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    It's a bit disheartening when the receiver doesn't "get" it---or their enthusiasm is less than underwhelming. I have a friend who offered me $10 for a lap quilt I made---I told her that wouldn't cover my time let alone the fabric! However, many of my family members and friends have received quilts from me and are not only more than appreciative, they vy to see who gets one next!

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    No, you're not nuts, but people grieve in different ways. I can top that one--when my FIL died, they waited a few extra days to bury him until it was his birthday and then all eleven kids signed a birthday card and put it in the casket to be buried with him. Did I mention also that the children dug the grave by hand and then once pops was in the ground, placed his beloved deceased dog on top of the casket? Yes, they dug the dog up to place it with him and threw a 6 pack of beer in too, before filling in the grave. Then the coolers of beer and the hard liquor hidden behind the next headstone came out and they started drinking! I have never, in my entire life, seen such a scene!
    I would take it as a compliment that she was buried with the quilt. She obviously loved it; it gave her great pleasure and comfort. She must have reflected the joy of the quilt to others also, and I would bet that when others saw it in the casket, they recognized it as having great meaning to her.
    Sometimes the homemade, personal items give the family pain until they can accept the death, too, so maybe this was their way of not having to deal with the pain of seeing it as they weren't ready.
    Quote Originally Posted by quiltinNsmilin
    I live in Florida and most of my family is RI and MA. It's sad that there are a lot of people who don't appreciate the love, the thought, the time and the money it costs to make such a unique
    gift. I always think of my lap quilts as long-distance hugs. Several years ago my SIL's mother was quite ill. I made her a lap quilt.
    The 24 squares had all different machine embroidered 4 inch butterflies and the quilt was latticed, bordered & backed with a gorgeous butterfly fabric. Georgie, the Mom absolutely loved. My
    SIL called me after Georgie died to say she put the quilt in the coffin with her Mom. I have to say that totally freaked me out. Perhaps I should have seen it as a supreme compliment, but I thought it was weird. Why not keep it as a nice memory? Am I nuts?

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    I think it's a great idea to give someone a nice gift and yet test them out for future quilty gifts. I know that if someone, friend or family, took the time to make me something I would make sure to use it, display it, and treat it like it was the Hope diamond. If your cherish your family and friends, and they give you something from the heart, you should love them and the gift. One day it may be all you have of them to remember them by and how they loved you enough to take the time to do something special. I cherish every hand painted, cross stitched ornament my BFF Anna gave me, and all her other gifts as well no matter how much they cost or how well made they were, she did them with love and now that she is gone way to early from my life I remember her, her love and the good times every time I see them. I have been lucky enough to find another BFF and she quilts, I have made her several things, including a quilt. She has raved over them, showed them to everyone, put them in a small county fair for display and tells me how soft and lovely my quilt is getting. There are those that will appreciate your lovely gift and it's good to know who to give them to, so your thread is wonderful, a gift to us!

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    I made a quilt for my niece and we were suppose to meet...that didn't work out with the arrangments they 1st made...I still have the quilt here over 1 year later...guess it was not important to them.
    I made a quilt for my son and he called crying as he was so happy...he is 42!! And it is on their bed and matches nothing in the bedroom. The baby quilts I made for his kids...I said to use and abuse...they have enjoyed and all well loved.
    My other DIL...ugly story so we won't go there...ha ha!!
    I quilt to keep me happy but a little respect is not much to expect for my kindness!

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    Lets just hope that nurse finally felt appreciated. Sometimes they work there legs off and ,unknowingly, you may have made her day. Look at it on the positive side. I do agree that everyone does not appreciate the work and if you have it quilted on a long -arm it certainly isn't cheap. I don't care what it costs if it is for a loving grandchild who is old enough to appreciate it. So far I have only given quilts to my children and grandchildren. I finally made one for ME! My first quilt that I have kept.

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    When my two adult sons died ( 2 1/2 yrs apart) their wives gave me their shirts. When I finally could cut into those shirts, I made a quilt for each of their children (3 in total) and did a very memorable label for each of them, regarding their dad. The eight year old really seemed to appreciate it at that time, but now I don't think she even knows where it is (she's 21 now) (I have stored it at my house, and she doesn't even know where it is.) The other two (ages 4 & 6) were too small to appreciate, I know. But, I don't think mom has reminded them about them at all.....put up out of sight.....they are now teenagers. My heart still breaks in more ways than one!! I hope I have enough time when I find out I'm about to die, that I can give my quilts away to people who will appreciate them.....some people will NOT get one. LOL

