is their blessing? Shame on me!

sewjoyce

Sometimes it is hard to give quilts away after all the time, energy and effort put into them. However, I make them to be used. I would rather see one "loved to death" than it whole and perfect when the child is an adult....

Darlene

I agree with Klue too but you could mention to the girl to be sure to keep the quilt for a next child or children to come along.

Ninnie

Most of us have been in this position before. recently I went through this and was given good advice. Let it go! I did so, and was surprised at the welcome the quilt got. First time I had felt like this. A gift is just that , a gift. So, let it go! You may be surprised also!

Quilt Mom

I have to admit, when I am not sure of the response, I usually make a less complicated quilt. I do try to give (and release attachment to) quilts as often as I can.

Oklahoma Suzie