june6995

Pardon me. I have been on the receiving end of scraps. I see them for being just that! Now if she buys yardage and suggests that you make something for her, that is a different story.

I get a lot of scraps from the gals at Curves. I take the completed quilts in to show and they enjoy picking out the fabrics they recognize. they know I make quilts for charities and I don't think any of them expect anything in return.

Perhaps you are the one being too sensitive. Being a pastor's wife is one thing, but allowing your feelings to cause you stress, is going to create health problems. Scraps are just that! nothing more than some one's left overs. Accept them graciously and say "I can put these to good use" and let it go at that. Preserve your health!

Been there and done that as I am sure many others have as well.

Lisa_wanna_b_quilter

I like the donation idea. Maybe give her a picture of the donation in a nice card or a mention in the church bulletin. Something like............

With the kind fabric donation from so and so, our ladies auxillary has been able to donate 5 blankets to Project Linus.

trupeach

What if you would make something and then raffle it off at church with the money going to a good cause saying she donated the fabric?

amma

I would think that a thank you would be sufficient, if you want to make her a small thank you gift, that is fine too. There is no need to keep making her something, she is giving you a gift, if it was a birthday/holiday gift you say thank you very much for the gift or send a thank you card...and that is perfectly acceptable. :wink:

OHSue

Maybe she keeps giving you more stash because you keep giving her gifts. That is what I would probably do.

If she says it is a gift, then take it as that, be gracious and let her know how much you appreciate it just by telling her.

You say you are a pastors wife, you can respect the desire to just be charitable and I suspect you would do the same for someone else if you could. You likely give to folks in other ways without expecting anything in return. Put her in your prayers, what better gift to give.

seww

I'd graciously accept the gift. Pass it onto someone in need if you can't use the item and have the giver over for dinner as a thank you!
Sue

TX_Cutie

I agree with MommaB's post.

A simple thank you note with a pretty sticket is more than adequate.

patty48

I really like this suggestion.

Minda

I think a nice heart-felt thank you note is appropriated for an unsolicited gift. Sometimes people give just because they want to, without expecting or wanting anything in return. :-)

BlueChicken

I agree with the others... I don't think a thank you gift every single time is required. Something a bit "bigger" for christmas would be a good idea, or for her birthday, to say one big thank you, would be easier and entirely appropriate.