beatys9

I try to avoid these questions, but if asked, I'll answer directly. Once when he finally noticed the 4th sewing machine (hey - it's a cover stitch so has a different function ), I had to confess that I had bought a new machine that he didn't know about but didn't want to tell him because of the money spent. He then confessed that he had bought a new set of golf clubs but didn't want to tell me... Just tell DH & move forward so you can enjoy your new tool.

BettyGee

I don't lie to my husband, this has served me well for 48 years; however, I don't volunteer information unless asked directly. In our financial world it is "our" money and I'm responsible for paying the bills, etc. So if I feel that an item will make me a better quilter and if we can afford it I buy it. My DH will never understand quilting needs; i.e. stash, and he never will. At this point I believe if I was in your position I'd find a good time and just tell him. If he is like my darling man he might be angry, but he loves you and he will eventually understand in his own way.

BuzzinBumble

Neesie's advice is different from the "confess all" advice you will usually get. But it is very practical advice and it puts your husband's feelings and your relationship at the forefront of your concern...So it is really good advice, as long as you don't fib or lie to him anymore.

I told a big lie to my husband once too. I told him the new cat was a stray, when in reality I lured it from the road side bushes and brought it home. That whopper bothered me for years. (And no... i am not a crazy cat lady )

michelehuston

Well, I will put my two cents in. I do believe that you may feel a little guilty, but unless we are in your shoes, not one of us can pass judgement. I completely understand where you are coming from and I completely understand why you lied to him! Sometimes in life its just life. Sometimes it keeps a little bit of peace! My ex-husband was a control freak. In order for me to have a new pair of shoes for myself or the kids I had to lie about the cost. I didn't like it either, but you do what you have to do!!!

misseva

Haven't read all the posts but this takes me back to 1950 something. I saw a singer portable Singer machine in the store window for $14.95 and I bought it. Scared to take it home so road the city bus to my sister-in-law's house, left it there and caught another bus and went home. Finally screwed up my courage to tell my hubby. He said I'd probably save more money on clothes than that. But remember - our entire weekly grocery bill was $10-12 so $14.95 was a lot of money. I think it had been a treadle converted to electric.

BizyStitches

Maybe he seemed disappointed because maybe he planned on getting you one for Mother's day.

MimiBug123

I don't think I would have lied in the first place, but I probably wouldn't have mentioned that I had a new toy in the first place. My hubby doesn't ask and I don't tell. He has his toys and I have mine. I think I would just let the whole issue die and not keep bringing it up. $29 isn't worth a big argument.

athenascooter

I husband's 85 year old grandmother wanted a picture for the living room and grandpa said one at target for 39.95 was good enough. I told her to a frame shop and she spent $450 for the picture and framing but told be to tell him it was 39.95 as they don't need to know everything. So I sometimes take her advise

djvaug

Once, I went against what my husband told me to do, and his predicted outcome was the result. Not only was he right, but if I had listened in the first place... Then, I went out of my way to fix it without him knowing... Horrible! Then, I lasted about a minute before I confessed what I had done. He...... laughed.

Respect him enough to tell him the truth. Sell the dumb thing on Ebay, and do it right the next time. You'll end up better off in the long run.

GramMER

Chasing Hawk wrote: Everyone is born right handed, only the gifted overcome it.
If the right side of the brain controls the left side of the body...then only left-handed people are in their right minds. -- Anonymous

I think you and I might be sisters. LOL

When I was a child, I was markedly ambidextrous but now I find myself being more and more left handed. I used to be so flexible, that I could use either hand without even thinking twice, but gradually the left hand took over. At age four (when my daddy was stationed at the San Diego, CA naval base), I was used as a demo for one of the colleges there because I what what is known as a mirror writer. I wrote from left to right but people could only read it in a mirror. My daddy and mother were both teachers by profession, so that is probably why the college knew about me.