What's so wrong with being a homebody?
#21
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: California
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I am also a homebody and spend a lot of time alone. I was married for 20 years and, sorry to say, it was abusive in several ways. It's taken a long time to recover and I am still pretty quiet and shy. I try sometimes to be more outgoing but it's just not ME. I don't talk a lot in person so "going out" is mainly an exercise in people watching and listening.
I talk with my 3 children several times a week. I work with people 5 days a week. So what if I like to go home and relax and do things that I want to do?
My parents have passed away, my father just a year ago, and I have decided that I'm going to see the places I've always wanted to see because "someday" might never come. My eldest daughter and I are planning a trip to Paris and Rome. My sister and I are going on a trip in April and we have our flights and hotels booked.
I do want a love in my life but not sure if marriage is something I will do again. It's hard to find someone when I don't want to go out!!
I talk with my 3 children several times a week. I work with people 5 days a week. So what if I like to go home and relax and do things that I want to do?
My parents have passed away, my father just a year ago, and I have decided that I'm going to see the places I've always wanted to see because "someday" might never come. My eldest daughter and I are planning a trip to Paris and Rome. My sister and I are going on a trip in April and we have our flights and hotels booked.
I do want a love in my life but not sure if marriage is something I will do again. It's hard to find someone when I don't want to go out!!
#22
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Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: las vegas nv.
Posts: 2,452
I too have told myself alot this past yr I need to get out in order to meet people as I just moved to my new state 3 yrs ago. I do miss the friendships from my past life but I also don't mind being the homebody that I have become. Most of the time I make friends easily but seldom do we end up having the same interests. I have been asked several times by the LQS to come to open sew on tuesdays but so far I keep coming up w/ excuses not to go....so I must not mind being home...lol. I say whatever makes you happy!!!
#23
are these people just busy bodies that think they know everyone else's best interests? You stick to your guns and enjoy doing your own thing!! I don't blame you at all...many times I have said that I would love to be a "hermit" and never leave home if I didn't have to. I would be more than content not having to deal with some people in person. I can, however talk with people...I just choose not to most of the time. Of course, then they think that I'm a snob or something...Just quiet and sort of shy. :D
Life is too short to try to please other people...Please yourself first. :D JMHO
Life is too short to try to please other people...Please yourself first. :D JMHO
#24
Well now I see why we all get along so well. We all like and enjoy ourselves and we are our best company. We know what pleases us and what gives us happiness.
For the most part, I am an introvert, but can adapt to most any situation for whatever period I need to. I can be with the homeless guy on his turf or the rich on theirs.
I would be most comfortable travelling the world or staying home and quilting and watching movies.
Because I am unable to be as physical as I was up to three years ago, I have had to curtail my lifestyle alot. So, I am more of a homebody now.
If you are happy, have found your little niche, are comfortable with your thoughts and feelings, and you are a resposible human being, what's the problem? Tell your family and friends to M.Y.O.B. because you are happy as you are and its ok.
For the most part, I am an introvert, but can adapt to most any situation for whatever period I need to. I can be with the homeless guy on his turf or the rich on theirs.
I would be most comfortable travelling the world or staying home and quilting and watching movies.
Because I am unable to be as physical as I was up to three years ago, I have had to curtail my lifestyle alot. So, I am more of a homebody now.
If you are happy, have found your little niche, are comfortable with your thoughts and feelings, and you are a resposible human being, what's the problem? Tell your family and friends to M.Y.O.B. because you are happy as you are and its ok.
#25
Before i was sick i was and still am a homebody people tell me i need to get out at least get some fresh air. They tell me i am coming to get you and get you out the house. I enjoy quilting and doing my needle work.
#27
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Join Date: Oct 2009
Posts: 5,453
My whole life i was an A type personality. And in the end, it wore me out. I am very content to be a home body now. I have my husband who works long hours, my dogs are my company. I do love to have lunch out, by myself or with someone..I even go to the show by myself. which my DD can't understand at all! I hate shopping..not into clothes or make-up. i worked 27 years in a steel factory doing a mans job..that was enough for me.
this is just like,i have one DD that has no kids, and she is 30. she doesn't want kids..she is not married either. i respect her decision..but others seem to think she should have a kid..like her life won't be complete without one. lol! she is a Super Dooper Aunt and likes it that way.
when i do visit my kids in other states, my kids spouses feel like they need to entertain me, take me to see places..but i am content to stay with them, and visit..babysit and cook for them.
i still love meeting people..
real friendships have nothing to do with seeing that person on a regular basis...it is about picking up where you left off..or being there for each other when needed.
this is just like,i have one DD that has no kids, and she is 30. she doesn't want kids..she is not married either. i respect her decision..but others seem to think she should have a kid..like her life won't be complete without one. lol! she is a Super Dooper Aunt and likes it that way.
when i do visit my kids in other states, my kids spouses feel like they need to entertain me, take me to see places..but i am content to stay with them, and visit..babysit and cook for them.
i still love meeting people..
real friendships have nothing to do with seeing that person on a regular basis...it is about picking up where you left off..or being there for each other when needed.
#28
I feel the same way I would rather do my own thing be it reading, watching TV crocheting or quilting or computering. I know a lot of people need to be with their friends. I have some really good friends but I don't have to see them all the time.
#29
I have always been a homebody. Even when I was young, I much preferred staying at home versus going to a friends house. I work part-time and enjoy my time home with my family. When we go on vacation, we go to a quiet campground and just enjoy the outdoors. I don't like eating at busy restuaurants either. I love peace and quiet.
#30
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Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: Northern Michigan
Posts: 12,861
i sure don't find anything wrong with being a 'home-body'
in my (circle) i am referred to as ..,
'anti-social'
'stuck-up'
' a hermit'
'a loner'
'selfish'
the terms go on and on.
all because i go to work, and i go home, i like it at home :mrgreen:
i'm not as 'recluse' as some believe, i belong to a couple little sewing groups, visit my lqs at least once a week (it's on the way to work :) ) and get together with mom at least once a month...and talk to my kids on the phone quite regularly...so where is the harm in my not wanting to run the roads, and be part of some big social network...my kids are grown, i dont' have to go to all the school and extra-curriculars any more...I CAN JUST STAY HOME THANK YOU VERY MUCH...and if that is a problem for someone else, GEEZE, sorry you take my life so personal...get over it and worry about your own social network, mine works for me :D
in my (circle) i am referred to as ..,
'anti-social'
'stuck-up'
' a hermit'
'a loner'
'selfish'
the terms go on and on.
all because i go to work, and i go home, i like it at home :mrgreen:
i'm not as 'recluse' as some believe, i belong to a couple little sewing groups, visit my lqs at least once a week (it's on the way to work :) ) and get together with mom at least once a month...and talk to my kids on the phone quite regularly...so where is the harm in my not wanting to run the roads, and be part of some big social network...my kids are grown, i dont' have to go to all the school and extra-curriculars any more...I CAN JUST STAY HOME THANK YOU VERY MUCH...and if that is a problem for someone else, GEEZE, sorry you take my life so personal...get over it and worry about your own social network, mine works for me :D
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