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    Please do what pleases you. I think it is a great way to finish a quilt. I just need to learn to finish them. lol If you did the binding in the way your mother suggested it probably would not please her anyway. Quilting brings you joy so go for it.

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    I agree with everyone above. I have done it both ways and like the results of both. My binding will depend on the fabric I have on hand or IF I choose to buy special. Smile and say to yourself.... you do it your way, I will do it mine. Don't want to start anything with mom, she is already in a permanent bad mood it seems. Smile it is a beautiful day, somewhere. lol

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    My granddaughter says to me, "did you have fun making that? That's all that matters". Make it however you want, enjoy it, and change the tea to wine. :)

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    Thank you so much for the wonderful idea on how to bind a quilt. I'm still learning so much and I haven't actually finished a quilt yet because I have been afraid of the binding process. I love my quilt tops and haven't wanted to ruin them with a poorly done binding. Now that I have read your post, I can relax a little and move on in my quilting. Your cupcakes and hot chocolate sound quite tasty. :)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Airwick156
    I am doing binding on my quilt. There is enough of the backing fabric that I can just fold it over on all sides and hand sew it for the binding. My mother just called me and asked what I was doing and I told her that I was doing the binding on my quilt. And she proceeded to say "How are you doing it? You cheating and just folding it over or did you make real binding for it?" in just her normal mean voice she uses with me whenever she talks to me. I told her I just folded it over, no need to waste the fabric when its already there. And I can't afford to buy the extra fabric. So I use what I am able to use. I see no problem with this but she sure does and definitely makes me will aware of that fact.
    When I make a quilt, I complete the whole thing before I go onto the next one. I do have a few quilt tops, mostly lap quilts that I have not gotten the backing on. Now she has probably a hundred if not more Tops that will never get done as she only likes to make the tops. But yet she complains and tells me how to do my quilts. Most of the time I can remind myself to just "rise above it" and "this too shall pass" attitude, but this time it seems to have really upset me. Because not only did she say that she also told me that I was wasting all my time making quilts since I don't have the money to get them machine quilted. I tie all of them, but one day, I am going to be able to get one machine quilted. I don't think I am wasting my time not at all. I enjoy making them even though I am not very good at it, but I am learning maybe slowly but I am learning. Okay...that said..."this too shall pass" finally kicked in and now I'm waiting for "Rise above it". Maybe if I fix me a cup of hot tea that will help. LOL :) Thanks for letting me vent.
    I do nearly all my charity quilts by wrapping the backing to the front for binding and machine stitching it down. I like the look and ease of it. Your mother has never stopped being your mother; she needs to become your friend now that you are both adults. I like to think that my daughter is my friend and I can ask her opinions of things or give her my opinions of things without it becoming an argument. Some people can never get beyond being miserable and making others miserable. Take a deep breath, and just do things that make YOU happy and don't worry about her. She will never change.

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    Almost every quilt I have come across in yard sales in GA were done this way. Even the ones that were quilted. Time honored tradition. And if you are happy with the outcome that is all that matters.
    She gets her's machine quilted. Horrors!!! doesn't she know that the only Proper way to finish a quilt is hand quilted. She better get busy. lol

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    I do it that way too at times. It depends on how much fabric I have left around the edges. You can make your quilt anyway you want to.

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    What you are doing is called hemming. That's the way the older quilters always bound their quilts.

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    thanks#1peacemaker! I didn't know that

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    are we sisters? lol! I'm just glad my mother doesn't quilt! I've done a couple that way and see no problem with it.

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    So sorry to hear your mom is so critical. She must be unhappy with her life. My mom was always complaining too. But I miss her. Often they are speaking to themselves instead of us. Does she have a machine you 2 could drop the feed dogs and do machine quilting on to finish her quilts? Maybe she wants some time together. If not often I rent a machine at a local quilt shop and do my large quilts.

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    who makes the rules? enjoy your craft!

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    Airwick156 do we have the same mother?

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    You are doing everything correct. She is soooo wrong
    in her judgement of your way of doing things.
    When she starts to finish her quilts, she will realize that
    your way is really the smart way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Quilter7x
    Yes it's cheating but I've done it many times! :lol: I like to use a decorate stitch on the front rather than stitching it down by hand because it secures all the edges together. Go for it!
    Why is it cheating? No material is wasted. For years people have been resourceful in "making-do" because of what-evers. I myself can not afford to purchase everything needed so I make do. Are we getting too too picky and forgetting we each live a different way of life style? Sorry I think I got on a soap box but this I find a bit snobbish.

