Daughter Moved Out
#21
Hmmm yes definitely turn her room into a quilting studio. I hear you though. One of my 8 girls (19 year old) moved out. The first of the girls! She does come home frequently and moved out to be at the University for her junior year. A good and positive thing. It was double hard for me as she did not want to move out. She stayed as long as she could at the local junior college but ran out of classes for what she needed. Life goes on if we are ready or not and if they are ready or not. Hugs I hope your DD is not too far away. Best wishes on their wedding.
#22
I cried my heart out when my oldest DD first moved out. She and my granddaughter moved out just six months after my Mom passed away. I got used to not having them here and kind of enjoyed having an extra room. Then she moved back after SIL lost his job and before their son was born. Now, almost 2 years later, I am ready for them to finally leave but doubt they ever will. LOL!!!
#25
My oldest married at 19, she could cook but I made her a cookbook of all the family recipes, she loved it, have now made 5 more as my kids married and moved out. 5 cookbooks down 2 to go. It will give you something to do and she will really like it.
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Originally Posted by nonnie
My oldest married at 19, she could cook but I made her a cookbook of all the family recipes, she loved it, have now made 5 more as my kids married and moved out. 5 cookbooks down 2 to go. It will give you something to do and she will really like it.
It also saves some of the calls that start "Mom, how do you make.....?"
Independent, grown children moves you both into another phase of life, one that is even more satisfying than the previous, so enjoy.
Ikea has a great commercial about this. It's a little edgy, but hilarious. Look for it on youtube.
#27
The thing about life, it's always changing! Please don't cry. She is ALWAYS gonna need her mom, ALWAYS! Sometimes it takes time for everything to fall into place. Don't make to many plans around them ( dinner etc ) because if they don't follow thru, ur going to be even sadder. Go shopping, mow the yard, cuss alot ,eat a whole box of Russel Stovers...In the same year, my daughter(18) moved away for college and my mother (75) ran away on the back of a Harley to live with a man in Kansas City.....lol This Really happen!!! The 2 people I love were just gone.... and I was not sure what to do? or even how to breathe...well, I bought a sewing machine and decided to learn how to quilt. I put in another big garden, and after 2 years, I learned how to breathe agin....so will u! hugs and love for u! I know u need it! God Bless
#28
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Mine just moved over to Milwaukee for her 3rd and 4th year of college. I cried a few days, couldnt believe she moved to a huge city, when she's been a farm girl all her life.
She came to visit tonight, looks great, and seems really happy, so it makes me happy!
I couldnt do her room as a sewing room right away, but now I am putting stuff in there slowly, lol!
She came to visit tonight, looks great, and seems really happy, so it makes me happy!
I couldnt do her room as a sewing room right away, but now I am putting stuff in there slowly, lol!
#29
Yeah...just when you think you are free of them...turn their rooms into sewing studios..libraries....game rooms....offices....ZAP!!! they come back!!! For the last ten years between my two daughters I felt like I lived in Grand Central Station. We finally moved into a bigger place instead of downsizing, so we always have a room ready for whoever comes back. And since then, neither of them have. yay!!! Knock on wood!!!
#30
When our oldest 2 to moved out, with each one I was sad. Then the 3rd child a DD moved out & I immed. painted her old room & turned it into my sewing room. It shocked her to return and see it. Made her sad I think. But I knew she was marrying a great guy & that he would totally take wonderful care of her. And 10 yrs later, he has. The final kid a DS moved out at last & I was ready! We knocked out the wall between the 2 rooms and expanded the sewing room to also incl a LA. After 3 yrs he hit some hard times, their marriage ended and he moved back for 5 months into our sewing/quilting room. Crushed me but as a parent I had to make do, the best I could. He did leave again and is doing okay. Not quite the way I hoped or what I would have planned for him but he is happy. So that makes me happy. We cannot plan our kids lives, but we can offer advice & it is up to them as to whether they will take it or not. If they are surviving, happy, content, then we have to accept that. They will continue to grow & learn from mistakes. I would have them over for dinner & plan things that are inexpensive & have them help you prepare it. On hand lesson. :wink: Your DD will appreciate it later on. This is where you have to let her go & you live the next chapter of your life. She is going to live hers. It is all part of it. We don't know what the next chapter of anyone's life contains or what it is even about. We just have to be ready to live it the best that we can. After 4 kids, I finally learned this & fully accept it. I actually love them all being out on their own. They need to experience all kinds of life lessons that they cannot experience if we are paving the road for them. We are helping them to grow their wings all throughout their life. Not always do we get to say when or how they leave our nest. I tell you this in hope that you will see that you are a normal mother. All kids are so different & do not always do things we like or do what we have hopes of them doing. Or when. You have a roller coaster of emotions & that is normal. You are a Mom & always will be. I hope this helps you in some way. We are all here for you if you need or want to vent. PM me if you ever want to shout. {{{{{HUGE HUGS}}}}}
Making cookbooks from family recipes sounds like a very neat idea! I love that actually. Would make wonderful gifts.
Making cookbooks from family recipes sounds like a very neat idea! I love that actually. Would make wonderful gifts.
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