MOMBASIL53

We have been married 42 years will be 43 in June.

leiladylei54

My DH and I celebrated our 35th wedding anniversary a week ago and still find that we are still so very much in love with each other. Even holding hands, hubby says it still gives him such a thrill. My piece of advice....step back, look at the situation and keep the ME or I factor/attitude out of it. It should all be about US.

weatheread

Never go to Bed mad plus Prozac helps We have been married 43yrs and when people ask I say marry your best friend never go to bed mad and being medicated helps a lot

Daisy144

1. you and your hubby are a team against all others - kids, inlaws, jobs, friends - EVERYTHING! and don't let anything come between your team.
2. Remember you fell in love with him for a reason. If you fell in love with him once you can again - love can evolve but if neglected it can and will die. Nurish it every day.
3. in every marriage of longstanding there are times when you want (or he does) to say "and don't let the door hit you in the butt on the way out" that's when you have to work that much harder.
4. Remember God has blessed your marriage so he should play a major part it it also. He is the only being that should be included as a major participant beside your spouse.
5. Don't loose your ability to laugh. Many an argument can be turned away with an easy answer. Laughter is as essential as sex in a marriage.
and NEVER, NEVER forget to say I love you every day or to kiss every day.

Daisy144

Oh, sorry, one more thing - always celebrate your anniversary! if you can't afford more than pizza and coke then celebrate with pizza and coke - the fancier anniversaries will come - the point is to celebrate the fact that you made it through another year in an age when marriages are disposable. You deserve a pat on the back - go for it!

mountain-moma

I so agree with Clem55 and being married 30yrs.it has worked for us and still does

Rose_P

This is not exactly an answer for after they are married, but if there is anything I could say to any young couple BEFORE it's too late:

Take a hard look at any "little" thing that irritates you about the person you are considering spending your life with and ask yourself how much of an annoyance that would be if it happened several times a week and got steadily worse. It will. Does he/she tend to boast? Interrupt? Tease in a hurtful way? Chew fingernails? Say nasty things about your friends and family? Buy roses when you said you like chocolate? Drink excessively (even once is a red flag if you don't like it!)? Insist on the movie he/she wants to see and never the one you'd like? Criticize anything about you in a painful way? Ask where you want to eat out and then tell you why it's no good? Try to control what you wear, what you buy, and where you go and with whom? Run issues into the ground, long after you want to move on?

Just please take off the rose-colored glasses and be sure you see the bad side of this person as realistically as possible. Everyone has faults, the decision is what kind of faults you might find intolerable.

Annaquilts

Be able to laugh at your self and be able to say sorry.

Hmmm and yes for some of those days-

I also agree with klnsmith.
Suck it up and work it out.

DH and I have 14 children and will be married 26 yrs this summer. Trust me we could not afford a divorce.

cathyvv

Two words - RESPECT and TRUST! If you don't respect and trust your spouse, you cannot love him or her, either.

cheryl rearick

When I met my husband many years ago, we were both in our 30's, second marriage for both. One thing I said I could not live with bar hopping and my man going to bars... So we needed to come up with a hobby we both enjoyed together as well as time alone. We gave each other a week wrote our answers on paper and both wrote FISHING. That was to become our favorite thing and caused much laughter and fun. lol Many late nite dinners. I also placed a love note in his lunch everday, he told me years later the other guys were jealous. (smile) He died of a heart attack at age 47. We just never know. Make the best of your relationship now... Smile and for some reason most men need to know they are the KING, and you do adore them. Have fun and LAUGH a lot. will take away all stress. ((((hugs)))