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    You are so right. A friend of mine is pregnant with her first child and I planned to make a quilt for her. She is very much like a daughter to me. She loves animals and works in animal rescue so I painstakingly looked for bright dog prints (without much luck) and finally found some really cute fabrics with paw prints, bones and the like. Got right to work on it...a rail fence pattern...worked like a dog (yeah, pun intended). Showed it to friends and they loved it. Top is all pieced and I got cute flannel for the backing with dogs on it. I was sooo excited I wanted to show it to her but then I wouldn't have had "the perfect shower gift." Much to my astonishment, when I showed her the pattern she scrunched up her face and told me it was ugly and too busy. She then proceded to show me a panel quilt..no patchwork at all that she "just had to have." Ugh...nothing against panels but without at least a pieced border they just don't seem like real quilts. Thanks for letting me vent.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Beffy_Boo
    You are so right. A friend of mine is pregnant with her first child and I planned to make a quilt for her. She is very much like a daughter to me. She loves animals and works in animal rescue so I painstakingly looked for bright dog prints (without much luck) and finally found some really cute fabrics with paw prints, bones and the like. Got right to work on it...a rail fence pattern...worked like a dog (yeah, pun intended). Showed it to friends and they loved it. Top is all pieced and I got cute flannel for the backing with dogs on it. I was sooo excited I wanted to show it to her but then I wouldn't have had "the perfect shower gift." Much to my astonishment, when I showed her the pattern she scrunched up her face and told me it was ugly and too busy. She then proceded to show me a panel quilt..no patchwork at all that she "just had to have." Ugh...nothing against panels but without at least a pieced border they just don't seem like real quilts. Thanks for letting me vent.
    Good grief!!! These stories just keep getting more and more awful! I hope there are more people out there who like their gift quilts than don't like them. I feel so bad for you. 8-)

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    Love your "test" -- hard to believe that anyone could not appreciate such a thing of beauty as a "homemade" quilt...

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    Oh, we all have the stories and isn't that sad. I too have suffered the same ungrateful recipients. Almost feel as if you have to interview people before giving. lol

    Some of these stories here just break my heart.

    But any of you who want a REALLY GRATEFUL recipient, just send you beautiful works of art directly to me!!!!

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    I hear ya! My ex-in-laws were from New York, and none of the ever got it, or much handmade from me! Last year, I made all my family eyeglass cases with paper-pieced patchwork. If they understood the work, great! Most of them did, and if not, I'm not "out" a lot of time and effort. Most of my family either crafts or at least appreciates it! Luckily, all my kids know what crafting is all about, and appreciate it. Not sure about their spouses yet, though! They all (7 of 'em) work on making things for each other for Christmas. Pretty cool! I

    I would rather just buy something for someone who doesn't appreciate it, and save my efforts for someone who will.

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    Good idea!

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    This isn't about a quilt but a few years ago I went through great pains to paint a little wooden foot stool for my Dad. He is a very patriotic Canadian who used to fish and hunt so I painted a fishing creel with trilliums on it. The next time I went to the senior's home he had his urinal on it. I didn't say anything but I was very disappointed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Joyce
    WOW!
    I'll bet that nurse went home as happy as a clam.
    I know I sure would have.
    that's just what I was thinking.OMG I'll bet she was thrilled. And to even think you would put that amount of time into making a quilt for someone you did not know. (Charity quilts being the exception)

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    My youngest son has a quilt I made for him when he went to college and then added to when he graduated and got a Queen size bed. When I would go visit the corner was always turned down and you could see the label. I'd turn it back and then when we would come the next time it was turned down again. I asked him why he did that. And he said, "I don't want anyone to think it's just something I bought, but that is made just for me by you." That kinda makes up for the time when I made a quilt for my daughter and mailed it to her for her b'day and I had to ask if she liked it. Needless to say I'm making my son another quilt to replace the one that is getting a bit tattered now. I don't make bed quilts for my other sons who have wives that prefer their own style and would just use it to make me feel good. I've made them throws that are seasonal and they like those. (Probably because they don't have to look at them all year long)They loved the baby quilts I made but the effort that goes into a large bed quilt means I want the receiver to like it as much as I do making it for them. Some people just don't get quilts or care one way or another and then there are people like us who drools over a pretty quilt.

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    Quote Originally Posted by doxieloverred
    Quote Originally Posted by Joyce
    WOW!
    I'll bet that nurse went home as happy as a clam.
    I know I sure would have.
    If I had been the nurse, I would have said "how can you give this away, it's hand made!" I would have read the tag to the patient and made sure she knew who made it for her and told her it was too valuable for me to take, that she needed to take it home. After all, it was made for HER by a FRIEND. Then I would have offered to drop it off for her if she couldn't manage it that day. Guess I appreciate handmade items as I know the work that goes into it and to me it would have been like STEALING to accept it, especially since the chick didn't have a clue. Do I live in a small town area? Yes, but I'd like to think that even if I didn't, I'd do the same.
    Exactly what I would have done......and I'm a nurse. Never, never, never would I have accepted a gift like that. I would have made sure she left my floor with that quilt in her hands! But then she probably would have given it to the outpatient staff on her way out through. LOL

