Have you adopted a child from the State?
#1
I am trying to get a heads up without asking them. I am leaving out the details cause I don't want to upset anyone. My husband and I first agreed to try to take in the child temp. til his mom can get him back. His mother is my cousin. He has been living in foster care for 6 months. They went to court the other day and they told her she will not get him back at this time- the next court date is in Feb. They told her they will most likely terminate her rights. Child protective services then asked me if we would adopt him. I told her I would have to get with my husband. Well he said yes- so they are running our background and will do a in home inspection. After all that and if they believe that we are right for him then they will place him in our home. I get to go see him tomorrow for a 1 hour visit. He will be 3 years old in 2 weeks. Anyway what are they going to look for as far as an in home inspection? I have been deep cleaning and trying to organize like crazy. I don't want to miss something that would take longer to place him here. Anything you can tall me would be great.
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#2
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I never have, but my next door neighbors did years ago. I think what they look for is do you have the room for the child, is the house safe, for example , broken windows, chipped /peeling paint. I wish I could be more help .
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#3
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I'm with Sharon about just making sure he has his own room, so to speak....bed, dresser etc. The home is safe, no hanging wires, chipping paint, cleanliness. I don't think they are wanting your house to be a showcase home, but just neat and tidy and nothing dangerous.
#4
I'm sure each state has different rules and regulations. Yet, I have an aunt and uncle that became foster parents in 04 and are far from good house keepers. They did have to attend weekly classes and had background checks performed. They had 2 different sets of foster kids and adopted the last set. I think they (state) is most concerned with a stable, loving home for the child and less with material things. This is just my experience. So good luck and what a lucky little boy :wink:
#6
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My cousins just went through this. As far as any of us could tell, the state seemed to be mostly looking at whether or not there were reasonable sleeping arrangements and such. The cousin in question is only an OK housekeeper and already had 4 boys under the age of 10 so there is no way to keep it spotless.
Her older children also had to speak with the woman from Social Services. The 10 year old told us they had asked him questions about how he would feel about having a new child in the house and such.
I hope all of this works out for you.
Her older children also had to speak with the woman from Social Services. The 10 year old told us they had asked him questions about how he would feel about having a new child in the house and such.
I hope all of this works out for you.
#7
Thanks for all the input- I was up late the other night pulling weeds out of my little garden lol it was soo dark- anything that felt too tall got yanked up - maybe I am over thinking what they are going to look for. The outside of my house (trailor)would be the first impression. I was thinking that maybe they would see them and think if she cant even make time to yank weeds up how would she make time for another child. We have 4 kids- Chelsea is 15- Jonathan is 4- Makayla is 16 months- Cynthia is 12 but she lives with her mother. My oldest is all for it.
#8
One thing that you may not of thought of is, they look for FOOD, it sounds like duh, once someone tells you but a lot of people miss that.
As others have already posted safety,also Clean bath rooms, no "adult" things laying around. If you have firearms, a way to lock them up.
A phone,smoke detectors etc.
As already posted lots & lots of common sense.
As others have already posted safety,also Clean bath rooms, no "adult" things laying around. If you have firearms, a way to lock them up.
A phone,smoke detectors etc.
As already posted lots & lots of common sense.
#9
I have 5 wonderful grandchildren; all adopted from Children and Youth Services. Some things they look for are suitable sleeping arrangements, smoke detectors, cleanliness, and the safety issues that have already been mentioned.
#10
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Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: San Antonio, Texas
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Yes smoke detectors, fire extinguisher, safe enviroment, locks work properly and so on. Flexible schedule that he he can attend counseling, make medical appointments and such.
That you have a sincere heart and want him for all the right reasons. You and hubby are able to provide for him. Do you have other children. If you do prepare them for questioning from the Social
Worker. They can be sneaky and snoopy.
I was a Case Aide with Child Protective in San Antonio, Texas.
That you have a sincere heart and want him for all the right reasons. You and hubby are able to provide for him. Do you have other children. If you do prepare them for questioning from the Social
Worker. They can be sneaky and snoopy.
I was a Case Aide with Child Protective in San Antonio, Texas.
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