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    When I first learned to quilt, that was the method taught to me. Back then, I thought that was the only way to do it. Wise decision you made since you had plenty of leftover around each edge.

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    You are not cheating, it's a good way to do a binding. I am new at quilting but mother did it that way all the time. Mother can be critical at times but enjoy them while they're still around. You'll get through this.

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    I'm so sorry, you have to deal with that. You are not cheating, if you are happy, nothing else matters. If anyones cheating, it's your mother! Cheating herself out of having a wonderful relationship with her daughter. Definately her lose!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Airwick156
    I am doing binding on my quilt. There is enough of the backing fabric that I can just fold it over on all sides and hand sew it for the binding. My mother just called me and asked what I was doing and I told her that I was doing the binding on my quilt. And she proceeded to say "How are you doing it? You cheating and just folding it over or did you make real binding for it?" in just her normal mean voice she uses with me whenever she talks to me. I told her I just folded it over, no need to waste the fabric when its already there. And I can't afford to buy the extra fabric. So I use what I am able to use. I see no problem with this but she sure does and definitely makes me will aware of that fact.
    When I make a quilt, I complete the whole thing before I go onto the next one. I do have a few quilt tops, mostly lap quilts that I have not gotten the backing on. Now she has probably a hundred if not more Tops that will never get done as she only likes to make the tops. But yet she complains and tells me how to do my quilts. Most of the time I can remind myself to just "rise above it" and "this too shall pass" attitude, but this time it seems to have really upset me. Because not only did she say that she also told me that I was wasting all my time making quilts since I don't have the money to get them machine quilted. I tie all of them, but one day, I am going to be able to get one machine quilted. I don't think I am wasting my time not at all. I enjoy making them even though I am not very good at it, but I am learning maybe slowly but I am learning. Okay...that said..."this too shall pass" finally kicked in and now I'm waiting for "Rise above it". Maybe if I fix me a cup of hot tea that will help. LOL :) Thanks for letting me vent.

    Let's just say "the quality control board" has spoken and if your critic has any more slamming comments just send her to us! This is how all the older quilts were made until someone came up with the idea of making an add on binding. You are doing your quilt in "the original fashion." Next time anyone starts wth their critical crap tell them there is this great quilting board and they can ask us if their way is right or not !!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Janice Thompson
    After a time, depending how much use, you may have to replace the binding as one thickness has a tendency to wear. If you need to tie...so be it. You could hand quilt and the quilt would be more valuable.
    This is True, But if you have enough to fold it double, get it as close to the raw edge as possible wouldn't that be the same as a double fold. I am doing a quilt now.. got it sandwiched and baisted together. Gonna STID on blocks,stipple the flowers using freemotion. Haven't marked the borders yet but gonna put Ivy vines on them.. The back is large enough to use as binding soooo as I stated folding double wouldn't that be the same as the double fold??? it would be a double thickness.
    I do my own quilting on my domestic Kenmore, if it is a large quilt takes some doing but I have always managed. :-D BillsBonBon

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    Quilting rules are not etched in stone. You are not cheating, do it your way. Some folks just can't stand to see someone happy and making something different than "their" way. Had an aunt like that, no matter what I did there was something wrong with the method. I lost my mom very early, but I don't recall her ever criticizing my efforts.

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    It's a shame that you and your mother both quilt, but can't share the joy in that with each other. It sounds like she is jealous or threatened with your enjoyment of your quilting and is trying to squeeze fun out of it for you. Don't let her make you feel bad. Find some quilting friends who are NOT competitive or judgemental and talk 'quilting' with them, instead!

    Also, you might want to try machine quilting one on your sewing machine. You do not have to have a longarm, nor send your quilts to a professional to be quilted. I certainly don't. I'd feel like the quilt was only half mine if I didn't do all of it myself.

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    I use the fold over method and a zig zag sewing machine stitch for those quilts I make for young people. The quilts are better able to last through thick and thin.

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    Ask her when she was hired on as a member of the Quilt Police!LOL I bind my quilts with the backing all the time. It was how I was taught to do it. The only reason I ever use anything else is if I am running low on fabric.

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    I have some quilts made by my great-grandmother and that it the kind of binding she did. I do the fold over kind sometimes too unless I want a contrasting color. The only advice I might have is that if you have enough extra of the backing fabric, fold it to double the thickness. Then it's just like if you were doing the add on binding! On another note...my grandmother was negative and critical like your mother...I just stayed away from her and her negative energy. And as several others have mentioned...she must be very insecure and unhappy herself to feel the need to treat others that way. Be happy, enjoy your hobby and be confident in whatever you make!

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    There isn't a wrong way if it's right for you.

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    I love tied quilts! They speak of great love and home. Don't let anyone discourage you from how you're doing your quilts. I think its very smart and frugal of you to use the backing for your binding also.

