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Old 12-29-2011, 02:37 PM
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For Christmas I was planning to have a king size quilt completed for my in-laws. This year was crazy (which they would understand why I was so busy) and I was unable to have the quilt completed. So I wrapped up the quilt top and stated I would take it back and get it quilted and returned in January. The only response the quilt top go was "It's nice". This makes is very hard for me to want to finish the quilt for them as I spent so much time and effort to make them this gift. Has this happened to others? How do you get over the lack of reaction to gifts that you spend so much time on?
So many times we make things for people we think they will enjoy, they sometimes don't. I hate to give a quilt to somebody and they never use it. They say, " we put it away so nothing will happen to it", and it stays there. I like to give things to the people like my former pastor, who says to me. "my quilt you made me 10 years ago, needs repairing again. I sleep under it every night." It makes you want to take the quilt top back, and keep it, and wait and see if they ever ask you about it again. I have learned to only make quilts for the people I know will appreciate them. A lot of people will let you know if they like quilts by just seeing the ones you have made. My grand-daughter has certain things that I make that she likes, other things she lets me know not to make her one. So maybe when the quilt is done your in-laws will appreciate it.
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Old 12-29-2011, 02:43 PM
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Originally Posted by smm06 View Post
For Christmas I was planning to have a king size quilt completed for my in-laws. This year was crazy (which they would understand why I was so busy) and I was unable to have the quilt completed. So I wrapped up the quilt top and stated I would take it back and get it quilted and returned in January. The only response the quilt top go was "It's nice". This makes is very hard for me to want to finish the quilt for them as I spent so much time and effort to make them this gift. Has this happened to others? How do you get over the lack of reaction to gifts that you spend so much time on?
Maybe they didn't know what to say, because there was still work to be done on it. They may be saving their kind comments until the quilt is finished. Give them the benefit of the doubt for now.
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Old 12-29-2011, 03:02 PM
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Send it to me!!! I would treasure it....lol...anyway..finish the quilt...the top alone may have taken them by surprise...
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Old 12-29-2011, 03:18 PM
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Some folks' reactions are just plain flat. Others have no idea of the time, expense and love gone into making a quilt. If you or anyone else) are at all interested, I have a wonderful article I could snail mail you addressing this and similar scenarios. Just PM me.
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Old 12-29-2011, 03:52 PM
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Here are pictures of the quilt. I still have to add a 2" pieced square border, 2" brown border, and 4" green border. Then planned to send out for quilting.

The colors are colors that match with their house and decor, which my husband picked out for them. Also, I made a smaller verison of this quilt as a throw that they told me they really liked the pattern, so I guess I didn't think twice about them not liking the design.

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The reason I could not have it completed before Christmas was that we moved twice this past year. The second time just before Thanksgiving. During the moves, most of my quilting stuff was packed in storage, which they helped move.

I can honestly say I wasn't hoping for jumping up and down or any kind of praise. I think mostly I was just looking for a smile (which by the way I didn't get).
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Old 12-29-2011, 04:00 PM
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Originally Posted by smm06 View Post

The colors are colors that match with their house and decor, which my husband picked out for them. Also, I made a smaller verison of this quilt as a throw that they told me they really liked the pattern, so I guess I didn't think twice about them not liking the design.

I can honestly say I wasn't hoping for jumping up and down or any kind of praise. I think mostly I was just looking for a smile (which by the way I didn't get).
I think it's beautiful!! I love it!
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Old 12-29-2011, 04:02 PM
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Oh it's lovely! Finish it for 'em & know that you tried your best. You picked out their colors & a pattern so maybe it was a bad day for 'em or too overwhelming. If they still don't react well then you'll know not to ever make 'em anything else.
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This situation is presented here every few weeks - we have to start reading the posts here ladies :>) Inquire ahead of time if the person would like a quilt; don't expect everyone to be thrilled by your considerable talents; if you require a lot of mushy thank-yous, perhaps you should make quilts "by requests only". Remember ladies, unless you're dealing with another quilter - most women think they can pickup a similar one at Walmart for about $20.00.
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Old 12-29-2011, 04:56 PM
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I think that most people who do not quilt just do not realize the time, effort aqnd expense involved in such a gift. Then there are others who just dont like quilts believe it or not! If it was mine I would still finish it but NEVER send another time intensive and work intensive gift, instead send a gift card for someplace you know they shop. It is a lovely quilt, too bad they werent more vocal.
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Old 12-29-2011, 05:23 PM
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I would perhaps include a note with this beautiful quilt saying that you will provide a financial statement so that they can have it insured for the proper amount since it is beyond the amount covered by a typical homeowner's policy. Most people do not realize that a quilt of that quality is worth way more than $500. Perhaps then they might like it a lot more.

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