am not going to make anymore for family
#191
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Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Texas
Posts: 2,281
Originally Posted by jaciqltznok
In my family if you don't like homemade you do without!
I do goat milk soaps, grow my own lavender to make oatmeal milk bath, sachets, candles, soaps, etc...I blend my own all natural potpourri, I blend teas, and spice rubs, make mustard, all natural apple sauce and butter, etc....so they get home made and home grown.....
I do goat milk soaps, grow my own lavender to make oatmeal milk bath, sachets, candles, soaps, etc...I blend my own all natural potpourri, I blend teas, and spice rubs, make mustard, all natural apple sauce and butter, etc....so they get home made and home grown.....
#192
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Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: So. CA
Posts: 1,867
I usually ask somebody if they would like a quilt. If they don't respond with an immediate "Sure!" then I don't ask a second time. That goes with anything I hand make. Too much effort and time goes into hand-made items for them not to be appreciated. Save those gifts for the ones that truly appreciate them. For the others, I agree that a gift card is fine.
#193
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Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: Once an Iowan, always an Iowan, but now suburban Chicagoland
Posts: 508
Originally Posted by Alondra
Idea for next year: give all the ingrates a pretty card with a note explaining that you have donated a quilt to a child in the pediatric ward at your local hospital in their name. If they don't like that, they won't dare say so, because it would make them look like the Grinch. Then don't forget to take a tax deduction for the donation. <G> Double revenge. Ooooh, I'm so bad!
#195
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Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: North East Wyoming
Posts: 180
Would you please adopt me? No one ever makes anything for me, while I contiually make gifts for friends and family. But I must say, everyone who gets a hand made gift thanks me and does seem to appreciate it.
Just be selective when choosing who will get your gifts.
Love and many hugs.
Judy
Just be selective when choosing who will get your gifts.
Love and many hugs.
Judy
#196
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Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: So Cal
Posts: 576
This has happened to me too. Fortunately my granddaughter lover her quilt. Years ago, I made a beautiful Christmas tree skirt for my daughter and her family. I put a lot of work into it. Later, I saw one of the grandkids wearing it around her neck and playing with it. My daughter told me that she had changed her holiday decorating colors and it didn't fit in. At the time, I was hurt. But, I asked if I could have it back. So now I just lover having it around my gree and with perspective, I understand her feelings. She is her own person and she does like homemade, but she has her own home and her own ideas. I have had to learn to respect that. I should have learned it earlier instead of assuming what I liked, she would like. I also realize that if someone gives me something green or blue that is homemade, I will love it, but if I get something in Autumn colors, I am just going to use it. Everyone is different. This year I made 10 Christmas aprons for those I knew would like them. 3 other loved ones would never have worn them and they got store bought items. All seemed happy.
#198
Been there and am really slow to make much of anything for my family any longer. Christmas has lost all meaning for me as far as sharing gifts, so I don't do much any longer. I would love one of your purses, but then I'm an old lady who likes it when someone makes me something even if I could do it myself. Someday they will be in your shoes and then how will they feel. Gift cards next year and make something special for yourself and for those who do appreciate your work efforts.
#199
Wow, that's terrible. But your story just made me think. I bought a quilted purse at the flea market and just love it. Everyone thought it was so cute. Sooooooo, I made my DD one and my DIL one a couple yrs. ago. And you know what? I just realized I have never seen either one using thiers. Boy, am I naive?
#200
I am SO sorry. I know how hurt you are. I have been in your shoes. I know what kind of time goes into even the simplest things. There have been many years that I couldn't afford to "purchase" and gifts so I made them. I thought everyone had enjoyed my homemade gifts until recently, well about 3 years ago. Two of my three sisters thought I was "cheap" because I made them gifts. I also found out that both of my sister in laws never liked them either. None of them have ever received any of my quilts though. At the time I was making the beaded Christmas ornaments using the delicas. These would take me two weeks a piece to make. Oops, I'm sorry. Here I'm trying to make you feel better and I'm going on about my family. We all have someone in our lives that either don't know or don't care how much time and love we put into our homemade gifts.
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