What is tradition for FOG on wedding day??
#51
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Originally Posted by noveltyjunkie
Oh dear. Weddings. The stress of dealing with one family multiplies when dealing with two!
I was going to suggest buying a second hand tux but I am glad to see that you have worked something out. Since this is obviously placing a financial strain on you, I would take the price of the suit rental off what I was going to spend on their wedding gift.
Where I got married, many bridal parties wore rental morning suit (ie tails and top hats and cravats). I told my husband that under no circumstances was I going to marry him wearing something he did not own. Likewise I knew my father would prefer to wear his own clothes (DH Dad's was not alive to attend.) LOL he was happy to get a new outfit that he could keep and wear again. I think it is nice to "be yourself" when you get married and I always regret seeing people who have been required to wear something they don't feel comfortable in. But weddings seem to bring that streak out in people!
I was going to suggest buying a second hand tux but I am glad to see that you have worked something out. Since this is obviously placing a financial strain on you, I would take the price of the suit rental off what I was going to spend on their wedding gift.
Where I got married, many bridal parties wore rental morning suit (ie tails and top hats and cravats). I told my husband that under no circumstances was I going to marry him wearing something he did not own. Likewise I knew my father would prefer to wear his own clothes (DH Dad's was not alive to attend.) LOL he was happy to get a new outfit that he could keep and wear again. I think it is nice to "be yourself" when you get married and I always regret seeing people who have been required to wear something they don't feel comfortable in. But weddings seem to bring that streak out in people!
So like I said, I will go, DH will be in a tux, we are now deeper in debt, and this is the last time we will help this son on in any way...
Waiting anxiously for August 13th...my new year's day!!
k
ps...and as much as it breaks our hearts to admit this...DH and I don't really expect this marriage to last....we don't believe that our son's character flaws along with her overbearing and controlling father will allow this marriage to make it....I wish I could say I know who she is, but I can't.....Of course, we will NEVER say any of this to our son, all words as soon as the "I do" is said is support to find answers to work things out, and our son, nor her, will ever know how we really feel.....but with the divorce rate so high now-a-days, we just don't think these two have much of a chance. Maybe they will surprise us...maybe they won't....believe me when I say that we the smiles we have that day will not be from joy, as much as relief that our "obligation" to help this son is over.......such a sad way to feel when a child you love so much is taking a "rite of passage".......but what's a parent to do?????
#52
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I am so blessed. Last son to marry, the men wore their white dress military uniforms. The only "odd" man was my other son. Since the bridesmaids all wore long black dresses of their own choosing, my DDIL told my other son (Best Man, we lost my husband two years prior) to get whatever he wanted to go with, black would be fine. He was over 400 lbs at the time and white would have been just awful. (Has had lapband since and looks awesome!) So he wore black and it looked great. Plus the girls all had dresses they loved and would get to use again. And the wedding was the most visually stunning wedding I have ever attended. My new daughter won big for her practical approach!
#53
We had to also dresss formally. Mothers had to wear long gowns as well. Personally I think it is an unreasonable request. Even worse when it creats a hardship. But having only sons, I had to go along. This paticular DIL was raised as a "princess" if you get the drift. I had to shell out 175.00 for my gown. Now it sits! I could shorten it but I don't go anyplace to wear something like that now. Besides I use a cane and it makes it look cheap.
Just my personal reply.
Dawn
Just my personal reply.
Dawn
#54
My sons haven't married yet, but I remember mine and several years ago I helped the daughter of a friend coordinate hers. I advised her that there are so many things a bride thinks are important and when you wake up the next morning - aren't. Like what a cherished member of the family (the FOG, say) wears, or whether you have names on matchbooks, or whether all your bridesmaids look nice in the same style dress. I was very upset that my grandmother wouldn't buy a new dress and shoes for my wedding. But she looked fine, was comfortable in her old shoes and danced all night. Three weeks later, she fell and died. I would have been heartsick if I had INSISTED she get new shoes and would not have been comfortable enough to dance at my wedding. Now, 31 years later, I love the pictures of her and remember how smart she was to know what SHE wanted!
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How formal are the tux that the groom and groomsmen wearing? Are they wearing "tails"? What is the father of the bride wearing? How large is the wedding party? Will your husband be standing on the dais with the groom and groomsmen? Is the bride using a wedding consultant? Will there be a receiving line at the reception? If so, will you and your husband be in the line? Is someone paying several hundreds of dollars to a professional photographer to record the wedding? How much is the rental of the tux? More than 2 tanks of gasoline? Could your rental of the tux be your wedding gift to the couple if it is that important to them? I feel that perhaps you don't have enough information about this wedding. We have had 3 traditional weddings conducted in churches for our 5 children. We were the grooms family for 2 of them and our expenses included providing for the rehearsal dinner, the complete cost of tux rental for ALL tuxes
(however, all groomsmen were our sons), our share of photographer's cost. The bride's family paid for all bridal and bridesmaid's expenses plus the flowers, reception, dinner, dance, cake and limo. Much cheaper to be the groom's parents!
(however, all groomsmen were our sons), our share of photographer's cost. The bride's family paid for all bridal and bridesmaid's expenses plus the flowers, reception, dinner, dance, cake and limo. Much cheaper to be the groom's parents!
#57
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Originally Posted by TonnieLoree
I agree with amma here. I also think that the ceremony will not be affected by the FOG's attire, unless he is naked. ;-)
:lol: but that would give everyone something to talk about!
We paid for my brother's tux rental when we got married because he couldn't afford the expense. And he didn't have a nice suit.
#58
I think it's really about what the bride and groom prefer. In the formal photos, it might show the difference if the FOB is in a tux but FOG is in a suit. Maybe the married couple will pick up the tux rental for FOG. Couldn't hurt to as your son. We dressed both FOB and FOG in tuxes like the groomsmen and groom but it was a last minute decision. Outdoor wedding but reception at a fancy hotel; hence the tuxes.
#59
When my three girls got married, I made the bridesmaids dresses for each wedding (2, 2, & 6) as well as the flower girl dresses for each wedding. Their dad wore a black suit (same suit for all three weddings!) and everyone looked very nice. They were just thankful they had a father to give them away.
#60
Sorry to hear about the troubles with your son, I guess all you can do is pray. I can totally understand why you would go ahead with the tux rental, sounds like you were already behind the eight ball. Maybe you could inform your son that the tux rental is your Christmas gift to them?
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