"Just let me get my magic wand..."
#101
QuiltnLady1, you didn't need a magic wand for that "friend", you needed a broomstick to bop her over the head with, then to give her to fly away on!!! For the garage floor!! Just imagine!!!
#102
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Location: MN
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Great thread!! I LOVE Cathy Miller -- her songs always make me smile. My story -- I was asked by a friend a couple of years ago to make a twin quilt -- I asked who it was for what it should look like, etc. I she had some specifics in colors, fabrics, etc, then told me it had to be heavily quilted because it was to replace the quilt her son used on the garage floor when he was working on his car -- the one he had from Walmart wore out too fast. Needless to say, I said I would not make the quilt -- she was not happy.
#104
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Join Date: May 2011
Location: Pacific NW
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This annoys me too, although I don't see automobile repair as being equvilent to craftwork. However, "traditionally male" handmade items do seem to have a higher value placed upon them than "traditionally female" handmade items. Handmade furniture vs. handmade quilts. A hand-carved wooden bowl vs. a hand-knitted sweater. My husband made a set of artistic speakers and sold them for $1200, and the buyer thought it was an awesome deal. I spent roughly the same amount of time and money on an award-winning quilt, do you think I could get anyone to pay $1200 for it???
#105
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Location: North East Lower peninsula of Michigan
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I have a store bought quilt in my camper well I got It for free but no way would I make anything other than a scrappy quilt for the camper
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#106
Last Fall I had a lunch with a GF, I had driven to her small town about 30 min. from me. Thought I'd stop at he local shop for a yard of flannel. This friend went on to buy over $100 for a pattern and fabric, I am being confused she is a non-quilter... on the way back to the car she announces we could quilt for an hour on Wednesday's at her house. I thought my head was going to fall off my shoulders. When I claimed "no we would do this at my house, it was just wasn't worth it for me to spend 30 min. packing my car, the 30 min. drive for an hour of sewing.
She now wants to gift me the the goods.
She now wants to gift me the the goods.
#107
#108
GOOD for him. He knows the value of labor and materials.
#109
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Join Date: Jan 2016
Location: West Bend, WI
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I made an oversized queen bargello quilt for my daughter and then soon-to-be son-in-law. It was incredibly time consuming and fairly expensive (for me at least). I probably had $250-$300 in materials alone and then I had paid someone $200 to finish the quilting on it. My friend, who doesn't sew or do any crafts says to me "Oh I want one, would you make me one?". I said....well....I guess but you'd have to pay for the materials and quilting. When I told her what it would cost....AT COST.....she just said...well I thought we were friends and you'd just give it to me, besides, you can get a quilt at Walmart for much less. OKAY.......so.....go buy one at Walmart. And I dare you to buy one that looks like mine WTH? lol
#110
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Join Date: Jun 2014
Location: Farmington Hills, Michigan
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I don't tell people what it costs...i tell them how many HOURS it takes to make a quilt, a purse, whatever. Esp if quoting a price for one. I don't sew for others. I just smile at the them.
One problem that we read ver and over is that a lot of the ladies do not comunicate the COSTS associated with making a quilt. Time and costs. Speak up! Never take on a request without discussing the total costs and timeline and put it on paper. Get signatures agreeing to the terms. Collect the material costs upfront. A lot of getting cheated is the fault of the quilter...not the " customer". Don't try to be "in business" if you are unable to properly quote the request.
"No" is a powerful word...use it!
Sandy
One problem that we read ver and over is that a lot of the ladies do not comunicate the COSTS associated with making a quilt. Time and costs. Speak up! Never take on a request without discussing the total costs and timeline and put it on paper. Get signatures agreeing to the terms. Collect the material costs upfront. A lot of getting cheated is the fault of the quilter...not the " customer". Don't try to be "in business" if you are unable to properly quote the request.
"No" is a powerful word...use it!
Sandy
Back in the 80's I made most of my clothes, including some things like tailored slacks. I was a single mom at the time, so when a lady at church approached me and asked if I could make a dress for her, all I saw was an opportunity to make some money and never thought to ask several important questions. I didn't think to ask what kind of fabric it was or what type of pattern, and told her I would do it for $20.00. STUPID ME STUPID ME STUPID ME!!! NO WONDER her eyes lit up like a Christmas tree when I gave her the price - she handed me a bag with six yards of slinky, slide-y silk charmeuse and a pattern for a dress with a full circle skirt on it!
I didn't have the guts back then to say, "I'm sorry...I'll have to re-think that price and timeline..." and went ahead and made it. It took me weeks longer than I originally thought it would, but every time I called her to tell her it was taking longer, she just happily said, "That's fine!" UGH! She knew she was taking advantage of my ignorance, plus she'd seen my work and knew that I would do a good job regardless...
That dress was a nightmare - I had to do French seams on almost the entire dress, plus it needed tons of handwork. It turned out beautiful though and she very happily handed me a twenty dollar bill when it was finished. Didn't even seem ashamed of herself.
After that I did one more dress for a little girl at church. I charged a more realistic price, but the mom picked a pattern that had miles and miles of ruffles and gathers. What a headache! After that I decided that I would NEVER sew for money again! Took all the fun out of it.
Now I only make quilts for people that I love, and I make them as gifts, on my own timeline. I don't do mending either, and like many of you, I have a seamstress that I take my mending and alterations to. I don't have a problem telling people "No" any more. Life's too short to put up with that aggravation.
The problem that I have now is with my best friend - we've been besties for around 25 years and I love her dearly...can't imagine life without her. I've been working on an Irish Chain quilt for her and I'm looking forward to hand quilting it (never done that before.)
She's a very loving, giving person, but she does a lot of guilt and has a hard time receiving things from others. She's thrilled that I'm making her the quilt but she kept trying to pay me for it until out of frustration one day I said,"NANCY! If you try to pay me one more time for this GIFT that I'm so lovingly and willingly making for you, I'm gonna burn the damn thing! OK?!"
She looked a bit shocked and then we both started laughing. Then she said, "You're right...I've got to stop doing that. THANK YOU...I'm going to cherish this quilt!"
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