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    Quote Originally Posted by ruacajun2
    Quote Originally Posted by hobo2000
    You are so right. A very dear friend of mine was in the hospital so I took her one of my prettiest lap quilts. She seemed pleased and thanked me. Later when I visited her at home she was wrapped up in a rather dingy cheap blanket. I asked why she wasn't using the quilt and she said. That thing was too heavy for me to carry out of the hospital so I gave it to one of the nurses who helped me.
    I have never made another thing for her. She is still my dear friend but she just didn't get it. She later asked me where I had purchased it,(it had my label on it). I told her I had made it from scratch. She asked if I would make one for her to give to her husbands nurse. I explained they take me 6-8 weeks to make and I generally get $300.00 for that size. WHAAAT? Yes mam. She thought I had just picked it up somewhere on the way to the hospital because "it didn't look homemade"....Oh well, live and learn!
    WOW -- my mouth dropped reading this -- how sad - her loss just as well as yours too! I wouldn't make her something either. I feel just like you. :(
    I feel the same way.I made pj's for every one one Christmas an I found out short time ago that Sons Mother inlaw gave the ones I made her an DIL away an DIL wasn't happy about it cause she liked hers an wore them often.But I won't be making hermom any more things for her to give away.

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    I can relate to so many of these stories. I think, because of the way some of the quilts I've made for gifts for relatives have been received and used - makes me all the more fond of doing charity quilts. I don't know what happens to these quilts, but I enjoy each and every one I make and figure most of them are as well loved as some I have done for 'loved ones'.

    A rag quilt I finished and gave my son when he was first diagnosed with colon cancer and which he cuddled with a lot before he died was used by his spouse in the U-Haul when she moved. I would love to have seen that quilt put aside for one of my son's kids. But, I have learned that 'things' that have meaning for me don't necessarily have the same meaning to others in my family. So, I will continue to foster my love of quilting by doing the charity quilts!

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    I think you have a great idea, and I wished I had had it a few years ago. I made a baby quilt for every baby/toddler in my church and gave them to the moms. I could not believe the responses I got. One even refused it (she had sooo many blankets already, I should just "pass it on") I don't think that only one out of all the moms I gave one to ( I think I made about 10 or 12 quilts) was very greatful or overly happy to get a quilt from me. It taught me something-I'm not bitter or anything, but I am very careful now who I give anything to. Quilting is not a cheap hobby and if the gift isn't appreciated or used, it is a waste of money. ( I think)

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    What a great idea. Thank you

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    I didn't take it negatively cause I think most of us have had the "letdown" of making a quilt and not getting the reaction we expected. Personally, I like a lot of encouragement when I make a quilt for someone. It's heartbreaking to find out that the dog crate was lined with a quilt you made for a gkid. Been there, done that, not going back. Thanks for sharing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by stitchinwitch
    Face it people - there are quilters, and there are people who love quilts, but don't make them.............then there is everyone else - people that do not have a single clue about what goes into the making a quilt -oh, it's not just sewing some fabric together, it is the deciding, the planning, the feeling of the fabric, the pride we feel as everything comes together; so many steps as we beam that it is completely finished, maybe labeled, and perhaps a picture is taken of it - and then - the recipiant, with just their lack of enthusiasm, crushes us like a bug on the sidewalk. I have told this before, but a new neighbor asked me to make a quilt for her, I did, no pay, just to be neighborly, and when I saw it shortly after..YIKES - it was on her bed - IT HAD BEEN WASHED AND DRIED WITH TOWELS!!!!!I am still CRUSHED!!!
    are you serious? or pulling my leg? I thought quilts where made to be used on beds, where they nwill get dirty and need laundering. Am I looking at this wrong?

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    I like your idea and will remember it for future use. There is nothing more disappointing then to invest time, love and money in a project and then it isn't appreciated. Many times I make something I like for someone else and never get around to making one for myself -- when it's not appreciated I wish I would have made it for ME.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nana pat
    Quote Originally Posted by stitchinwitch
    Face it people - there are quilters, and there are people who love quilts, but don't make them.............then there is everyone else - people that do not have a single clue about what goes into the making a quilt -oh, it's not just sewing some fabric together, it is the deciding, the planning, the feeling of the fabric, the pride we feel as everything comes together; so many steps as we beam that it is completely finished, maybe labeled, and perhaps a picture is taken of it - and then - the recipiant, with just their lack of enthusiasm, crushes us like a bug on the sidewalk. I have told this before, but a new neighbor asked me to make a quilt for her, I did, no pay, just to be neighborly, and when I saw it shortly after..YIKES - it was on her bed - IT HAD BEEN WASHED AND DRIED WITH TOWELS!!!!!I am still CRUSHED!!!
    I want my quilts to be used but appreciated because generally when I am making a quilt I have a person in mind for it. My one daughter put my grand babies quilts away so they wouldn't get dirty and ruined, I made them to be used and be close to the baby and she used a quilt a neighbor had made . Mine were too pretty. So I now make my baby quilts to look useable, more comfy less pretty.

    are you serious? or pulling my leg? I thought quilts where made to be used on beds, where they nwill get dirty and need laundering. Am I looking at this wrong?

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    i would be so happy and appreciate if you made me a hankie..or what ever..just knowing that you thought of me would make me feel warm all over.....i would treasure it.....

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