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    Bless your heart! Don't let it get you down. A tied quilt is a quilt. I have a friend that hand quilts and ties quilts. She won a blue rilbbon on a tied quilt at last year fair! I bind my quilts any way that I feel like! Rules for quilting are not set in concrete!

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    your mother sounds like the ladies from my local "quilting group" who were snobby and didnt want to let a beginner in their elite group. Im am self teaching myself quilting and thanks to these ladies(and gentlemen) Im learning more every day..:)
    Quote Originally Posted by Airwick156
    I am doing binding on my quilt. There is enough of the backing fabric that I can just fold it over on all sides and hand sew it for the binding. My mother just called me and asked what I was doing and I told her that I was doing the binding on my quilt. And she proceeded to say "How are you doing it? You cheating and just folding it over or did you make real binding for it?" in just her normal mean voice she uses with me whenever she talks to me. I told her I just folded it over, no need to waste the fabric when its already there. And I can't afford to buy the extra fabric. So I use what I am able to use. I see no problem with this but she sure does and definitely makes me will aware of that fact.
    When I make a quilt, I complete the whole thing before I go onto the next one. I do have a few quilt tops, mostly lap quilts that I have not gotten the backing on. Now she has probably a hundred if not more Tops that will never get done as she only likes to make the tops. But yet she complains and tells me how to do my quilts. Most of the time I can remind myself to just "rise above it" and "this too shall pass" attitude, but this time it seems to have really upset me. Because not only did she say that she also told me that I was wasting all my time making quilts since I don't have the money to get them machine quilted. I tie all of them, but one day, I am going to be able to get one machine quilted. I don't think I am wasting my time not at all. I enjoy making them even though I am not very good at it, but I am learning maybe slowly but I am learning. Okay...that said..."this too shall pass" finally kicked in and now I'm waiting for "Rise above it". Maybe if I fix me a cup of hot tea that will help. LOL :) Thanks for letting me vent.

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    God bless you and give you strength to hit the "rise above" button! I have folded over for binding. They look fine. Keep on keeping on girl.

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    Saying a prayer for your mother to be more considerate and helpful. You can do your quilt anyway you like. I have done them that way and used the machine to do some of them to make sure the stitches held. God bless you.

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    Just calmly say "yes, Mother". Any time and anything, just say "yes, Mother". If it comes back, don't be a snot--"yes Mother. Its hard to argue etc with someone who is agreeing with them. Hopefully eventually she will get the message. Ignore her criticisms and do it your way. Be the bigger person and just ignore what she complains about, many people still tie their quilts. Bringing backing over to the front is a perfectly acceptable way to finish. Besides they are your quilts, and I suspect she may be jealous because yours are actually better than hers. Just hang in there, be positive and ignore the complaints. I suspect she senses she is loosing power over you and resents that.

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    Do it all the time. It makes a nice lead in to a pretty backing. I especially do it for charity quilts as it takes less time so I can start another quilt! Sometime try using your domestic machiune to stitch in the ditch around blocks--it holds it all together well and it is quilting.

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    Please do not let your Mother make you feel bad. There are no rules to quilting, except "enjoy the process"!

    My Mother was just like your Mother. She constantly found fault with most everything I did. She wasn't happy until she was making me miserable. For my own piece of mind, and that of my husband and daughters, I had to limit my contact with her. You have to be your own person and be happy with yourself. If your mother can't be happy with you then she is missing out on a wonderful relationship. I know my mother did.

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    I have learned the hard way over the years that the people that put down others do so to feel better about themsevles because if they can put you down then they are better than you.
    I often fold my backing over just because it is quick and easy. When I learned to quilt my granny taught me to tie. I did that a long time before I learned to machine quilt. You just keep enjoying yourself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by shawnemily
    There are no rules! It is your creation and you can make it any way you want!
    EXACTLY!

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    Your mother sounds like my mother, never a conversation that she did not make a mean comment about me. She is NOT the quilt police. Enjoy your work! We don't all make our quilts the same way or for quilt shows only ! They are made to be used and loved. Diane C.

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