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    Just let it go in one ear & out the other! There are enough "quilt police" out there to populated their own country! Bottomline: they didn't work on your quilt & have no say in how you finish it! Not only is using the backing to bind it economical, lots of quilters actually prefer this method -- it's much quicker than fussing w/ bias binding! One of the quilters in my group likes to leave enough to "double it back" (fold in half to the inside before wrapping over the quilt edge), making the binding even stronger than a normal-thickness of binding would be. Often the wrapped edge is tighter & more secure. Enjoy your quilt!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by sushi
    I bet your mother envies your ability to finish what you start. In time you will rise above her snide remarks,
    I agree...

    My guess is that she is a perfectionist who can't seem to get over it and finish her projects. It can be a problem. Don't let it get you down. I have one lady who has given me a lot of baby quilts to give away that have been finished this way exactly and they are LOVED and admired, and even "coveted". Don't give it another thought.

    But if you can, avoid talking to your mom about your quilts.

    But I have a feeling she is probably like this about a lot of things you do. :(....just because that's the way she is.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Airwick156
    "this too shall pass" finally kicked in and now I'm waiting for "Rise above it". Maybe if I fix me a cup of hot tea that will help. LOL :) Thanks for letting me vent.
    Throw a little chocolate into that tea, and the next time you hear those cutting comments reply that you are using a traditional method on a traditional craft, all perfectly legit.

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    OMG if my mom did that to me, the conversation would have been:
    Mom: What are you doing?
    Me: Oh, just binding my quilt.
    Mom: Oh, really, how are you binding it?
    Me: Nunya.
    Mom: Nonya, are you cheating and folding it over?
    Me: Nunyabizness.

    Kidding, I would have never smarted off to my mom. But my DAD is like that... I made a quilt for my nephew two years ago. I couldn't attend the wedding due to funds (out of town) so he came to get it to deliver it for us. He was all huffy because I had just a little more stitching to do. I made him wait his impatient little tookis until I was done, and wrapped it all pretty.

    During all this, he was making sarcastic remarks (you know, they had a registry at Target & Kohls, and they were asking for blenders and yadda yadda...) I smarted off and said "Well, no one will be giving them the same gift as us, this is a box of love". He gave me a disapproving look.

    Needless to say, the back fabric on that wedding quilt was turned over for the binding. My new neice (bride) made sure to call me when they arrived back down in Florida that this quilt was her FAVE gift from all they were given, as Nick liked to turn the air conditioning on high, and without it she would have frozen on the drive from Indy to Miami. She LOVES it. so pishaw to your mom. Do your quilts the way that make you happy. Its none of her business, she sounds like a control freak.

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    I have never thought of doing it this way. Being self taught and getting tips from quilters when I hit a snag, I was only taught how to do the binding with a seperate piece. I agree with others when they said that it will wear faster, however if you have enough to make it double then I don't see how that won't make it last just as long as the other way. I have tied a couple of quilts myself and they have come out very nice.
    If quilting and sewing is our hobby, then we deserve to do it in a way that is pleasing to us.

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    Remember there are NO QUILT POLICE. Maybe she feels inadequit herself that is why she is so critical of you. She does not even finish her quilts. So how does she know?

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    I agree with Lovequilts ... do it your own way. Your binding is a traditional method for binding, as is tying quilts. One of my most treasured family quilts made a long time ago is tied. Love and enjoy every quilt you make. The relationship between moms and daughters can sometimes be difficult. Accept that your mom is going to be critical of you, but don't let her comments keep you from enjoying your craft. Blessings.

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    Was your mother always this crabby?

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    You do what makes you happy. Quilting is a relaxing hobby so do what you feel works for you.

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    My granny was a wonderful quilter. She NEVER used binding...bought or made..she always turned the backing over and tacked it down. I love your attitude..wish mine was more like yours. I say do whatever makes you happy. I hand quilt but that's what I like to do. I have a short arm quilting machine...wish I had a Long arm but just can't afford it....but even if I had one I still like to hand quilt. Maybe you can practice machine quilting on your sewing machine???? Just a thought if that's what you want. I know it's pretty expense to have one quilted in a shop. Just hang in there and keep your spirit up!!!!

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    Deanna,

    I don't think you are cheating at all. I totally agree with you, why waste fabric and then also create more work for you. I think quilting can be done in so many ways-no right or wrong. I wouldn't bother telling her what I was working on anymore if that is the response that I got. Let it be YOUR hobby and don't let anyone tell you how you are doing it wrong.

    I can't wait to see pictures of what you have created. I am not perfect in any way of quilting. I enjoy it & know that I get better at it as I go. =)

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    My sister taught me to do this type of binding and I, can't see watsting material thats already there

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    I do most of my charity quilts that way!

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