Wedding Registries
07-12-2015, 03:06 PM
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Wedding Registries
I realize that we live in a different world. Etiquette has been redefined. New traditions are adopted.
Recently I received a wedding invitation in the mail. Included in the general info regarding the date, place, etc, it included links to their wedding website. On the site was a section to RSVP to the wedding.
There are photos identifying the wedding party complete with their names and their role in the event. How nice!
Also, a couple of gift registry links were included. Not stopping at that, there is link to the "HoneyFund" website! It gives you the opportunity to contribute money to their Hawaiian honeymoon. There are options to contribute to the airfare, the meals, activities, such as a para-sailing activity! Each category has a suggested dollar amount to start at. Your choice! WOW! So convenient!
i only wish that there was a section for the happy couple to allow you to choose a "thank you" note for the generosity of your gift giving. Perhaps it should include a secret code to be entered upon recieving their gift. This would generate an inpersonal "thank you" back to the giver.
sandy
Recently I received a wedding invitation in the mail. Included in the general info regarding the date, place, etc, it included links to their wedding website. On the site was a section to RSVP to the wedding.
There are photos identifying the wedding party complete with their names and their role in the event. How nice!
Also, a couple of gift registry links were included. Not stopping at that, there is link to the "HoneyFund" website! It gives you the opportunity to contribute money to their Hawaiian honeymoon. There are options to contribute to the airfare, the meals, activities, such as a para-sailing activity! Each category has a suggested dollar amount to start at. Your choice! WOW! So convenient!
i only wish that there was a section for the happy couple to allow you to choose a "thank you" note for the generosity of your gift giving. Perhaps it should include a secret code to be entered upon recieving their gift. This would generate an inpersonal "thank you" back to the giver.
sandy
07-12-2015, 04:31 PM
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When it rains it pours with invitations lately. My husband has been asked to officiate at 2 weddings this summer. He was very honored to be asked. He is not a minister but was one of the youth leaders at the church and both girls came up thru the youth group. In CA you have to register and pay a fee for a one ceremony - it was $80.00 and the couple paid for it because that is less they would pay for a minister and church. The other couple lives 1300 miles away, expect him to pay for the plane trip, hotel, rental car and the $40.00 to become a minister on-line. I was rather upset because I believe they could at least provide him a place to stay for the weekend. At first it was the bride's mother had rented a house and asked him to contribute $125.00 for the weekend - but then someone else wants to stay there so my husband has to go to a hotel. And my husband has recently lost a lot of weight, so we have another $200.00 cost for alterations to his suit. And yes, they had the audacity to send a note stating where they are registered. Not to mention they are already living together and have a child so want to go on a trip. I mentioned to my husband I believe we have spent enough on this union and was ultra surprised when he agreed.
My husband has been joking about the on-line minister deal - guess it is legal in a lot of states. Told him it is crap and he knows it. The minister is our church helped him with the wording of his part, but said he agreed with me. There is a lot of education to be an ordained minister and to buy it on the internet is just wrong.
My husband has been joking about the on-line minister deal - guess it is legal in a lot of states. Told him it is crap and he knows it. The minister is our church helped him with the wording of his part, but said he agreed with me. There is a lot of education to be an ordained minister and to buy it on the internet is just wrong.
07-12-2015, 05:11 PM
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Originally Posted by quiltingcandy
When it rains it pours with invitations lately. My husband has been asked to officiate at 2 weddings this summer. He was very honored to be asked. He is not a minister but was one of the youth leaders at the church and both girls came up thru the youth group. In CA you have to register and pay a fee for a one ceremony - it was $80.00 and the couple paid for it because that is less they would pay for a minister and church. The other couple lives 1300 miles away, expect him to pay for the plane trip, hotel, rental car and the $40.00 to become a minister on-line. I was rather upset because I believe they could at least provide him a place to stay for the weekend. At first it was the bride's mother had rented a house and asked him to contribute $125.00 for the weekend - but then someone else wants to stay there so my husband has to go to a hotel. And my husband has recently lost a lot of weight, so we have another $200.00 cost for alterations to his suit. And yes, they had the audacity to send a note stating where they are registered. Not to mention they are already living together and have a child so want to go on a trip. I mentioned to my husband I believe we have spent enough on this union and was ultra surprised when he agreed.
My husband has been joking about the on-line minister deal - guess it is legal in a lot of states. Told him it is crap and he knows it. The minister is our church helped him with the wording of his part, but said he agreed with me. There is a lot of education to be an ordained minister and to buy it on the internet is just wrong.
My husband has been joking about the on-line minister deal - guess it is legal in a lot of states. Told him it is crap and he knows it. The minister is our church helped him with the wording of his part, but said he agreed with me. There is a lot of education to be an ordained minister and to buy it on the internet is just wrong.
07-12-2015, 05:12 PM
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Originally Posted by Sandygirl
I realize that we live in a different world. Etiquette has been redefined. New traditions are adopted.
Recently I received a wedding invitation in the mail. Included in the general info regarding the date, place, etc, it included links to their wedding website. On the site was a section to RSVP to the wedding.
There are photos identifying the wedding party complete with their names and their role in the event. How nice!
Also, a couple of gift registry links were included. Not stopping at that, there is link to the "HoneyFund" website! It gives you the opportunity to contribute money to their Hawaiian honeymoon. There are options to contribute to the airfare, the meals, activities, such as a para-sailing activity! Each category has a suggested dollar amount to start at. Your choice! WOW! So convenient!
i only wish that there was a section for the happy couple to allow you to choose a "thank you" note for the generosity of your gift giving. Perhaps it should include a secret code to be entered upon recieving their gift. This would generate an inpersonal "thank you" back to the giver.
sandy
Recently I received a wedding invitation in the mail. Included in the general info regarding the date, place, etc, it included links to their wedding website. On the site was a section to RSVP to the wedding.
There are photos identifying the wedding party complete with their names and their role in the event. How nice!
Also, a couple of gift registry links were included. Not stopping at that, there is link to the "HoneyFund" website! It gives you the opportunity to contribute money to their Hawaiian honeymoon. There are options to contribute to the airfare, the meals, activities, such as a para-sailing activity! Each category has a suggested dollar amount to start at. Your choice! WOW! So convenient!
i only wish that there was a section for the happy couple to allow you to choose a "thank you" note for the generosity of your gift giving. Perhaps it should include a secret code to be entered upon recieving their gift. This would generate an inpersonal "thank you" back to the giver.
sandy
07-12-2015, 05:59 PM
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Originally Posted by BETTY62
Your hubby is a good guy to have agreed to do the wedding1300 miles away. Based on the cost, he should have declined by sending his regrets and wishing them well.
what is in it for him to officiate??? I am confused...no one else is available in their town to officiate a wedding? ALL expenses plus payment to officiate should be covered by the bride and groom. I really dont understand why he accepted to travel so far on his own dime.
Sandy
07-12-2015, 06:19 PM
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My husband looks at some of the youth group kids like they need him - I tried to talk him out of it but he felt it was such an honor to be asked and really wanted to be there for them. I don't think they even realize the out of pocket expense involved. A friend of ours tried to tell him he should have declined but my DH said he wouldn't do that to the bride. (He has known her since she was 9 years old - I think she is 21 now.)
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