what would you do if your daughter came home and said you ex is getting married and ?

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11-26-2011, 06:00 PM

#51

1000projects

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Extra scratchy cotton for the backing?!?

11-26-2011, 06:05 PM

#52

Opal Jane

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My decision would depend on a lot of things.

Age of my daughter, type of relationship I have with my ex, # of years divorced, type of help my daugter is asking for (hands on versus guidance).

In my case, I would not be helping my daughter (if I had one) in any way as my ex married my best friend.

11-26-2011, 06:06 PM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Scraps

I wouldn't think a bed size quilt would fly with the newbie :-)

Have to agree with this and a quilt is a huge expense both monetarily and in time. I'd help her to come up with another idea. Small wall hanging or table topper? It will break your daughter's heart when she finds out the new wife won't use something made by the ex.

11-26-2011, 06:34 PM

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Cybrarian

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I agree with focusing on the time & sharing your art and talent with her. Consider the product of your time together a charity quilt because it certainly is!

11-26-2011, 06:44 PM

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kacklebird

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If he is good to my daughter I probably would for her sake.

11-26-2011, 06:47 PM

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mamaw

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I agree with helping her. It is a gift she wants to give, and you will be doing the right thing for your daughter.

11-26-2011, 07:05 PM

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LindaDeeter

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Cherish the time you get to spend with her ... no matter what the circumstances, any time spent quilting with loved ones is time well spent!

11-26-2011, 07:14 PM

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Help your daughter and wish your ex the best. But then my ex and I are good friends.

11-26-2011, 07:40 PM

#59

JenelTX

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Before you respond to your daughter's request, you might want to have a gently worded conversation with her, to ask her how her father's soon-to-be second wife might feel about sleeping in a bed covered by a quilt her husband's first wife helped to make. When your daughter thinks of it from her future stepmom's point of view, I think she will also think of the situation from your point of view, but without you having to direct her attention to you. I am a second wife, and I hold no resentment toward my predecessor. However, I certainly wouldn't want a tangible reminder of her on my marriage bed.

Best of luck, whatever you decide. This is an emotional topic, I can tell, and I'm sorry that you're in pain.